Safer Sex - Tumblr Posts
Y'all, controversial opinion but like. Safer sex is really important. We have to teach teenagers about it.
Sex is a good and natural thing, we have to stop being scared of "enabling bad behavior" when teaching about how to do it safely. Use condoms, dental dams, and whatever else is needed to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STIs.
Women with a high sex drive are valid.
Men with a low sex drive are valid.
For people of all genders and sexualities, you're valid regardless of whether your sex drive is high or low.
It's okay if your sex drive doesn't meet the stereotypes associated with your gender.
Experiencing a lot of sexual desire is fun! It's sexy and interesting and puts something interesting into each day.
Experiencing very little sexual desire is also fun! It gives you one less thing to worry about, and allows you to focus on other things.
Your libido levels are valid regardless of society's expectations of you!
Things that make you a pervert:
not respecting consent
making sexual advances towards someone who you have power over
sexual harassment or doing things that make someone uncomfortable
Things that do not make you a pervert:
experiencing sexual attraction
You can't control your emotions but you can control your actions.
If I ever say something like
"My sex drive has been low recently"
Or
"I'm not horny rn"
Do not believe me. I just like to play pretend sometimes😇
Communication is like lube, y'all. You may think you're fine without it. I'm sure you are. But I promise it is SO MUCH BETTER when you have LOTS of it.
I used to think romance was a social construct, but I'm changing my view. Here's how I actually think it works
Attraction (i personally don't use the split attraction model because I experience both every time) occurs when I meet someone and they have personality traits and appearance I like
This desire makes me want to be around them, get their attention, and talk to them more
Some of what people describe as romance- like wanting to be around the person or always thinking about them, is just the biological symptoms of attraction
Yet the ways we express this and shape our relationships is shaped by social expectations for how we should act. Like the ideas of marriage, big romantic gestures, maybe even monogamy. Rings? Flowers? Dates? These things are made up.
It's like gender. Something we intrinsically feel which has been drastically shaped by society's norms.
When hozier's "someone new" said that sex is holy and beautiful even in the context of one night stands he flipped every conservative off while still acknowledging the love associated with sex and he was so real for that
"Cute sexy girls this" and "tight pussy" that and obsession over fictional girls with big tits and smooth perfect skin and cutesy innocent attitudes.
I'm done with the male gaze. Show me some more disgusting, rancid, nasty female characters. Show me pussies that stink and armpits with long, thick hair. Show me monster women and ugly women and women who have violent and concerning urges.
Give me women's sexuality as a act and a desire, not something that happens to them. Show me women who attack you nastily and pierce you with their claws. Show me women oozing with piss and blood and pussy juice. I want scales and sharp teeth, I want women who eat roadkill.
Give me women who are monstrous and disgusting. And make this central to their femininity. Done being perfect and preyed upon.
Reminder that consent goes both ways!
If you're a woman dating a man, make sure you respect his boundaries! We're told men should always want sex and desire every sexual act, but this is not true. Men are people, and have varying desires.
Also, don't make men always initiate sex and affection. And don't expect men to "spoil you" and be a "gentleman" 24/7. These things are nice because they make you feel loved and desired, but it's important to make your partner feel the same way.
Relationships should be equal. This applies to every relationship of course, not just a man and a woman, but I've noticed that gender norms often influence these relationships a little bit more.
At the root of sex positivity is self-love.
Take no shit. Protect yourself from stds. Don't let anyone violate your consent.
You're worth it.
girl help I’m crying over an astronaut meme
Sent my boyfriend a whole list of kinky fantasies, hentai images, and the like and asked him to pick his favorites.
Bro liked all the ones where I was the sub and was okay with trying the ones where was the sub.
He lets me peg him and plays his part as a submissive, but I can tell it's not his preference, and that hurts me deeply. I personally am a switch and feel I need to be in both roles at different times to have a satisfying sex life.
Is it petty to consider ending our relationship over this? He is in every other way completely perfect for me. Treats me right, listens to my opinions, adores and respects me. We have many similarities as people and have aligning life goals.
Oh fuck it's past my bedtime, better go to bed so I'm not tired in the morning
*masturbates for the next hour and a half*
*me ovulating*
*my bf getting spammed with unsolicited nudes*
I feel like nudity being censored like... forces it to be sexual. Where are my funny internet videos of a guy making his dick do little jumps to dance to the mii soundtrack?
