Coming To Terms With Mental Image: How To Become A Whole Person?

Coming to terms with mental image: how to become a whole person?

All of us have mental images of who we want to be, how we perceive our parents, how we see our partner and how we imagine our lives to be. For 8th house, scorpio natives, there is a tendency to demand perfection from life. These natives tend to have black and white thinking. They think in extremes. They are highly emotional and do emotional thinking. But you have to realize that these expectations from people and life are infantile. Tyrannical father and devouring mother traumatize their children because they just dont have a clear image of who a human is supposed to be like.

I am reminded of this anime episode. In this cartoon, the two middle school girls are obsessed with their love interest Yuziko. They imagine him to be perfect, that he lives in a grand palace, his family is perfect and he is always happy with his family. This is a classic case of black and white thinking. This kind of imagination is real in 8th house/scorpio natives. Take a look:

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The little girl Kawashima is like the personification of love life of 8th house natives. Emotional, impulsive, seeking perfection, obsession, full of insecurities, stalker behaviour, she does charms to attract attention from Yuzupi. She always lives in a fantasy world of her love life. She is projecting her animus on Yuzupi. Her parents are likely emotional neglecting and she is not loved for who she is. Kawashima also 'worships' her classmate, places her self worth of his treatment, seeks validation from him. In many episodes, they show her doing love charms to attract her lover. She transforms herself to become someone whom Yuzupi likes. She is also super jealous and controlling. It sounds pretty funny, right? But what if I tell you this is how Venus in 8th house/Scorpio girls actually behave in their love life? Let's be honest here.

So, my suggestion for these natives is to come to terms with the inner image of life. To love yourself the way you want to be loved by someone else. That rush and butterfly in stomach feeling you feel for your crush or partner?? You should feel that for yourself. Have self respect as a person. Know your worth as a human.

Astro observation about 11th house placements/Aquarius placements

Hello workaholics!

Sun in 11th house natives are social butterflies. They can be the most silent person at home but are social butterflies in public. They also travel a lot. They are travelling all day for job purpose from one place to other. They have natural charm in public. People trust them with their money. People want to do business with them. These natives emit a natural businessperson energy that people want to commit to. For eg, to understand better, people with sun in 7th house attract a lot of potential romantic partner who perceive them as people they want to be with romantically. Similarly, Sun in 11th house people attract a lot of people who want to commit to them for business purposes. This is really fascinating to see how people perceive them as business savvy.

Jupiter in 11th house people also attract people who commit to their ideas. Since 11th house is all about social networking, money and especially business. These natives attract people who want to commit to their wisdom, brainchild, vision and ideas. For eg, Steve Jobs had Jupiter in 11th house (sidereal astro) and he really was a visionary man in whose ideas and visions people invested their money and wanted to do business with him. I am not making it up.

11th house/Aquarius natives are all about work. It is their life theme. They have a long fulfilling work life with late retirement. They always are doing some work. They know how to make money. They know how to grind. They have the potential and caliber. Saturn rules Aquarius: patience, discipline, hard work, long hours. They have that. They cannot retire early and enjoy life. They love to hustle all their lives.

These natives also spend less time at home relaxing and more time doing work or business. They have the caliber to do side hustle. It really comes naturally to them. They are the ones to be doing 2/3 business or work at a time. Making money. Vision, ideas, grit and social charm -- they got it all.

Public places is where they shine. Sun in 11th house or Aquarius natives shine in public settings. They love to be amongst large groups of people. They love the validation it gives them.

But no placement comes without shadow side. Behind their workaholic attitude is an intense self sabotage. I remember watching Jobs movie and Steve's character says "why did my mother birth me if she had to leave me anyway?" I have seen that these natives are workaholic as a way to avoid the shame of self sabotage. They use work to avoid the intimacy in other areas of life. They feel a compulsive urge to work work work! It is the need to individuation in them and run from their self reflection. For eg, some people understand themselves using occult tools like astro and tarot. Whereas others understand themselves by being in a relationship. While others understand themselves through work and business. It is the different areas of life with different tools that people use to individuate. To individuate yourself means to understand all parts of yourself.

These natives understand themselves when they go out in public and do their work. They even wonder why not other people do the same. They wonder why others are not workaholic like them.

THE SECRET LIFE OF 8th HOUSE NATIVES

Everybody has an 8th house. Transformations are a part of everyone's lives. Every single person. But the 8th house placements especially with dominating energy are the ones in whose life it will show a visible impact. You can see their person and say "Oh yeah, this person definitely has 8th house energy going on" -- it is that visible! In my family, both my parents and my brother and I have 8th house placements. Even though our lives turned out differently with different themes and patterns and turning points, there is an 8th house energy in our personalities and life events.

These natives keep their lives secretive. Few people know what is going on in their lives. They tell their problems to few people only.

Money has been a theme. Saturn in 8th house native works really hard to earn money. Jupiter, Venus, Moon in 8th house natives inherit money earned by other.

No social media or private social media account or dont post much. Unless there is also some other house placements, like 1st house placements + 8th house placement = uses social media but posts less. Major 8th house placements = private social media or fake name account.

People pleasing tendency and lack of boundaries. This is something I have seen so much in 8th house natives. They give away their hearts to others. Then they face betrayal. Then they feel hurt deeply. From here on, the paths diverge. Self aware people will introspect themselves, change themselves and become self actualized. Whereas non-self aware people will keep repeating the same old pattern and getting hurt again and again.

Every year, literally every year, something happens in their life that rocks their boat. 8th house natives cannot keep still. Their life keeps bringing unexpected, unseen, unpredictable, unknown events, accidents, misfortunes, revelations, shocking, life threatening even, traumatic, self destroying events in their lives. Every year. Physical, mental, psychological. Every single year. As a result, these natives become brave hearts with very strong will power and even stronger emotional strength. Their lives are strongly visibly determined by fate.

Loneliness and solitude. No matter if they are surrounded by crowd, there is a solitude in their lives. Their personalities are also such that they retreat to themselves a lot and appear closed off to others. I have seen these natives battling the hardships of lives mostly alone. It is a strange kind peaceful loneliness. In their presence you will feel like you two are the only people alive on earth. The solitude is non threatening. It keeps them safe and nurtures their soul and psyche. Even they are not aware of it.

Not all 8th house natives are into occult though. I would suggest they do get into occult but a lot of times these natives take a lot of time to get into occult or do not use occult or fear occult. If only they explore themselves will they understand the need for occult in their lives.

Ups and downs, turns and twists, long periods of adversity then sudden improvements. 8th house is a car that has a shaky useless brake. Sometimes life gets out of control. Unexplainable and painful miseries happen. Saturn in 8th house native faced cancer that was diagnosed in antardasha of 8th house ruler. Cancer is very rare and doctors cannot tell why, how and when it started. Treatment does not work because the cancer is literally manifestation of 8th house energy. Radiation and chemotherapy have no effect on shrinking tumor. Stuff of nightmare. One after another, problems keep appearing that doctors cannot control. Top doctor of country literally says "It is God's will. God's will is hard to understand. It is a rare case. We just don't know what is going on. I have worked in this field for 30 years and cases like this just shock us." It is beyond human control. It is fate. It is shocking, life threatening and extremely confusing. This is what 8th house energy looks like. This is the life that you see and say, "8th house energy right there. Oh my god!"

8th house natives before they become self aware get into many different things that make them feel shame and regret. It is because they do not know how to manage their feelings. They do not know how to channel their feelings. 8th house gives such strong feelings that literally blind the vision and overpower the decision making. They cannot distinguish between feelings and facts. They are that consumed by feelings.

Self actualization is a life tool for these natives. Do not let emotional turmoil eat you from inside.

Scorpio people can learn a thing or two from this:

Scorpio placements are not as emotional and spiritual as they are made out to be. Immature Scorpio can be some of the most superficial and toxic people ever. They can be controlling, impulsive, manipulative, idealize others, gossiper, selfish, reckless with money and sex. Depending upon other placements, they can be obsessed with status, respect, power and authority, thus making them proper narcissist.

If you are a Scorpio placement and are aware of your own narcissistic patterns, then you can try to change yourself. Why? To literally become a better person, if you do care about that. To become a better friend, partner, son/daughter, father/mother, sibling and a better human in general. Narcissistic people are a pain in the ass and you will invariably attract other narcissist, codependent, emotionally disturbed or mentally ill people in your life. On videos like the above, so many comment "I am an empath and my narcissist ex/parent was so abusive uh huh" but what they seem to ignore is their own narcissistic shadow. The fact that a narcissist was in your life is proof that you're not as innocent as you think you are. Time for shadow work. You were codependent, insecure, people pleaser, selfish too. An "empath" is also a narcissist but in other ways. I wonder what narcissistic traits Dr Ramani is hiding behind her mask? Is her YouTube channel a tool for status, superiority, power and idealization from "victims of narcissist abuse"? I hope Dr Ramani is self aware and keeps reflecting on herself as well. She better not become a narcissist herself.

Self awareness comes with self destruction and reconstruction. It will not be easy. Nobody said it would be easy. It will not be quick. You might spend your whole life trying to become a better person. It will not be pretty. Self transformation is ugly and chaotic. It will not feel good. Facing your bad traits is mind numbing and trying to change yourself is extremely painful. For every self destructive trait, you will need a creative and constructive outlet to replace that energy and void. I personally despise feel good astrology or feel good spirituality. The astro community is full of all the "aesthetics, synastry, relationships, manifestations, personality traits". All that is good and fun but it does not help clean the dirt off the heart. It does not make me a better person to know that I give femme fatale vibes because I am Scorpio rising.

For eg, I write blog, read books, write journals, do meditation to channel my toxic traits into healthier ways.

Does it even matter? Yes it matters to me. What will I gain from being a better person (narcissist supply)? Probably, inner peace, humility, empathy.

The power of acknowledgement and validation

Being an 8th house moon/venus, life got really messy many times. Things happened suddenly, my emotional state was chaotic and it felt like whatever happened in my life path was out of my conscious control. It felt like my life was destined to unfold like that, with all the good and bad, and each downfall would be a turning point for me to emotionally and psychologically reinvent myself.

Growing up, unaware of psychology and astrology, I repressed and normalized all the toxic behaviours i saw in my surroundings. During my 8th house ruler's time period, all that debris came up to the surface and I began to process my trauma.

This is when I realized the power of acknowledging and validating someone's life experiences and emotions. This is when I learned how powerful it is when someone validates your trauma and acknowledges your feelings. Especially for 8th house natives who crave deep bonding yet find themselves alone in the crowd, occult can be a powerful tool to connect with their feelings and subconscious world.

I have seen one Saturn in 8th house native in pisces sign suffering because they dont trust in self healing. Their life was full of ups and downs, delays, struggles, long lasting health issues, life threatening events. Saturn made them disciplined, hard working, pushed them to their limits. But it also restricted their emotional state. It made them repulsive to healing. They are stuck in emotional patterns of self destruction and self sabotage. I read their birth chart and tried to acknowledge their feelings.

But I also learned that people dont change until they are ready to change. That is a tough thing to do. Very tough. Change comes from deep within. And it is a lifelong process. This is why venus in 8th house is famous for changing after each relationship. Because the change comes from within. The desire to genuinely want a better relationship. Their lover exposes to them everything that is wrong with their psyche. They bringe forth everything that was hidden from their conscious awareness. These natives then begin to fix things. This is healing.

Earlier I was really critical of occult communities and called them bullshit. But now I empathize. I understand that different people find validation of their feelings from different sources. Some find from watching tarot videos on YouTube, some from reading tarot spreads, some from astro communities, some from professional help.

I also find it funny how once upon a time I was the girl who used to message my birth chart to astrologer for them to read mine and tell me things about my life. I was so clueless when I saw my birth chart. But now, after healing, after going though 8th house period, after seeing rock bottom, I can naturally read my own birth chart. I can use my intuition to navigate astro. I can read other people's charts and connect them to their behaviour. I am better able to read people. Earlier my perception of other people was totally messed up. I would invest myself in wrong people, give my heart and soul to them and then face betrayal that would break me into pieces.

So, yes, validation of life experiences, being heard, being seen, being acknowledged are really powerful tools for emotional healing.

Astro observations (October 2022: part 2)

Different people in one family deal with emotions differently. They should have expectations depending upon their own nature and emotional sensitivity. As an example, my mother is 1st house Libra stellium with sun while I am 7th house Taurus sun with 8th house moon and venus. This combination makes me deeply emotional, dependent and not assertive/center of attention. I can sit with one conflict for months while my mother doesn't like conflicts and runs from them.

Sun in 1st house mom + sun in 7th house daughter. What would you guys think about this? Engulfment, identity merger and dependency issues arise in daughter. Daughter needs to develop her own self esteem and confidence. Spend sometime away from mom ideally to become emotionally independent.

Saturn in 5th house makes childhood household restrictive, controlling and strict. Parents didn't like to give freedom of choice and agency to child. Parents acting like they know what's right for child and imposing their decisions on child. Parents can also be interfering in child's life a lot. Many times, they do it unconsciously out of paranoia or insecurity. They don't seem to realize the impact it has on their child.

Sun in 1st house mommy can actually belittle her children a lot. She is competitive, wants to be the center of attention and seen as the best. She can be demotivating towards children and thinking of them as incapable or stupid of doing things. It is all her own perfectionist tendency and self sabotage projected outwards towards children.

Moon in 8th house = emotional distance from mommy in adulthood. This is a hallmark of natives who take a hard decision to emotionally distant themselves from mommy for their own mental sanity. Their mommy and themselves are just on different emotional levels. They can look after their mommy financially and socially but not mentally and emotionally.

Water sign dominant natives can hide their emotions very well, don't show their emotional side to others, outwardly appear indifferent but emotional turmoil within, though they can show anger outbursts especially when immature.

Immature and mature planet and sign energies really makes difference. With age and experience, some people change their ways while others do not. With maturity, they make better life choices that help in productivity, material fulfillment and personality development. With immature tendencies, they make choices that lead to character weakness, abusive behavior and stagnant in material life.

Venus in 2nd house men notice feminine things on women. They like to see the colours, styles of their accessories, clothing, hair, how they dress themselves up. Conversely, women with 2nd house venus also like to dress up well and take care of beauty. These natives like to buy quality products over cheap ones. They invest in products that are good quality and sophisticated.

Mercury in 12th house makes a native who likes to study alone. Anything related to school, studies and thinking, they do it alone away from public life.

Natives with 1st house planets are shaped by their ascendant. They can show the qualities and characteristics of their first house planets. They are the ones to have distinguishing personality traits and visible in public eye. While natives with empty 1st house dont show any dominant personality. Of course they do have a personality but in public eye they are not visible for those qualities.

7th house placements especially sun are easily influenced by their environment, the people they are surrounded by and the people they befriend or talk to. They have a tendency to mimic the person they talk to. Since they project themselves in others a lot, their life gets difficult trying to adjust their projection whenever they meet a new person.

Venus in 10th house career wise can be dealing with money, banking, real estate, land related banks and field work. I have seen a native working in land bank and also doing land business with Venus in 10th house.

Mercury in 7th house natives attract really talkative partner, writer, author, friendly, energetic spouse with a lot of ideas and communicative habits. These natives can be lawyer or hold a law degree while working in other job.

Sun in 1st house native makes you know they are in the house. Their energy is that powerful. They are attention seeking and act like they are the best thing in the world. It feels like their energy fills the room they enter. Their energy can be really overwhelming for someone who is laid back and peace seeking though.

Air signs natives have a tendency to break things off and change friends quickly. But when the mature, they learn to treasure the relationships and friendships they make. Learn to make long term friendships and not jump from one person to another. Resist the urge to run from people.