..hey, So You Know How System Tumblr Subtly Forces 'normal Things' In Systems? Systems Are Complicated

..hey, so you know how system tumblr subtly forces 'normal things' in systems? systems are complicated adaptations to trauma, no one system is going to present the same..

and you know that's okay, right?

sometimes it's easy to get wrapped up in what everyone else thinks of you/your system.. what truly matters with D.I.D / O.S.D.D systems is the clinical appearance. if you reach the diagnostic criteria for a C.D.D, then your system is enough. no matter how you present.

whether your alters are obvious, covert or anything in between.

there's a few things that are common within systems (ie. an alter who fronts more than the others, protector/s, younger alters), but that doesn't mean you have to have them. that's okay if you don't look exactly the same.

once we reached a certain level of awareness of one another, it was natural for our system to fall into categories with an alter ‘heading’ the ‘department’

for example, i watch out for our littles and any interjected members, in doing so, im considered the ‘head’ of that section of our system. one of our seven year olds is the leader of our littles and she relays information to myself and to other protectors. it allows us to monitor who is struggling, who needs extra support etc without having to trust that everyone will communicate with one person.

that was natural for our system, however, that doesn't mean that's everyone's experience.

it doesn't have to be.

sending love and hugs to anyone who needs them,

lillia (🪻)

I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly

@nathanwpyle

I literally love this.

I couldn't stop laughing for 20 minutes.

No joke.

Considering my theology & philosophy class didn't appreciate my point

I'm posting it here, on tumblr, with the queers, the nihilists and the mentally ill

“I feel like if the threat of eternal damnation is the only thing stopping you from killing someone in cold blood, you’re not really a good person”

I'm up for polite debate on this point, especially as philosophy, theology, ethics, and morality are fluid and influenced by a lot of things.

Oh my love I've been longing for you

It's been silent since I last saw you

I've been willing the tide towards you

In my soul I know that we're not through

I'll turn cold I'll live by the sword too

Write your name permanent like a tattoo

But I've been dreaming of you there

When the wind was in your hair

And you lingered on my skin like salt air

Was it as perfect as it seemed?

Was it nothing but a dream

Til I left you on the beach

And for now I'll be

chxrlotte (@shutupchxrlotte) released a new song... i will be back in several hours after listening to this on loop..