Hi I Just Saw Ur Post About Moon And Venus Synastry In The 8th House. I Also Have A Venus 8th House And

Hi I just saw ur post about moon and Venus synastry in the 8th house. I also have a Venus 8th house and ur story feels so close to mine. But it was with my best friend and I was the narcissistic one. I feel unworthy and can’t find anyone else I could rly call my best friend. I have tried and it never works out. Do you ever feel like your love language is too much and overwhelming for others? Like I’m very self aware and spiritual as well and have improve this but others still seem bothered :/

Hi! While I dont give personal life advice but I dont think that narcissism goes away so easily. If you know that you're narcissistic then your love language is probably excessive admiration, words of praise and inflated ego. You're very self aware but let's dig down a little deeper. Narcissism develops in response to early childhood neglect, emotional abuse and undeveloped self.

I know quite a few narcissistic people who are self aware of their tactics and are also very religious. it just doesn't make any sense.

Astrologically, I know that aries placements especially Aries sun are narcissists!

I think you need to do more shadow work and bring more inner motivations to surface. You're full of anger, confusion, inferiority, powerlessness and insecurities. You have to realize that the only thing you have power over is your mind not other people. You dont own others and leading others will not fulfill you.

You probably need to lower your expectations and gain more self control. Not all of our desires are valid and relevant. Not all desires have to be fulfilled by others. I think that you're still seeing people in black and white. People have both good and evil parts in them. They might show their good side to some and evil side to others.

Analyze yourself. What do you talk about with others, what is your active imagination, what is your inner dialogue, what do you feel around others, how do you view yourself, do you have realistic expectations from life, do you live in fantasy world, do you expect perfection, do you seek utopia, do you want the world to be how you want, do you have FOMO, do you have an expressive relationship with your parents, are you wounded? Have you healed your emotional wounds?

Thanks for trusting that I might know answer to your question. Good luck.

Omg can you please do a culture about gemini moon?

"Ugh.. What is wrong with them??" That's how people treat gemini natives.

Conversations: Talkng is their hobby. They just talk and love to talk. They dont think internally, but they think verbally speaking. Witty, good sense of humor and light hearted. Sense of humor is how they seek external validation. For eg, we've read how Scorpio natives use sex for validation. Gemini natives use jokes for validation. They are lively and street smart. Whether they are book smart or not depends on their attention span and sincerity for life. They learn quickly in school. Get bored easily. Mind jumping from one thing to other.

Personality: Change is the name of the game. This change is not spiritual and chaotic like that of scorpio natives. Gemini lose interest and move on to something new. With change of interests, their personality is bound to change. Gemini moon natives often have mothers who were also lively, funny and youthful. They can be reckless and impulsive in their actions. It is because they dont think through their actions and are impatient. Remember, a scorpio native is impulsive because of emotional intensity; a Gemini native is impulsive because of impatience and boredom. I say this to try to show how signs are different from each other although seem similar superficially.

Relationship: Gemini moon need intellectual connection. They are sapiosexuals. They crush on the class topper and the smart ones. Money, property dont interest them-intelligence does (unless other signs are involved then they can be materialistic too). They dont care for looks that much but do care for intelligence.

Looks: Full of life, colorful and a bit goofy. It depends on the rest of their placements though. But you can expect a certain colourfulness to their aesthetic. In a group of friends, Gemini moon is the one to talk loudest and also the funniest. Just like of the party vibes. There is a deep desire for social recognition, acceptance and approval in them. Not solitude but social life makes them feel alive.

Hobbies: Probably many. Jack of all master of none. Know a little about a lot. Dont have patience for depth study. Travelling, sight seeing, sit coms or shows on TV, movies, memes.

Social life: Need friends or companions. Befriend people easily. Social butterfly. Lack stable sense of self. Mirror others on a superficial level. Their symbolism is two faces which shows their dual nature. Duality is inherent in all beings. Each one of us has contradictions, conflicts and polarity. But it is hallmark in Gemini natives. Just like scorpio natives are knows for emotional intensity, Gemini natives are known for jumping from one face to their other face. This is why they struggle to take decisions because they like to have everything of everything.

Psychoanalysis: If the birth chart supports self analysis, these natives will calm down and integrate their repressed qualities. What is that? Stability, being grounded, being self secure, finding a stable sense of self, needing less external validation, etc.

The combination of 7th house sun and 8th house venus

What is it with this combination that gives a rich affluent high social status husband? But the journey up to the marriage is such a rollercoaster. You integrate your shadow and let your old skin die. Just to get that one in a million man! What is he like?

Do any of you girls have sun in 7th and venus in 8th house? How is your husband/long term partner? 🙂

Do Venus in 8 th house people have high sex drives and a tendency to develop hyper sexuality disorder

Hi!

Yes, an undeveloped venus in 8th house displays hypersexuality. Though I would really recommend doing some research into depth psychology by Jungian school. That will answer many of your questions. I dont know if there is anything like 'hypersexuality disorder'. There are personality disorders that entail reckless sexual history as a symptom.

Hypersexuality is an expression of something deeper in their psyche. It is the only means they know to get love and validation from others. It is the only way to measure their self worth. They have undeveloped sense of self. They use sex to merge with their partner to even feel alive. Their big mistake would be to be hypersexual for free of charge. If they do sex for free just for validation, that will make them feel even worse.

A developed venus in 8th house person will be channeling their energy into occult and spirituality. It comes naturally to them. She will know her worth and value. She will give her companionship and bedroom time to someone who deserves it and gives something in return. That's why many venus in 8th house ladies are married to rich spouse who provide for their lifestyle and spoil them. She will also use sex for spiritual enhancement and to understand herself better, not just for validation and dopamine.

astro observation about men with moon in 3rd house:

I have observed that men with moon in 3rd house have mommy issues. Regardless of the signs it is placed in, but especially in the air signs. These men tend to talk very highly of their mother but tend to overlook the emotional neglect, dismissal and sabotage that their mothers placed in them. These men grow up with low self esteem and seek to find a woman who can fill the void that their mother left. Their mother could be a devouring mom who made them feel emasculate by smothering and controlling them a lot.

Unfortunately, many of them do not reach this self awareness and do not heal their mother complex. Their mother could be outwardly loving but inwardly had a complex relationship with them. Their mother also tend to have a lot of expectations from their son and the son feels guilty and weak later in life when trying to do self love.

Of course how this energy manifests depends on the rest of the chart. A man might attach himself to a mother like figure to appease her. Or a man might become a player and play with hearts of many women to satiate his misogyny.

These men also tend to be on their phones a lot. They're either talking on call or chatting with someone almost all the time.

They can show an unhealthy dependence on their mother, and later on any woman who resembles their mother. In one case, a man was dependent on his sister to guide him through life and in another case the man was dependent on his girlfriend to take decisions for his life. This is case of Puer Aeternus. These men can show lack of decision making power despite having talent and skills. They also tend to have a restricted insecure relationship with their partner because the partner is a rival to their mother. The man constantly seeks his mother in all women or dismisses them as worthless. So, this man only values women who remind them of their mother.

The other is the case of Don Juanism where the man seeks a perfection image of a woman in every woman. This perfection is the image of his mother. He shows great difficulty in emotional intimacy because he has this image of a perfect mother in his mind. He only wants that. Since he never finds that perfection he is eternally dissatisfied with who he has in life.

Can astrology pinpoint the tendency to do maladaptive daydreaming?

Maladaptive daydreaming is a chronic habit of daydreaming vivid imaginary world, characters and stories. The dreamer acts out the scenes, imagines plot in head, isolates themselves, spends hours and hours replaying the scenes in their head. It is highly addictive and satisfying. The dreamer finds more excitement in daydreams than in reality. The dreamer imagines romantic partner, storylines and dialogues in their head. This is not a mental disorder yet but it can ruin a person's life by distracting them from work and school, isolating from relationships and addiction to daydreaming.

This type of maladaptive daydreaming happens as a result of childhood abuse or emotional neglect or emotional invalidation or emotional abuse or loneliness. The dreamer imagines themselves to be popular loveable well liked cool smart famous multitalented etc. Their imaginary character is everything they want to be. It is like that movie the fight club:

Why does this happen though and can we pinpoint this in astrology?

Pisces sign and 12th house are both related to daydreaming and imagination. This is where they zone out into another world. Add to it, emotional trauma and the result is maladaptive daydreaming.

In one case, the native with Saturn in pisces in the 5th house was a maladaptive daydreamer lifelong. Saturn in 5th house shows restricted childhood, confinement, not allowed freedom and independence, strict and controlling childhood. Pisces sign is again the representation of imagination and daydreaming. This shows that the native started daydreaming as a defense mechanism against childhood abuse. As life goes on, it becomes an addictive habit. Some people start writing novels from their behaviour but I dont know if it is acceptable. If it works for them then good, otherwise it is something that you must fix.

I will add more observations for this placement when I find them.

This is the problem then what is the solution?

Psychologist Eli Somer is the forerunner of studying maladaptive daydreaming. One suggestion he has is mindfulness. But it is easy to say than practice. How do you reach the point of mindfulness? By breaking yourself down to pieces. Understand your projections and the projections of those around you. Build self esteem and balanced self concept. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Learn the shit out of narcissism; your daydreams are highly narcissistic in nature. This is a guarantee. Socialize and practice new interpersonal skills. Change your environment and live in a safe normal environment free of abuse. Stay grounded in reality.

Wish you the best in healing!