Hi I Just Saw Ur Post About Moon And Venus Synastry In The 8th House. I Also Have A Venus 8th House And

Hi I just saw ur post about moon and Venus synastry in the 8th house. I also have a Venus 8th house and ur story feels so close to mine. But it was with my best friend and I was the narcissistic one. I feel unworthy and can’t find anyone else I could rly call my best friend. I have tried and it never works out. Do you ever feel like your love language is too much and overwhelming for others? Like I’m very self aware and spiritual as well and have improve this but others still seem bothered :/

Hi! While I dont give personal life advice but I dont think that narcissism goes away so easily. If you know that you're narcissistic then your love language is probably excessive admiration, words of praise and inflated ego. You're very self aware but let's dig down a little deeper. Narcissism develops in response to early childhood neglect, emotional abuse and undeveloped self.

I know quite a few narcissistic people who are self aware of their tactics and are also very religious. it just doesn't make any sense.

Astrologically, I know that aries placements especially Aries sun are narcissists!

I think you need to do more shadow work and bring more inner motivations to surface. You're full of anger, confusion, inferiority, powerlessness and insecurities. You have to realize that the only thing you have power over is your mind not other people. You dont own others and leading others will not fulfill you.

You probably need to lower your expectations and gain more self control. Not all of our desires are valid and relevant. Not all desires have to be fulfilled by others. I think that you're still seeing people in black and white. People have both good and evil parts in them. They might show their good side to some and evil side to others.

Analyze yourself. What do you talk about with others, what is your active imagination, what is your inner dialogue, what do you feel around others, how do you view yourself, do you have realistic expectations from life, do you live in fantasy world, do you expect perfection, do you seek utopia, do you want the world to be how you want, do you have FOMO, do you have an expressive relationship with your parents, are you wounded? Have you healed your emotional wounds?

Thanks for trusting that I might know answer to your question. Good luck.

Moon in 8th house mothers: What you see is not what you get.

Natives with moon in 8th house have crazy mothers. Their mothers display symptoms of mental illnesses, NPD/BPD to be specific.

What mother is in public is very different from how she acts in private. Mother is neglectful towards emotional needs of the child. Mother is depressed and frustrated. The child has to cater to the emotional needs of the mother rather than vice versa. House environment is literally like walking on eggshells.

These mothers are unpredictable, people pleasers, deeply insecure and lonely. Their physical circumstances are such that they always wear a fake mask for the world and do not show their real face to anyone. The reason being that the mother is living on survival mode so she never learned who her authentic self is.

Moon in 8th house child eventually comes to realize their mother's reality. They end up on r/raisedbyborderline or r/raisedbynarcissist communities for example. They unlearn the trauma their mother gave them and relearn self soothing and self development skills. These natives also discover occult to understand their own feelings. I have two astro observations about natives who have moon in 8th house and how their mothers turned out to be:

In one astro observation, the mother is a pathological liar, manipulative, self centered. She lies about being religious and wise. She lies about her achievements and her family's status. She is very controlling and frustrated. A saint in public and a demon in private. This mother is the embodiment of 8th house darkness. This mother is not really nice. She sowed seeds of hatred in the heart of his brother against his wife and daughter so that she could control him.

In other astro obersation, the mother is short tempered, controlling, impulsive and self centered. She does not lie though her face is different for public v/s private. This mother is immature and unpredictable. Cheerful in public, though she can be gruelsome in private. This mother does not have much control over her relatives and is not exploitative. This mother minds her own business but is very moody and doesn't listen to anyone.

Both natives have moon in 8th house, but their mothers are different although similar undertones. These natives keep their family life secret because of psychic reasons. People will not trust them if they tell their mother's truth. These natives also realize that their mother's emotional abuse was a blessing in disguise for them. The silver lining is that they venture into occult to discover the truth and secrets of life. They go into emotional and spiritual healing. This privilege is not available to everyone.

8th house impacts our earnings because it's a house of self-worth and self-discernment

8th house is Opposing the 2nd house of our personality

8th house makes us see ourselves from the point of view of other people and challenges us to realise our own self-worth despite criticism of strangers

8th house is character and appearance traits that make people judge us the most because they don't express them as brightly as we do

Do Venus in 8 th house people have high sex drives and a tendency to develop hyper sexuality disorder

Hi!

Yes, an undeveloped venus in 8th house displays hypersexuality. Though I would really recommend doing some research into depth psychology by Jungian school. That will answer many of your questions. I dont know if there is anything like 'hypersexuality disorder'. There are personality disorders that entail reckless sexual history as a symptom.

Hypersexuality is an expression of something deeper in their psyche. It is the only means they know to get love and validation from others. It is the only way to measure their self worth. They have undeveloped sense of self. They use sex to merge with their partner to even feel alive. Their big mistake would be to be hypersexual for free of charge. If they do sex for free just for validation, that will make them feel even worse.

A developed venus in 8th house person will be channeling their energy into occult and spirituality. It comes naturally to them. She will know her worth and value. She will give her companionship and bedroom time to someone who deserves it and gives something in return. That's why many venus in 8th house ladies are married to rich spouse who provide for their lifestyle and spoil them. She will also use sex for spiritual enhancement and to understand herself better, not just for validation and dopamine.

Life advice for moon in 8th house wrt mother:

Moon in 8th house manifests a volatile caregiver. The mother is unpredictable, emotionally unstable, highly reactive and controlling. Mom is also the primary caregiver so the child learns similar personality traits and emotional reactivity from the mother. Mom does not know how to soothe her emotions, does not understand the emotional needs of others and is unstable. That is NOT to say that mom is a bad person, she just does not have interpersonal skills. There is intergenerational trauma running in this bloodline. In some cultures it is acceptable to be 'no contact' with your mother but it is not possible in most places.

Do not expect your mother to change. Your mother will only change if she goes through psychological rebirth. This is only possible if she has been through a dark night. There is no other way how she will learn to identify and change her emotional behaviour. The willingness to change will only come with self awareness and self reflection.

Create emotional distance from your mother. A volatile mother is sometimes happy and cheerful. It is easy to ride the highest of highs before the next show drops. It is better to create emotional distance from mom for your own mental stability and emotional calm.

Emotional independence is also important. Do not depend on your mother for love or affection. Learn to love yourself. Learn to respect yourself.

If possible, try to teach your mother emotional intelligence. Your mother does not even know how feelings work. Teach her stress management, emotional control. Teach her that you will listen to her even if she does not shout. You will love her even if she fails at something. Teach her that it is okay to make mistakes. Teach her that nobody is perfect and her black/white thinking is flawed. Teach her that conversations are not personal attack. Teach her that she does not need to control everyone.

Finally, break the chain yourself and hopefully your mother will follow you. Moon in 8th house natives have mothers who were traumatized by their mothers. They need to learn to not be so controlling. They need to learn to let go.

Can astrology pinpoint the tendency to do maladaptive daydreaming?

Maladaptive daydreaming is a chronic habit of daydreaming vivid imaginary world, characters and stories. The dreamer acts out the scenes, imagines plot in head, isolates themselves, spends hours and hours replaying the scenes in their head. It is highly addictive and satisfying. The dreamer finds more excitement in daydreams than in reality. The dreamer imagines romantic partner, storylines and dialogues in their head. This is not a mental disorder yet but it can ruin a person's life by distracting them from work and school, isolating from relationships and addiction to daydreaming.

This type of maladaptive daydreaming happens as a result of childhood abuse or emotional neglect or emotional invalidation or emotional abuse or loneliness. The dreamer imagines themselves to be popular loveable well liked cool smart famous multitalented etc. Their imaginary character is everything they want to be. It is like that movie the fight club:

Why does this happen though and can we pinpoint this in astrology?

Pisces sign and 12th house are both related to daydreaming and imagination. This is where they zone out into another world. Add to it, emotional trauma and the result is maladaptive daydreaming.

In one case, the native with Saturn in pisces in the 5th house was a maladaptive daydreamer lifelong. Saturn in 5th house shows restricted childhood, confinement, not allowed freedom and independence, strict and controlling childhood. Pisces sign is again the representation of imagination and daydreaming. This shows that the native started daydreaming as a defense mechanism against childhood abuse. As life goes on, it becomes an addictive habit. Some people start writing novels from their behaviour but I dont know if it is acceptable. If it works for them then good, otherwise it is something that you must fix.

I will add more observations for this placement when I find them.

This is the problem then what is the solution?

Psychologist Eli Somer is the forerunner of studying maladaptive daydreaming. One suggestion he has is mindfulness. But it is easy to say than practice. How do you reach the point of mindfulness? By breaking yourself down to pieces. Understand your projections and the projections of those around you. Build self esteem and balanced self concept. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Learn the shit out of narcissism; your daydreams are highly narcissistic in nature. This is a guarantee. Socialize and practice new interpersonal skills. Change your environment and live in a safe normal environment free of abuse. Stay grounded in reality.

Wish you the best in healing!