Sexual Liberation - Tumblr Posts
Tbh, I made this account to be a feminist and talk about sex positivity issues related to women. But. I think men have it worse than us in some ways.
A woman who discusses having sex is worried over and treated as a victim. A man who has sex is suspected of being a creep or predator. I think we gotta stop seeing men as the enemy.
Feminism was about equality, not a battle between men and women. We've lost sight of that.
Things that make you a pervert:
not respecting consent
making sexual advances towards someone who you have power over
sexual harassment or doing things that make someone uncomfortable
Things that do not make you a pervert:
experiencing sexual attraction
You can't control your emotions but you can control your actions.
Communication is like lube, y'all. You may think you're fine without it. I'm sure you are. But I promise it is SO MUCH BETTER when you have LOTS of it.
Too many people are forgetting these things too quickly:
-SESTA/FOSTA passed. Despite the many, many warnings of sex workers.
-A bunch of apps started their censorship policies because Apple directly threatened their revenue if they didn't promise to cut down on the amount of porn on their sites
-MasterCard and VISA tried to outright stop processing OnlyFans work SPECIFICALLY because of the association with sex work, and no other feasible financial reason.
There is not a sudden regressive movement among individual people. Free The Nipple didn't fade into obscurity because people didn't care. It was stopped. By policies. By laws. By arrests. By censorship. These things have been purposefully put in place by companies and politicians. They saw the work we were trying to do wrt bodily autonomy, sexual liberation, and sexual freedom, and they forcibly put a stop to it.
How to come untouched, a tutorial:
So, after I shared with a couple of friends that I had the ability to masturbate with my mind, a tutorial was requested, and I figured this was the best place to share.
You will need:
-Your imagination (as vivid as possible, and try to train it to be as sense-integrative as possible: imagery, sound, touch, smell, anything you like, make it a full embodiment experience)
-Thighs you can press together tightly (friction might not be needed but if there is no pressure this will not work, there has to be a base physical element to ground yourself in your body)
Where you can do this:
-your bedroom
-the sofa in the living room of your parents' house (as long as nobody is in the room)
-your local/high school library (even if there are people around)
-anywhere as long as you dare tbh
Step 1: You need to go into this headspace where you let go of common inhibitions, not in a "drunk and excited" way, but in a "tired of all the pressure of the daily life" way. Maybe medidate, have a good cry, idk what works for you.
Step 2: choose a bunch of your deepest fantasms. The more intense the better. Now you're going to want to sink into that headspace further in order to explore the parts of your fantasm that are usually too dark for you, not because they scare you off, but because you're afraid. You need to let go of that fear.
Pro tip: for beginners, you might want to start with erotica/fanfic works for that fits those fantasm you want to explore. As you grow into your abilities, you will probably not need it anymore, but fiction is a good starting point, especially if you're not very aware/used to thinking about your most intimate kinks.
Step 3: clench your thighs close together, either close your eyes or focus all your attention on what you're reading, remember to bite your lip and hold it down if there are people around, and shove complete, razor-sharp focus (this is a skill you can train) on that story/fantasm you're working with. And then all that's left is having fun!!! This can also be a good occasion to practice your poker face ;)
Warning: as a beginner, this might take a lot of time. Do not be discouraged! The more you do it, the quicker you'll be able to get it/control how quickly you wanna cum if you're strapped for time or you really wanna enjoy it, and the lighter the fantasm is going to need to be.
Limits/restrictions : You may have noticed I'm not a vanilla person, so I have no idea how that would work for vanilla people, please address all reclamations at @shesthere .
Enjoy, have fun, and be responsible! Remember all skills take time to cultivate