Autistic And Proud - Tumblr Posts
Almost everything I would like to add is already in tags: #but like how does it make SENSE what I needed to hear in that moment#without also explaining how I got to be there#(this is a rhetorical question#I do know how#but my knee-jerk reaction is exactly this#'how to I make sure you understand all the nuances my brain deems Important#- but are not in this moment -#without overexplaining?'#and well#turns out usually the minute details of the context are not actually necessary#to understand the important part# And also: I’m not sure it is empathy, that I’m showing then. I just ... tell what society deems to be appropriate in this moment. “I’m very sorry for your loss” in other words. Also, to make it absolutely clear: personally I HATE all those politeness formulas. “I’m very sorry for your loss”, “Happy birthday”, “How do you do”, “Nice to hear from you” etc. If you talk to me, talk to ME, a person, see ME, a person, give some custom made ideas, not some “one size, fit for all” bullshit!
Actually they do, if they are not honest. If I think “well, medicore,” and still smile to author and say: “OMG, so good!” I rape myself. Never gonna do this to myself again. But I CAN find something that I like and and be enthusiastic about it. “Those balloons were so cool! Such color! Much wow!”
Kind words cost nothing.
