Intersex POC Please Stay Alive

Intersex POC please stay alive

"shi/hir are intersex exclusive pronouns" haha shut up! pronouns should not be exclusive to anyone unless it's literally a nounself pronoun featuring slurs!

The shi/hir thing is intersex exclusive because they're based on "Shim" as a slur people used for their characters with both genital sets. It does have a history to it that was and still can be harmful to us

Not to pull an 'Erm akshually' here, but the usage of the pronouns apparently originated from furries, and while there are definitely records of fetishization alongside the usage, I cannot find sources that lend credence to that slur birthing the set. It appears to be a he/she situation most commonly: an insult thrown at androgynous people and crossdressers.... which could also catch intersex people in the crossfire very easily to be fair. However, from my understanding its not just used against intersex people.

And, for the record, I am an intersex being myself. I don't claim to know everything about intersex history because of this fact, I am merely mentioning it lest someone decides to accuse me of being an entitled perisex individual.

"Oh. That's another anti endo in one of my communities. There is another person/collective who cannot accept that entities will have different experiences than them, and has decided to make that lapse in judgement everyone else's problem."

find a cool alterhuman blog!!!!

oh they’re anti-endo.

Hello, I recently got diagnosed with pcos. My whole life I’ve been raise to be a girl, when I was 18 I decided I wanted to go by they/them and be agender. I’m 20 now and was wondering if having pcos means I’ve been intersex my whole life and not even now it. I’ve just seen it brought up a lot in pcos groups and I never even thought about that. I’m just a little confused is all. My doctor didn’t really give me any information about that.

If it helps, while there are people who will try to push you out of intersex spaces for having PCOS, there are also plenty of others who accept us into intersex spaces. As for your doctor not mentioning it, I can only imagine it has something to do with medical bias against intersex people and the field's need to erase us all. See, if PCOS, a very common condition, is intersex, that means intersex people are even less rare. They want to sweep intersex people under the rug, in order to enforce their idea of 'binary sex'. That all being said though, it is ultimately up to you whether you want to use the intersex label due to having PCOS. I personally believe that PCOS, by default, makes one intersex, but I'm not one to enforce labels.

i relate to a lot of the things ive seen you posted/ said. i really just want a community that doesnt rip itself apart over harmless things. i wish i could be openly plural &experiment with my gender/identity without fear. radqueer sounds ... similar, but im scared to like,, go down that 'rabbit hole' (not saying its bad! just that ive heard there are some bad sides and it seems kinda extreme in some places, but i wouldnt know since i havent actually interacted out of fear) (dont feel pressured to answer or give advice for this!! just wanted to share me thoughts :3)

There are definitely parts of the radqueer community that are... unsavory in the least, so it's important to keep safe by avoiding more extreme spaces or navigating them with caution. As for me, I really only get bothered when the possibility of actual nonconsensual harm is happening, and while there are people in that community who claim things like saying children can't consent is ageist (????) there are also people who are just trying to live. It's a very nuanced situation, and as someone who has went out of hir way to interact with the community and poke around, I've found that there are swell people and the entire community isn't some evil kid grooming factory like people have claimed. That all being said, the safest place to start is transID. As far as I know, radqueer isn't just transID. It's basically 'live and let live' in every sense of the word, so while spaces are accepting of things like mspec les/gays/monos and lesboys/turigirls, alterhumanity, nontraumagenic systems etc, they also support things that people would consider bad, such as labeling paraphilias as sexualities, all transIDs including those who are transharm for whatever reason, etc. (I personally don't have much of an issue with these things. Again, as long as nonconsensual harm isn't happening, I don't give a rat's ass what people do). However, this varies from person to person though the general acceptance and letting people exist is consistent.

I hope this helped at least a little bit, anon, and stay safe when exploring your identity. There are radically inclusive spaces (not the same thing as radqueer) that can be infinitely useful for self exploration, but as I've noticed, if you have the audacity to be transID you will be crucified and/or pushed out of those spaces. Still, though, it may be a good place to start, even if you have to weed out the anti endo spaces in the mix of 'radinclus' servers and dance around the transID bush.