Sending Good Thoughts To You, Tea. The Fact That *that Post* Is Still Causing You Problems Is Insane.

Sending good thoughts to you, Tea. The fact that *that post* is still causing you problems is insane. Nobody lets anything go, it seems.

Me every time I log on and see the 99+ notification

On the plus hand, the idiots are thinning themselves out. They keep sending me hate mail which gets instantly blocked, so really they're just shooting themselves in the foot.

The way some of you will just blindly scream "that's illegal!!" at anything without actually fact-checking yourself beforehand 🥴

I’m wondering, (this isn’t really Proship related, but I’m just asking around) if you’re more busy in your life, does that mean that you can’t enjoy fanfiction as much? I’m confused because I saw someone say that if you’re not engaging in fandom frequently you just kinda… drift out of it eventually??

Its not strictly a fandom or fanfiction matter where busy people often need to prioritize the things that consume their time. And unfortunately, hobbies are often sacrificed to make time for things that are more necessary or prominent.

In terms of fandom-based hobbies:

This can often lead to people feeling overwhelmed with having to catch up on everything they've missed in fandom spaces or re-inserting themselves into the community, or simply losing interest in a fandom for whatever reason. If you were only a casual fan of something beforehand, prolonged distance from it can more or less erase it from your mind for other things which are deemed more interesting or important.

It isn't a surefire thing, before you go feeling resigned about it. Plenty of people are capable of gravitating back and forth in fandom spaces, coming and going as they need to and never fully pulling away from the fandoms they enjoy. Its all down to the individual and who they are and what they have time for in the moment. Interests and priorities are always changing.

I'm a fairly busy person in real life, but I try to "graze feed" on fandom daily rather than trying to carve out chunks of time for it which may get interrupted or sidelined for other things (which can grow frustrating and lead to a lack of motivation.)

E.g; I'll scroll Tumblr on my phone while eating on my lunch break, or while I'm cleaning I'll have a TV episode playing so I can follow along as I go. While I'm going my skincare I'll have a podfic going, or I'll read some fic before sleeping as a "wind down" tactic.

Time management is frankly one of the largest things within our lives. We have a finite amount of it, and learning and choosing how to spend it is a universal experience.

antis apparently hate RPF but they sure like to make up shit about you and put that where everyone can see, sometimes directly in your inbox

New AO3 fandom category: RPH* About Sephiroth

*Real Person Hating

It does make me giggle when I see anon hate mail and the people brave enough to at least say it to my 'face' in reblogs and replies. Some people have jumped through the wildest fucking hoops making assumptions and crafting this weird DC-style villain version of me.

The actual reality is I'm sat here scrolling through my ask box after making some donations to local food banks and animal shelters while nibbling on the bread I baked earlier and listening to an educational podcast about space.

I'm going to start calling the person they envision Poisoned Tea or something.

Antiroth?

Sephicrime?

Minor rant, but I recently found your blog and think you may find this amusing (of course ignore as well if i misjudged! 💕)

I got into a baffling conversation with someone I share a server with, and it reminded me again that “antis” just… don’t think. Ever. And I knew that, but getting hit in the head with the reality always throws me for a loop no matter how many times it happens.

In my current fandom, I tend to only write character studies, longer plotty fics, slice of life, and that type of thing. It’s simply what currently has my attention. I do have content on my AO3 antis would drop dead at, but for a different fandom than is for the above server, so I don’t think this person (or others) realise that. Shows that they do know how AO3 filters work, as they’ve said they filter for this ship/fandom on my page, but that’s a different issue all together

Anyway, this person was *stunned* when I said I ship and let ship, and am 100% proship, full stop, no matter what. She seemed convinced that all proshippers write and like “evil (her words) content”. I of course mentioned that I’ve written all of AO3’s content warning, read it in fic, published books, and said content is 100% in the book I’ve been slowly writing, and that i support it. But I digress.

Where the conversation truly lost the plot was when she brought up that I don’t like certain themes, and am admittedly picky af with what I read??? And yes, I am. As are a lot of people. She could not comprehend this. She (and a few others who jumped in) seemed to think that, aside from proship meaning problematic ship, it also means someone who is proship has nothing they don’t like. I just. Okay. Maybe I’ve curated my fandom and online presence too well, but I’ve thankfully avoided this line of thinking before. I’d say I hope it’s not common, but I feel like it probably is 🙃

I have so many boundaries and things i hate. I am, at my core, a hater. My dms with small friend groups are full of me hating on tropes, ships, etc, I hate. But I could not give a flying fuck if others like them, and wow she could NOT get this. I have writers on AO3 I’ve blocked because I don’t like how they write certain things, or just don’t like how often they appear in the tag. I have no issue with them as people, I just know how to curate my fandom experience.

One of the people who was contributing to the conversation reached out afterwards in DMs and seems to (hopefully) be rethinking things, and realising that they’re very much proship. Picky with what they like, but proship. Small and unexpected victories!

Every day I grow more concerned for society as a whole.

The 'proship means problematic thinking' thing I can vaguely understand because its been an anti-propaganda tagline for so long, and they're very effective at being loud enough to be convincing.

But the rest?

Lordy.

What you saying is fuck what they saying 👊🏽

Fuck forced activism. Fuck forced exhaustion. Fuck forced burnout. Fuck guilt tripping. Fuck performative virtue signalling. Fuck performative suffering.