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Lies! Lies and slander!
[You literally went to hug Valé because he got you cup pudding with the groceries 🍑]
Who's side are you on, Lila?? 😭
Fun fact: @sky-painted-in-butterflies can be easily bribed with food
..hey, so you know how system tumblr subtly forces 'normal things' in systems? systems are complicated adaptations to trauma, no one system is going to present the same..
and you know that's okay, right?
sometimes it's easy to get wrapped up in what everyone else thinks of you/your system.. what truly matters with D.I.D / O.S.D.D systems is the clinical appearance. if you reach the diagnostic criteria for a C.D.D, then your system is enough. no matter how you present.
whether your alters are obvious, covert or anything in between.
there's a few things that are common within systems (ie. an alter who fronts more than the others, protector/s, younger alters), but that doesn't mean you have to have them. that's okay if you don't look exactly the same.
once we reached a certain level of awareness of one another, it was natural for our system to fall into categories with an alter ‘heading’ the ‘department’
for example, i watch out for our littles and any interjected members, in doing so, im considered the ‘head’ of that section of our system. one of our seven year olds is the leader of our littles and she relays information to myself and to other protectors. it allows us to monitor who is struggling, who needs extra support etc without having to trust that everyone will communicate with one person.
that was natural for our system, however, that doesn't mean that's everyone's experience.
it doesn't have to be.
sending love and hugs to anyone who needs them,
lillia (🪻)
We're doing an assignment on DID at the moment: it's a mostly visual task. We're planning on creating a (hypothetical) mental health campaign aimed towards lowering the stigma around DID/OSDD as we've faced some real shit at the hands of DID stereotypes
Just wanted to ask some other systems what they associate with DID? Colours, symbols, designs, etc
And if anyone has anything they wish non systems knew about being a system, that too!
Thanks everyone!
(reblogs appreciated for a bigger sample size)
pk psa
Are we the only system who genuinely despises using plural kit?? seriously so many people don't realise system data is by default public with the right keys - it doesn't have to be, but it's not an easy to find and many people don't realise.
I was messing around with it, trying to set up a test profile....
and with one misclick I brought up a random system I had never met's full alter list (200+ alters), pronouns, trauma, roles, likes, dislikes, etc. Along with their system description which contained their full trauma history, bodily age, birthday, and social media.
That much information should not be readily available to anyone. It's just not safe. Please be careful how much information you leave public.
Some people aren't that nice and will use that information against you. No matter your age, but minors are particularly vulnerable to it. Knowing your system's full triggers is such an easy way for people to take advantage of you/your system - especially if you have strong amnesia barriers, there's a high chance some system's may not realise anything is happening.
IF YOU USE PK, PLEASE CHECK YOUR PRIVACY SETTINGS.
We use tupperbox instead of pluralkit if we're insisting on chatting as ourselves on discord.. we find it easier to use than PK and there's very little information displayed in a profile (the picture inserted below is all that's displays with a tupper proxy)
Just be careful, everyone. Okay?
Thought of the evening: I would never have chosen DID; and I simply don't understand anyone who wish to have multiple personalities...
I haven't been aware of my life for the last few months, and I despise how out of control my life feels. I do not remember most of my life; those memories live with my alters but I (now) love them with my whole heart.
I would have rather I never ended up this way. We never wanted to be a system, and none of us would wish this on anyone.
However, I am glad I didn't have to go through those things alone. I'm grateful my mind put up barriers, so I don't have to live every day re-experiencing and remembering those things I've read of in my system's journal entries. I'm glad our mind kept us safe, I'm glad we did our best at the time.
I'm grateful that I had them when I did. I'm grateful I had someone watching out for us even when I didn't realise it. I'm grateful for the system who kept me as safe as they could. I'm glad I had them with me.
I love my brain for making me a family...
but I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
“I am the sum of my parts, and my parts are absolutely phenomenal.” - Jeni Haynes in her memoir The Girl in the Green Dress speaking on DID/MPD
~ host
"why are you typing on your phone so much"
us: *texting ourselves on SimplyPlural, Octocon and Antar*
us: *tracking triggers and switches*
what we say: uh- uhh- uhhhhh- talking to a friend...?
Not to make anyone worry, but saying you're a CDD system can make you a target for abusers and bullying.
By stating you're a system
You're disclosing that you went through debilitating trauma at a young age
You're disclosing that you may act like a young child in certain situations, and that child may not know, or understand certain acts
You disassociate to a level where we do not know what was done by/to the collective body
You're telling people that you may have patches of amnesia, disorientation, and where you may split under pressure
Many systems have issues with self harm, suicidal thoughts, substance use disorders and unfortunately, many abusers will take advantage of this
Systems, due to their amnesiac nature, are very easy to gaslight, often by saying that a different part/alter did or didn't do something
But Kyle! What can I do about it?!?
Choose, very carefully, who you tell that you have a system. We try not to tell new people in our life until we're fully trusting that they won't take advantage of the knowledge of the system. Even then, we can count on one hand how many of our in person friends and family are aware of our system.
Avoid linking social media, this includes discord, where you are 'out' about your system to other social media, especially around workplaces. Some workplaces, schools, universities and other places still hold stigma around DID (thank you, Split /s).
Be careful what you tell people about your system: keeping alter counts private, not giving out certain alter's names, using pseudonyms/symbols for alters are some of the ways we've done this. If someone we don't want to know about the system asks about an alter name, the majority of the time, we'll say that they're an OC.
Most people don't know what DID and OSDD are unless they have been in certain circles or happen to have an interest in it, so you are usually safe… but I always air on the side of caution.
Do what you wish with this list, I wanted to put these thoughts out there. Stay safe, feel free to reblog with more ways you keep your system safe.
Drink water, have something to eat, have your meds if you need them, use your mobility aids if you need them, and do something nice for yourself today.
With love,
System Dad (Kyle / 💜)