Turihet - Tumblr Posts
I got a coward in my inbox crying about how a certain post (link) of mine sounds like 'conversion therapy' before supposedly blocking me, lol. at some point closemindedness and lack of reading comprehension ceases to be my problem, but as I have issues with how I worded things anyway I'm making this post.
when I said, 'give me more lesbians who date men, too' and 'give me gay men who also date women happily', I did not mean 'all lesbians and gay men should do this'. I know that some people would take it that way regardless of if I worded it better, but I was referring to mspec lesbians and gays being more out and proud with how they break the norms of what's expected of them as lesbians and gays. regardless of if you think these people are 'just bisexual', at the end of the day there are lesbians who date men and gay men who date women. again, this doesn't mean every single lesbian and gay does this or is obligated to do so, and I hate that my little post about inclusion and celebration of all queerness was taken as me trying to force queer people to do things they don't want to. I hate that I even feel the need to explain myself.
Alas, misconceptions are to be expected if your post is put on the radar of exclusionists. I could have worded it like 'allow the lesbians that want to date men to do so and let the gay men who want to date women do so, too' but I'm sure a problem would arise from that as well. It's saddening, as well as irritating, that there are people who go out of their way to misunderstand an inclusive post, but that's also why making these kinds of posts is important. It is important to stand in the face of exclusionary rhetoric and say 'we exist'. in a world that wants all queer people dead, it is important to uplift those who feel outcasted by our own community, and I don't care if I sound like a broken record here. I will never stop unapologetically being in the corners of m-spec lesbians and gays, lesboys and turigirls, and all of the other queer individuals that are pushed away for being too 'complicated', 'contradictory', and/or 'invalid'.
we exist, we will continue to exist, and we have always existed. we are as worthy of support and respect of our identities as anyone else. no identity is more worthy of scrutiny than another, and the true homophobia/queerphobia is pretending that there is a single 'invalid' queer person.