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SUN IN 7th house. THE NEED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

I have my sun in 7th house so this is my personal insight:

🌕 I feel so useless when I am not in a relationship

🌕 Relationship is the number 1 motivation in my life

🌕 Marriage is so important to me

🌕 I wanted to get married since I was a child. I actually value the security of marriage.

🌕 I do want a dominating, strong, assertive husband because I want to be proud of my husband. I want to worship my husband and I do want a fatherly figure in my partner.

🌕 I had a tendency to idealize opposite gender. I would romanticize any man and ignored their flaws.

🌕 Not parents, not friends, not sibling, not pets - but my hubby hub hub is the most important person in my life

🌕 I didn't have self esteem, self image and sense of self

🌕 I was a people pleaser and had no boundaries as a teenager

🌕 I was hypersensitive to rejection and other people's opinion of me. I was super gullible and cared too much about my social image. I didnt go to school to learn or study but to show off my image and boost my ego.

🌕 I had a fragile ego and was arrogant

🌕 I basically depended on other people for survival because I didnt know who I was. i wanted to be adored admired liked by everyone in the world.

🌺 Now I have healed myself. I work on my sense of self and self respect. I know who I AM and who I AM NOT. I am not dramatic. I am laid back and calmer. I have career goals. My marriage is a part of my life but not everything. I am currently single uh oh -

The combination of 7th house sun and 8th house venus

What is it with this combination that gives a rich affluent high social status husband? But the journey up to the marriage is such a rollercoaster. You integrate your shadow and let your old skin die. Just to get that one in a million man! What is he like?

Do any of you girls have sun in 7th and venus in 8th house? How is your husband/long term partner? 🙂

Is it just my observation or not everyone is destined for a fulfilling romantic life?

As much as we are conditioned by media, literature, songs, our own anima/animus to desire being in romantic relationships, unfortunately I have observed that not everyone is meant for one. It is truly luck that some people meet willing partners who are interested in romantic relationship, working things out, making it work, loving and supporting each other. While some people meet partners who are emotionally unavailable, manipulative, liars, unwilling to work relationship, taking partner for granted.

Mercury is indeed an indicator of a friend like, youthful energy, optimism for life, conversationalist partner. This is the partner who wants to be adventurous, go travel the world, watch latest movies, go outdoors eating.

Venus is indeed an indicator of significantly beautiful, sensual, pleasant to have in life, charming partner. This is the partner who likes to purchase new clothing, food, wine, dine, meeting pleasures of senses. Music, food, comfort, beauty, sex.

Saturn is indeed an indicator of serious, hard working, not fun attitude towards life and kinda pessimistic. This is the partner who has seen fated ups and downs in life, believes in long term planning, avoids short term gratification and does not have fun with his money. Life is a responsibility for him.

Ketu is indeed an indicator of a detached, disconnected, peculiar, unique, wandering, lost in thoughts, spiritual, not interested in material life partner. This is the partner who will fulfill superficial social expectations of relationship but remain emotionally distanced, disengaged, less talkative, not romantic.

Rahu is indeed an indicator of a social climber, high status, clout chasing, power chasing, fame chasing partner. This partner creates a persona or image or illusion of a perfect relationship for the world to see. It does not matter to him if the actual relationship is hollow so long as the social image is that of a picture perfect marriage.

Sun is indeed an indicator of authoritarian, fatherly, dominating, controlling, egoistic, daddy type partner. This is the partner who likes to take decisions in relationship, be the sun of the relationship, adds life to relationship and is actively involved in the relationship.

Mars is indeed an indicator of a hyper, short tempered, energetic, controlling partner. This is the partner who hates monotonous, chill life. This partner wants sports, physical activity, passion, aggression, heat in the relationship.

Jupiter is indeed an indicator of a wisdom seeking, teacher like, studious, not romantic, dharmic marriage, dutiful partner who considers relationship to be a duty that he has to perform dutifully.

Moon is indeed an indicator of an emotionally attuned, emotionally invested, sensitive, feelings driven partner. Doesn't mean that this partner is super romantic but has the potential because of feelings driven personality. This is the partner who will poetry, do acts of service, is emotionally available to partner.

See how different planets, their signs, their placements, conjunctions, aspects will bring different partner in your life? If you expect to find a romantic, sexy, passionate partner but your relationship houses are occupied/aspected by Saturn or Ketu or Jupiter or their signs that is Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces, then you are bound for disappointment. You have to mold your expectations to meet your destiny. If your 7th house is occupied by Ketu or aspected by Ketu, you have to expect and accept that your emotional and romantic needs will be unfulfilled - conversely you have to channel this desire into spirituality and self work. Ketu rules scorpio sign and 8th house. But Ketu is not a planet, though it can change the chemistry of your relationship.

So this is how, not everyone is meant for picture perfect romantic relationship. What we see in movies or songs is simply a work of art. I used to get very frustrated thinking why my life was not like the movies, until I realized that my birth chart, my expectations and my reality are very different from what I consume in media or literature or stories.

I hope it makes to someone. I hope I am not the only person who set her romantic expectations based on what I saw in media.

Self development series: "I am so bad at judging people".

For 7th, 8th, 12th housers, scorpio, cancer, pisces risings and placements. Also for airy signs placements.

You were born, you had family friends neighbours, you watched TV movies, you find a boyfriend/girlfriend, graduate get a job get married, have kids and life goes on. But who are you? And how do you know who the people in your life are? How do you identify others, how do you judge who is who? There is something called "projection" that happens when two people meet, or even watch a celebrity on TV, or even read something in a letter or on a website. How would you know what I am like from my posts? You will project, assume, judge.

Projection is a psychic process, it happens automatically and spontaneously, it is not under our will power to control our projection. Just like you breath to survive, you have to project to live in the society. No, you cannot be a hermit for too long. You have to go out, work, date, marry, buy grocery - projection is a necessity.

Everybody is not the same. People are different from each other - some qualities are dominant in them and some are sleeping. You project your own dominant (good or bad) qualities on others. For example, if you have jealousy in you, you will easily spot it in others too.

It is especially for those who are more irrational and impulse driven. They would think that just because they are honest, somebody else is honest too because both are just the same, especially if that somebody says the right things like "yeah I want to connect deeply with you". How we judge others, react to them depends on our projections. But how exactly do I judge someone else? In archetypes. Archetypes are images, emotions, factors and motifs that arrange the psychic elements into certain images. Carl Jung observed in his practice that similar patterns repeated in every patient assisted by similar meanings - he called these patterns motifs and proposed that the archetypes are universal in nature, reside in the collective unconsious and are inherited by each generation. How a person reacts to a situation in 2023 is how a person reacted in 1723 - patterns are the same.

Archetypes are not singular but a combination of many elements. For example, have you watched any typical romance movie? You see a silly lover boy and a next door girl, falling in love, going through made up scenarios and end up together. These kind of characters are simplified and basic levels of archetype. Reality is 10× more complicated than fairytales.

So when a scorpio girl falls in "love" with the boy she met last week, she is actually projecting and seeing archetypes in him that may not be there. She falls for the inner image of the ideal boy, her own masculine part animus and is driven by her feelings. I see a handsome/rich/funny/intelligent/top college graduate boy? "He must be a good man, he must be what I think he is". Did he just say he loves me even though we met in a chatroom 2 days back? "Of course, I know this is love". I swear if water placements dont tell the funniest "love stories", I will eat my hat. Madam/sir, this is projection, not love. Though I would not advice against making mistakes. You learn from your mistakes. Make 100 mistakes but in the end you will learn to judge people's character the right way.

I read something interesting about projection so i will share. We are all energy. The way we project is believed to be godly or divine process. Projection happens from the background of the psyche, that is the autonomous inner inages that come and go on their own happen from the very bottom of our psyche. Therefore, those who are gifted in astrology are the ones who project very consciously. In fact, the most accurate astrologers are those who are the most watery/most in touch with their unconscious life. This is why 8th house is called the house of occult and also signifies the unconscious.

Joseph Campbell has said, "The psychotic drowns in the same waters in which the mystic swims with delight". An evolved native is a good judge of character because he/she knows his/her own inner life, corners of personality, sleeping qualities, spends a lot of time exploring their own inner world and self reflection. This is why water people make detective type because they can really read the energy, tone of voice, pattern of behaviour, body language, expressions and intentions of people. Though, do not be too caught up in assumptions - projection is after all a means to understand yourself, your own individuation and identity.

Unpopular Opinion About Empty 7th House?

People with empty 7th house are 100% capable of being in long term relationships and marriage but it is not the "focus" in their life. I was surprised to see how some celebrities couples who have such "power couple" image in media do not have any 7th house placements. They may love each other but they are not ... devoted like a 7th houser would be. A 7th houser is someone who "needs" a partner and puts quite a lot of effort, energy, work into their relationship. 7th houser is someone whose life path encounters a lot of marriage related responsibilities and their life sort of revolves around relationship majorly. They are perhaps the people who know what a relationship actually means and what it takes to sustain a relationship in real not just for the social image. In the picture above, for a 7th houser, marriage and relationship are in the violet circle but other people like siblings, parents, friends may be in the yellow circle (if their houses are empty!).

But surprisingly it is the non-7th housers that act like they are so loving, devoted and aware of their partner. Empty 7th house means you may have relationship but it is not that important to you. But people who are not into astrology think that social image is the real thing. Let's compare other human relationship like brother sister or a friend. Your brother is known to you, you get along well, you may live in the same house but he may not be the center of your life. You may know friends in school, you meet them everyday, you hangout after school, but they are not that important to you. Important to you means someone who is your rock, anchor, lifeline.

Empty 7th housers do fall in love of course but they are not that important to them. Ironically, even their life path too does not give too many oppotunities to tackle this house. While someone with 7th house placement will meet challenges in relationship that takes great effort, multiple problems that keep happening or they are so attached to their partner that their world revolves around them.

So although from the outside, it appears that all couples are the same. But from the inside, everything is different depending upon house placements.

Note: 7th house may be empty but look at its sign ruler and where that is placed to figure out your marriage details.