; I Know Assuming Someone Is Queer Based On Their Appearances Is Bad And Promotes Stereotypes That Are

; I know assuming someone is queer based on their appearances is bad and promotes stereotypes that are harmful and I'd never genuinely judge someone based on their apperance but ... You ever just see someone and think " if that mf is cishet then my gaydar has been destroyed by a target shopping cart of straightness and barbecues because holy friend of mara they're gay. " like is it just me or do some people just ?? Fruit ??

CUDDLING IS NOT SEXUAL FFS

pls rb if you think cuddling doesn't have to be s3xual

im tryna prove a point to my bf's mother help me out

The first split attraction model (SAM) was made in 1879 by Karl Heinrich Ulrichs and described bisexuality as well as heteroromantic homosexuality. There’s literally a whole ass wikipedia article on this. Let’s use our brains here a bit, okay?

amatonormativity: a romantic partner should be the most important person in EVERYONE'S life

NOT amatonormativity: MY romantic partner is the most important person in MY life, but i understand this is not the same for other people

allosexnormativity: EVERYONE should have sex and sex is something EVERYONE needs/wants/should want

NOT allosexnormativity: I PERSONALLY enjoy sex and love having sex because it makes ME feel good, but other people dont feel the same and that's okay

platonormativity: having friends is important for EVERYONE and EVERYONE needs/has/should have friends

NOT platonormativity: having friends is important to ME and I PERSONALLY love having friends, but there are people who dont and theres nothing wrong with that

faminormativity (is that the word?): family is important for EVERYONE and EVERYONE needs to have their family

NOT faminormativity: family is important to ME and I PERSONALLY need my family with me, but other people dont feel the same and i understand that

lovenormativity (again, not sure if this is a word): EVERYBODY feels love and there's something wrong wiith you if you dont

NOT lovenormativity: I PERSONALLY feel love and love people, but not everyone does and that's completely okay!

NOT amatonormativity: i dont have friends/have any desire to have friends, i am happy with other relationships/no relationships at all

NOT platonormativity: i dont have any desire to be in a romantic relationships, and i am happy with my platonic relationships

NOT allosexnormativity: i like hooking up with people and having one night stands or friends with benefits

NOT faminormativity: i care about my family deeply and am close with family members

NOT lovenormativity: i feel love for people i care about

it's not normative to personally enjoy something, so long as you respect that other people simply arent like you and aren't going to like the same things as you. taking down normativity is a two way street, allos and aspecs need to do it. support your local aros, aces, apls, afams and other aspecs today! remember to challange all normativities, and to not enforce other normativity by saying how bullshit other normativities are!

nothing is universal. romance is not universal. sex is not universal. friendship is not universal. family is not universal. love is not universal. nothing is universal.

The idea that autistic people are child-minded is harmful to all autistics, but especially harmful to queer autistics.

Our very identities are denied and ignored for no other reason than other people see us as unable to think for ourselves.