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Having a sister who is also ace rules. I've been debating for ages whether or not I wanted to get a mini flag for my room and she up and got a package of them as a bday gift from her roommate and her first thought was to give me one too
Making my own post because my thoughts have strayed pretty far from the immediate topic but re: that “ace-friendly” AO3 tag poll
Most comments on that post I’ve seen are agreeing that it’s useless and infantalizing when it means “no sex” and a few comments have mentioned what they would want a tag like that to mean. Many of the ideas are good, but I think they still suffer from “wait what does Ace friendly even mean. Who decides” problem
Which is why I wouldn’t want to see “Ace-friendly” even with another meaning, but there’s a couple more specific tags I would like to see on a fic, once in a while:
Non-amatonormative depiction of romance — self-explanatory. I would love for something like this to be a searchable tag! I sometimes like reading romance, and would like there to be an easier way to find some that I am sure won’t be full of “now that we have kissed once, our relationship is so much more important than it was before, when we were merely friends forged in the fires of battle. Also we now no longer care about our other friends.”
Non-amatonormative Soulmate Worldbuilding — somewhat like the above, but specific to soulmate AUs, to delineate which ones don’t embed monogamous romance for everyone as a law of physics in their universe
[character] open to a-spec interpretation — for when you haven’t explicitly written an aro or ace character, but you also haven’t written anything that would contradict that, and you want to mention it.
Ace Character Not Subject to Interrogation — you have an Ace character. They exist as they want and do not have to justify it in narration or in dialogue to any other character. The same tag for Aro would also be nice.
Signposted Sex Scenes — some authors will leave notes like “hey if you want to skip the smut, it starts after the paragraph about the mushrooms and ends twelve paragraphs later.” It would be great to know if a fic does that! It can make it easier to approach a work, for whatever reason a person might hesitate, without making any assumptions why anyone might do that. (Sometimes I want to skip a sex scene just because I’m reading on my lunch break at work!)
There’s probably others that would be useful but I can’t think of any right now—feel free to add on if you like.
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In a really weird mental spot rn where I just got back from camping with friends and had lots of fun and we took lots of pics and laughed a lot and it makes me want to not finish my hw so I can continue having fun but at the same time a lot of the talk was about guys and I didn't participate too much and there were a few times I almost thought I'd have to say something vague bc idk if I want to come out or not but then the convo changed so I didn't have to but also I'm lowkey convinced at least one of them now thinks I'm a lesbian even though I'm not, I'm just ace and only relate to less than half the comments they were making about guys bc I just don't experience attraction the same way all of them do even though we all like guys
Today’s Queer DC Character of the Day is Connor Hawke AKA Green Arrow, who is canonically asexual!
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image descriptions: an illustration of a man spraying a child with a spray can. Each image has a respective pride flag edited onto the spray:
asexual, aromantic, aroace, aroallo, alloace, aplatonic
I made some edits of Levi with the asexual flag because I couldn’t find any. They are not perfect but I hope you like it.
Richie is asexual. To me. Because when he talks about being his anime girls, he says he wants to 'hold them in his arms' which is an entirely nonsexual activity, when in my experience anime nerds will not hesitate to tell you all the wild freaky things they want to do with the characters. Also, the whole 'hit it and quit it conversation' feels like a desperate attempt at bro talk (possibly inspired by Richie eavesdropping on the football players when he's in the locker room as Zeke) that just culminates in awkwardness. Richie can't understand why Pete wouldn't want to hook up with Ruth (because all allo people seem to want to have sex all the time, right?) but simultaneously has no desire to do so himself, despite his own arguments about how easy it would be.
Also because I can do whatever I want forever and all of my faves get the 'asexual panromantic' beam projected upon them.
Hehehe just bought subtly ace colored tennis shoes
Ik this is probably the fifteenth time you've seen someone say this but we need more qprs in fandom space. Instead of shipping we'll call it canoeing and we'll make it just as popular. Please I need this ok
I tried to create a color-picked aroace flag from Boromir and
I don't think it worked very well lol
okay this is what i have to say
aces do not exclusively date other aces. there are many many allosexual people who are fine with dating aces--even aces who don't have sex! it's time for people to stop assuming that a relationship isn't complete without Making Fuck. allos who think this: not everyone puts as much value on sex as you. please expand your minds. i promise that it is entirely possible to have a healthy, fulfilling romantic relationship without doing the do.
Really funny moment today where my roommates and I moved into a new apt all together. Got greeted with some notes by our neighbors and one of them says "Slay queens!" but the n is kinda short on one side and looks like "Slay queers!"
What the neighbors don't know is that I'm ace and one of my roommates is bi. So they accidentally hit it spot on sjfkfkdkskdkf
sex sounds pretty scary, thank god its not real
Books Where The Ace Character Has A Relationship
There needs to be more of these. Some of us do want relationships!
All these books have canon ace characters - word on the page vs headcanons fyi.
1) Let's Talk About Love by Claire Kann. This book gets a lot of buzz, as it should, for its portrayal of a black ace girl navigating a relationship. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/31625039-let-s-talk-about-love
2) Chameleon Moon by RoAnna Sylver, and the other stories about Parole. This has a poly relationship with an ace character and a whole lot of other rep. It reads like a blockbuster action movie, if that's your thing. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/31938167-chameleon-moon
3) Thaw by Elyse Springer. Featuring a relationship between a model and a librarian, I love how this is such a standard romance novel. All the beats are there - it's just got an ace woman in it ^_^ https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/32673586-thaw
4) The Spy with the Red Balloon by Katherine Locke. Wolf is demisexual (hello ace brethren) and his romance is his B-plot. This is completely okay because trying to sabotage Hitler takes priority. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38650956-the-spy-with-the-red-balloon
5) Returning to You by Gwen Tolios. That rare partnership between an ace and aro character (neither of whom are aro ace), full of pining, family drama, and going from friends to lovers. As aces do. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60497147-returning-to-you
6) Three Stupid Weddings by Ann Gallagher. Fake dating, friends to lovers, but make it gay and ace? Yes. You need this. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/41074778-three-stupid-weddings
7) His Quiet Agent by Ada Maria Soto. This is a classic ace romance, released way back in 2017, that reads like the gentle sickfic in the hurt/comfort tag on Ao3. Nurse your ace coworker back to health, and now you're a couple. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/35238838-his-quiet-agent?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_9
8) Making Love by Aidan Wayne. This features an aro and a ace character realizing they're falling for each other in a world of cupids and succubi. Suuuper fluffy. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/33120447-making-love?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_26
9) Enchanted Soles edited by Sasha Miller. This is a queer anthology featuring stories about shoes, but the last story called Hallowed Veil is the gold star. It features TWO ace characters, one in a relationship, and highlights the spectrum of desires. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30075296-enchanted-soles
10) How to Be Ace: A Memoir Of Growing Up Asexual by Rebecca Burgess. Non-fiction graphic novel about growing up ace, including dating troubles. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54403237-how-to-be-ace
The everyone thinks you’re a lesbian but you’re actually just AroAce can’t be an original experience. Has anyone else have this happen to them?
i had a vision please use these for good or evil or whatever
To be authentic is to accept my Asexuality and know that I am not alone and that I am not broken. 💜