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Internality begets subjectivity; in which, the consequence of such reaction results in the inception of the "subject".

How I Met My Soulmate Manga And Why I Dropped It At Chapter 19 SPOILERSSSS (i think) (a VERY subjective manga review made by a teenager lol)

im gonna say that i REALLY liked this manga in the beginning. the artstyle was GORGEOUS, the people are GORGEOUS! it was cute when they got together (and im constant thirsting over iori but thats besides my point).

BUT, later on it just got a WEE BIT annoying.... tell me why seno (the first love from high school and also kinda the second male lead) is still trying to pursue my girl yuki... LIKE SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND NOW!!!! SHES IN A RELATIONSHIP!!! AND HE KNOWS THAT!!!1 yet hes still trying to pursue her.... like bro theres plenty of fish in the sea, you can find new love, another girl out there (or boy if you swing that way, happy pride🏳‍🌈 lol) who may actually make you feel more happy and make you worth something CUZ PURSUING SOMEONE WHO LIKES SOMEONE ELSE IS NOT HELPING MY BOI.

(from chapter 19) And then it just gets progressively MORE AND MORE MESSY! like goddamn kardashians youve got competition. why do they keep adding more mess in the bag like THATS ENOUGH SLICES

(from chapter 17) tell me why this unicorn fangirly had to tell her that... that wasnt necessary??? its none of their business to literally give that information to her which could potentially damage her relationship with iori... like stop it... get some help

AND THEN

(from chapter 19)

She just found out some ground breaking info from ibuki (iori/male lead's brother) about some stupid complications, misunderstandings, and ✨pretendings✨and stuff that MIGHT ruin iori's perception and damage his relationship with his brother MORE as if its not tattered enough, and she cant conjure up the strength and confidence to forward that news she basically scooped up from brother dearest ✨🙃 cuz why would you want that right? youre basically shattering an ounce of happiness from a person you love and who wants that. not yuki def cuz all she wants is to make iori happy and give him the joy and DESERVES. WHY ARE WE ADDING MORE DRAMA??!?!?! CAN WE NOT BE HAPPY--

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*cough* uhhh yeah why couldnt we just have ended the story with like them finalyl ending up together, final scene is in the hot sprint, ibuki and iori sorted their shit out with the power of ✨communication✨, seno can just move on and try to find new love or atleast work on himself.

im just tired guys oh wow... ig i just want happiness for once cuz i just keep dying inside in most of these romance stories 💀

if you have any opinions about my opinions feel free to comment ig lol if you want IM WILLING TO CHAT LOL MAYBE YOULL CONVINCE ME OTHERWISE OR YOULL AGREE WITH ME

or ig ill try to just continue and maybe i can just give my final review lmao (which might take a long time cuz this is still ongoing i think🧍‍♂️)

Mediation

When two people are arguing and a third person comes in to mediate/bring in a different viewpoint/whatever, I see a few different methods of handling it. I do this a lot myself, actually, and having watched a couple of methods, I have one that I chose as my favorite; however, I get a few bad remarks when I use it, so I wanted to lay out my logic here in the hopes that things are a bit clearer.

As an example: one kid took candy from another kid, claiming that he was owed that candy. A mediator of some kind, be it a parent, a teacher, or another kid, sees the situation and acts on it to bring some resolve. There's three main methods that I see people use in some variation.

Subjective - The mediator chooses a side from the start that they'll support. Perhaps it's not entirely blatant, as it could be an emotional bias that sways their judgement, or some sort of intuition; but whatever it is, it's not entirely logical. Sometimes this is based on good intentions (my friend/son/star student wouldn't do that!!).

Outcome: The favored kid receives retribution from the unfavored kid.

Pros: Usually an emotional bias tends to be for good reason; the kid had to get that reputation somehow. It places less stress on the mediator, with a high chance of being correct, and brings judgement to the situation. The mediator also has a sense of satisfaction for helping.

Cons: It could be a bribe, or the parents could have too much faith in their kids, or it could otherwise be wrong. In fact, it might require a second mediator to determine whether this is true or not. In any case, the mediator can be accused of taking sides.

Most used by: Friends, parents

Objective - The mediator listens to both sides equally and searches for facts and morals. When both kids have had their say, the mediator chooses who is right based on as much logic and evidence as possible. Justice is then dealt out based on the situation.

Outcome: The kid who is deemed the victim receives retribution from the kid who is deemed the offender

Pros: The correct justice is often laid out...

Cons: It is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to be objective! Almost all of the time, there is some sort of emotional bias - even if the mediator has never met these kids before. Any use of fallacies completely destroys the mediation as a whole, and even moral "absolutes" vary from person to person. Also, since one kid is told that they're wrong, the mediator can be accused of taking sides.

Most used by: Judges

Impartial - The mediator listens to both sides, attempting to calm the nerves of both kids where necessary. The mediator then tries to get them to forgive each other, without choosing sides or dealing out punishment.

Outcome: Both kids get candy from the office.

Pros: The tension is removed, and the mediator distances him/herself from the situation as much as possible.

Cons: Whoever should have gotten punished did not. In fact, they get away scot-free, and the kid who was wronged receives nothing!

Most used by: Teachers, counselors

Could you tell from my vocabulary which one I like best? I try to be objective, which doesn't always work out for me. But I've been accused by three people now of taking sides when I do this, so I just wanted to make one thing clear:

That's the freaking point!

I hate impartiality! It just promotes further tension between the two parties, because the situation is never fully resolved (so both think they're still right). And it also promotes that the bad guys get to do whatever they want, because the victim does not get any sort of solace, and the offender is never told that what they did was wrong... except by the other party, who they're not listening to anyway.

So yes, I choose sides - after I hear what's going on. Because I'm not going to sit by and watch someone be a jerk to someone else. Even if it means I get into the fight myself and have a chance of being wrong.

Not always, but sometimes nonetheless, just because something is true doesn't mean it must control you; often some truths gain the power of facts in our eyes and minds.. and just as often we tend to diminish some facts into mere, allegedly, subjective truths.

Emily Yvonne

"Stop whimpin puppy, someone might hear you"