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"Hoseok, i don't think this is working out."

He looked at me in shock. His face was full of pain but i could not bring myself to feel bad for him.

"Yesterday was the worst thing to happen to me in so long. I know we agreed on certain terms for punishments hobi but last night wasn't it. The slap was violating and for you to just leave and then continue to punish me. You crossed a line and i don't think I'll ever really be able to get past it" I said. I was proud of myself for not letting my voice shake even though my entire body was trembling. Hoseok had been my boyfriend for 2 years and it all came crashing down in a day.

"I'm so sorry that i made you feel like that y/n. I failed you as your Dom and as your boyfriend. I had sworn to protect you and i did the exact opposite. I'd like to make it up to you but if you have made up your mind I respect that. But i truly am sorry and i will live with the guilt for the rest of my life" Hoseok said regretfully. By the time he was done speaking he had begun crying and honestly, so had I. He might have betrayed me last night but I do have a soft spot for him.

We said our final goodbyes and parted ways. Initially it was difficult to adjust to a life without him but it got easier and easier everyday. We had agreed to stay in contact, maybe even friends but that never happened. In the beginning we saw each other sometimes. Run-ins weren't uncommon as we had many mutual friends but eventually it got too painful and we both stopped attending such events. Time healed the wound, as these things often go. Slowly, the thought of the other person didn't hurt as much as it used to.

We met again, after a year and a half. It was a random Tuesday afternoon and we accidentally ran into each other at the new cupcake store that had opened up at the mall.

"Hoseok, hii it's been so long since I've seen you, how are you, how have you been?" I said with a genuine smile on my face

"Y/n heyyyy. I've been good how have you been?? Let me guess you're gonna try their chocolate cupcake?" He says in his usual cheery voice.

"Yes HAHA my love for chocolate hasn't changed" We both laughed and it didn't feel forced.

He told me how his music career has been taking off and how he's gonna do his first concert in America later this year. I told him how i got my dream job that I've always wanted and that i shifted into a much better apartment. The conversation was a little awkward and it definitely didn't have the easiness and comfort that it used to, but that's okay. Sometimes you need to move on from people and certain parts of your life to be in a better place. We said goodbye to each other once again, but this one felt much nicer than the last one.

Dom Drop and Sub Drop

Okay lovelies I will be covering subdrop AND domdrop tomorrow. It’s gonna be long. It’s gonna be extensive but if there’s anything you feel should definitely be in there or an experience you’ve personally had with either of them and you want me to add what helped you or how you knew what was going on or the symptoms you feel need to be covered let me know!!!! Either through anon or messages my inbox is always open but with such a serious topic I want to make sure I cover every base possible. Thank you for all your help lovelies!! Be good, be safe, and have fun!

Subdrop

For the multi-roll labeling purpose today I’m going to refer to it as Drop. Drop happens usually after an intense scene but can also happen after any scene if it was particularly pleasurable and draining. Drop is the result of your brain releasing “happy chemicals” and adrenaline in large doses during a scene and then your body and mental state going through a withdrawal essentially because they are not coming in at such high doses after the scene has ended. For subs it usually happens within a day or two of the scene. However, for doms it could be several days before it kicks in and really hits you. It’s especially bad for subs and doms with anxiety or self doubt. I will be covering both subdrop and domdrop today because they are both very real and could potentially be very dangerous.

Subdrop-

Subdrop tends to happen a day or two after a scene. It does not always happen but those no real way to guarantee it won’t happen so it’s good to keep an eye out for it any time. There are a lot of different ways it can show up. Let’s talk about the physical things first

- It can show up as feeling like a hangover

- like you stayed up too late (even if you got more than enough sleep)

- you could wake up feeling just off

- Drop can be associated with feelings of loneliness, mental and physical exhaustion, confusion, insecurity, tremors and many other physical symptoms.

Not so random fact: pain can make you tired. You’re going to feel it and it’s going to wear your energy down, and your body is going to be short on chemicals to give you a boost. This can make you crash and suddenly become exhausted, and being tired can make you emotional.

Honestly, the emotional side is the more dangerous half. Emotions can wreak havoc on our logic,you could be great one minute like normal, then suddenly you’re completely out of it and it can be mental torture.

- you could feel abandoned

- Depression(especially if you already have it on a daily basis)

- Even feeling unloved is common during subdrop.

Subdrop can not be prevented or avoided entirely. You can try but there’s no sure fire way to do so. Here’s how to help subdrop:

- If you can get to your dom and they can help you calm down and reassure you with cuddles and words that works fairly well for most people.

- COMMUNICATION( I really can not say that enough) Text or call your Dom as soon as possible.

- if you can’t get a hold of them, you need to stop and evaluate.

- Remind yourself that sub drop is normal

- remind yourself of what happened during and after the session.

- There should have been some type of aftercare, go back to that moment and stay there.

- Remember how loved you felt, hold on to the fact that your dom cares for you.

- Take your self to a happy place with happy and positive thoughts

If you’re feeling a little emotional, think of what makes you feel better when you’re sick (because you kind of are). A warm blanket, a bubble bath, candy, a favorite drink, music, etc. If you are someone who likes to journal, keep a notebook with you to write out how you feel to get the words out and down, this might also help you clear your head before you talk to your Dom.

Okay I know I was supposed to have this up a while ago but I had several things come up. I just recently got a new job and that’s been taking up a lot more of my free time which was sparse enough since I try to meet with my friends often. As you can see this only covers subdrop. I’m not confident in the level of research I’ve been able to do on domdrop and don’t want to give vague or incorrect information to you guys. I’ll try to get it done soon but no promises. I will also be at daughters of the moon which is a Wiccan event this weekend so contact and any sort of posting will be delayed until at least Monday. As always be good, stay safe, and have fun!