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Can astrology pinpoint the tendency to do maladaptive daydreaming?
Maladaptive daydreaming is a chronic habit of daydreaming vivid imaginary world, characters and stories. The dreamer acts out the scenes, imagines plot in head, isolates themselves, spends hours and hours replaying the scenes in their head. It is highly addictive and satisfying. The dreamer finds more excitement in daydreams than in reality. The dreamer imagines romantic partner, storylines and dialogues in their head. This is not a mental disorder yet but it can ruin a person's life by distracting them from work and school, isolating from relationships and addiction to daydreaming.
This type of maladaptive daydreaming happens as a result of childhood abuse or emotional neglect or emotional invalidation or emotional abuse or loneliness. The dreamer imagines themselves to be popular loveable well liked cool smart famous multitalented etc. Their imaginary character is everything they want to be. It is like that movie the fight club:
Why does this happen though and can we pinpoint this in astrology?
Pisces sign and 12th house are both related to daydreaming and imagination. This is where they zone out into another world. Add to it, emotional trauma and the result is maladaptive daydreaming.
In one case, the native with Saturn in pisces in the 5th house was a maladaptive daydreamer lifelong. Saturn in 5th house shows restricted childhood, confinement, not allowed freedom and independence, strict and controlling childhood. Pisces sign is again the representation of imagination and daydreaming. This shows that the native started daydreaming as a defense mechanism against childhood abuse. As life goes on, it becomes an addictive habit. Some people start writing novels from their behaviour but I dont know if it is acceptable. If it works for them then good, otherwise it is something that you must fix.
I will add more observations for this placement when I find them.
This is the problem then what is the solution?
Psychologist Eli Somer is the forerunner of studying maladaptive daydreaming. One suggestion he has is mindfulness. But it is easy to say than practice. How do you reach the point of mindfulness? By breaking yourself down to pieces. Understand your projections and the projections of those around you. Build self esteem and balanced self concept. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Learn the shit out of narcissism; your daydreams are highly narcissistic in nature. This is a guarantee. Socialize and practice new interpersonal skills. Change your environment and live in a safe normal environment free of abuse. Stay grounded in reality.
Wish you the best in healing!
what they don't tell you about maladaptive daydreaming is that every once in a while when you're imagining a convo with some therapist or your best friend or someone you care about to comfort yourself and it's working wonderfully, you get the soul crushing realization that you're alone. the words your imaginary people said were nothing more than what you wanted someone to say to you. you've been pacing round your room saying what you wanted to hear to your own self because you have no one who'll say them to you as you're crying into their chest.
it’s so draining to realize that it’s getting bad again, becoming aware that you’re loosing hours and hours of your life being stuck in your own head…
I'm not daydreaming; I'm... maladaptive daydreaming....
I'm not daydreaming; I'm... maladaptive daydreaming....
A few things people with maladaptive daydreaming really wished you knew but we just can't tell you:
(Some of these are just from my experience and may not apply to everyone)
Don't be offended if we zone out during a conversation. Lots of things trigger us and sometimes in even the most interesting conversations we can't help but imagine what our paras are doing right now, or what we'll daydream about next.
DO👏NOT👏INTERRUPT👏US👏WHEN👏WE'RE 👏IN👏THE👏MIDDLE👏OF👏A👏DAYDREAM👏 long story short, the feeling of anger and absolute rage is so intense we literally want to snap your spine. The only reason we don't is because then that would mean we'd have to wait even longer to return to the daydream.
Certain songs may make us feel a certain way. We use songs to trigger certain daydreams, so certain music will touch us more than the average person. For example if someone played the song our para died too, we would almost feel like it's happening again. It's a bit like someone playing a song that was at a loved ones funeral, but worse.
Dating is hard for us. It's common for madders to have para lovers and so when it comes to dating we may feel like we're betraying our para.
Our daydreams are as complicated and intense as Harry Potter. We come up with some pretty dramatic stuff, which helps us cope with real life trauma. This is also why we're so creative.
Time flies for us. We get so immersed in our daydreams that sometimes up to 5 or 6 hours can pass and we don't notice. It's common for us to stop daydreaming and realise we've gone a whole day without eating, drinking, going to the toilet, or that our feet are almost bleeding from pacing so much.
We can't just stop. It may seem that simple, but the truth is, It's an addiction and a coming mechanism. When traumatic events happen in the real world, we use our daydreams to deal with it. Events such as our loved ones passing away may cause familiar events to happen in our paracosms. Even I've noticed that during 2020 my daydreams have become more traumatic (for example more paras have been getting hurt or even killed, and the relationships between my paras are more complicated).
8. Writing this was hard because I kept falling into a daydream.
Where do I cancel my membership for my MADD, 'cause shit is getting wild??!
I'm so scared of people catching me making facial expressions while I'm in my own little world, I can't help it, yet I don't want to people to judge me.
Sometimes I wonder if one day I'll just stop daydreaming and if everything I imagined will stop being a part of my life...
I feel like my paras have received more love in the past minute than me in my entire life
Does anyone have any advice on how I can tell my mom that I may be dealing with MADD?
Do people around me notice that I may have MADD and just decide to not say anything or do they really not notice? Cause if they do,,,
Let it go~
Let it go~
I don't wanna deal with my own bullshit anymore~
It's kinda sad that I can write a better autobiography for my paras rather than write one about me.
Having MADD sometimes feels so lonely, yet like... I can just go in my own world and stuff and hang out with my paras. Like, I'm not missing out on much, right,,?
Does anyone have any tips on how I can try daydreaming less?