Im Wondering, (this Isnt Really Proship Related, But Im Just Asking Around) If Youre More Busy In Your

I’m wondering, (this isn’t really Proship related, but I’m just asking around) if you’re more busy in your life, does that mean that you can’t enjoy fanfiction as much? I’m confused because I saw someone say that if you’re not engaging in fandom frequently you just kinda… drift out of it eventually??

Its not strictly a fandom or fanfiction matter where busy people often need to prioritize the things that consume their time. And unfortunately, hobbies are often sacrificed to make time for things that are more necessary or prominent.

In terms of fandom-based hobbies:

This can often lead to people feeling overwhelmed with having to catch up on everything they've missed in fandom spaces or re-inserting themselves into the community, or simply losing interest in a fandom for whatever reason. If you were only a casual fan of something beforehand, prolonged distance from it can more or less erase it from your mind for other things which are deemed more interesting or important.

It isn't a surefire thing, before you go feeling resigned about it. Plenty of people are capable of gravitating back and forth in fandom spaces, coming and going as they need to and never fully pulling away from the fandoms they enjoy. Its all down to the individual and who they are and what they have time for in the moment. Interests and priorities are always changing.

I'm a fairly busy person in real life, but I try to "graze feed" on fandom daily rather than trying to carve out chunks of time for it which may get interrupted or sidelined for other things (which can grow frustrating and lead to a lack of motivation.)

E.g; I'll scroll Tumblr on my phone while eating on my lunch break, or while I'm cleaning I'll have a TV episode playing so I can follow along as I go. While I'm going my skincare I'll have a podfic going, or I'll read some fic before sleeping as a "wind down" tactic.

Time management is frankly one of the largest things within our lives. We have a finite amount of it, and learning and choosing how to spend it is a universal experience.

I know this is probably a wild generalization, but I don’t know if I can be in a community if they’re gonna say it’s okay for an adult in their 20s to write erotic fanfiction about a REAL 16 year old and a 20 year old. I understand fictional characters, because they’re not real, but RPF of minors seems like another thing completely.

I'm personally not invested in or interested in RPF of minors, but frankly the literal core value of proshipping is simply not inserting yourself into what other people do in terms of fiction, so.

You can disagree with it all you like, it doesn't necessarily make you 'not proship' as long as you're not sending people hate or trying to tell them they can't do it. There are plenty of people who are proship who draw a personal line at RPF involving minors. I know people who enjoy RPF of all ages but draw the line at topics like non-con when it pertains to those people/ships.

If it makes you feel any better, the anti community also, in a wild generalization, weaponizes rape videos and literal child pornography, believes in doxxing and stalking, supports suicide baiting and hounding.... Really, on each side there's the bad and ugly. Being proship doesn't strictly mean you enjoy or even condone or are invested in common themes and subjects under the 'protection' of the label. You're not a more morally clean or good person for being on either side.

Being proship simply means you know they're going to do it, you at least somewhat respect their right to do it, and you're not going to tell them to kill themselves over it.

Which honestly, feel like pretty basic requirements of critical thinking and human decency. As I said, I'm not invested in RPF about minors, but I simply curate my online space so I don't see it.

(Also, RPF is fictional still. Its quite literally in the name. Real person fiction.)

What you saying is fuck what they saying 👊🏽

Fuck forced activism. Fuck forced exhaustion. Fuck forced burnout. Fuck guilt tripping. Fuck performative virtue signalling. Fuck performative suffering.

With RPF isn’t it taking away the whole “profiction” thing away since it’s real people and not fiction anymore? (Genuine question, this isn’t hate btw)

The thing about RPF is that whatever you create with it is still fictional.

You can fantasise all you want about Henry Cavill crushing your head with his thighs, but its still a fantasy. Even if you turn that fantasy into a story, its still fictional. There's a reason its called real person fiction.

When we create stories and art about real people, we're basically just using that person as a blueprint base for a character we're creating and controlling. While we like to think we know everything about a celebrity, we don't. We see what they allow us to see by a vast majority, and a lot of the time famous people also create public personas. We make them think and act in ways which are conducive to our plots and intentions.

It can definitely be confusing to try and parse, but generally I think of it this way:

I'm using the real person as a pre-made character.

Although what I'm creating is fictional, I'm still using a real person's life and likeness to create it.

It can be discomforting to read about "yourself" doing certain things, so for the comfort of all involved, its simply best not to deliberately try to expose the real people to what I've created.

I wholly respect people who don't create RPF out of consideration for the real people involved, but at the end of the day I will still defend RPF's categorisation, proper conduct and right to exist.

making fun of things will always be better for me than being offended

I know its a very controversial take and I'm already prepared for all the racism and privilege accusations, but honestly I think a lot of people need to learn that being bitter and miserable and angry all the time isn't actually healthy, changing anything, or beneficial to anyone.

I've been that person who got offended at everything. I've been the person who was always argumentative, defensive, combative, upset and angry at everything and convinced that the world was out to get me and everything was personal and no joke.

I literally tried to kill myself. I was miserable. I was wasting away as a person. I lost interest and value in anything that wasn't trying to force the world to make me feel comfortable.

This blog helped a younger me realize she was proship, because I agreed with everything and was like “huh maybe I don’t care about silly lego ships as much as my online peers made me think I did”.

I enjoy things in relative peace now :)

I'm so very honored I could be part of your journey. Experiences like yours are why I'm here.