Being Embarrassed Is AN ILLUSION!

Being Embarrassed is AN ILLUSION!

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“Most importantly, you must always have faith in yourself.” - Elle Woods

What does being embarrassed feel like? Well, our first feelings are always insecurity and to overthink. We worry about what others think of us. We worry about getting judged, to even overthinking what we said. I promise you that these people are too focused on their own life. They could even be just like you and overthinking what they said or did.

Why do we get embarrassed? A big part of our population are most likely people pleasers. We all care about what someone thinks about us. Whether it’s your parents, relatives, friends, bf/gf, etc. We also get judged a lot, from the day we came into this life. It’s hard to go from a pure and innocent child to a child scared of being judged. In conclusion, being scared of getting judged is why we get so embarrassed.

The mindset! In order to truly realize being embarrassed is an illusion, you have to walk with this thought. It has to become a life motto, not just that but a rule for yourself. You have to become committed and make sure you’re aware of this. If you get embarrassed and forget it’s an illusion, brush it off.

Validating yourself! One of the main reasons why we get embarrassed or afraid of being judged is, because we love praise. Praise from others that is, so start praising yourself. When you see yourself in the mirror, compliment yourself. Tell yourself the things you want to hear so badly from.

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For my girlies that want to be really succesful and happy but have not figured out yet ie. Are yet to connect with their life's purpose and/or choose a career, here's the tip of the century: devote your time to learning a diverse group of practical, timeless and mostly widely applicable skills. Examples?

Language. Learning a parent language eg German or Spanish or Mandarin will never not come in handy. When you do figure out your career this skill will find a way to be applicable. Let's not forget the networking opportunities plus if there is a foreign aspect to it eg an office abroad guess who will make the list.

Dance or music. Mostly classical. This might not apply to your career if it's not in the arts but it connects you to your feminine creative side, is great for your mental health, brings a touch of sophistication to you, the health benefits and oh so impressive. Plus it's music sis. Music solves everything.

Crafts(wo)manship. We are talking knitting, pottery, crotchetting, couture, etc. One, hobby. Two, Etsy. Three, sophistication. Four, femininity. Five, you'll give the best gifts over Christmas, trust me.

Swimming, driving, flight, etc. I am 100% convinced swimming and driving are basic life skills. Will there ever be a day in your life when you'll regret that you can drive? Or swim? Unless you're angling for driver it might not contribute to your career but it will to your life.if you can get a flight license do that. If you can get a motorcycle license do just that. Even if it's a hot air balloon, do just that. You can not convince me swimming is not a life skill I am literally surprised by people that can't swim. Never been in a flood huh.

Social skills. The thing about social skills is that they are, drumroll, SKILLS. Skills are not inborn, they are learned and we live in the era of Robert Greene and Genie Sayles and Dale Carnegie and free online courses and if there is one set of skills that's the backbone of everything its this one. There is no time having social skills will not help. Not professionally. Not socially. Not even in your family. Or friends. Whatever your life purpose is, you will need social skills. Communication is the key to EVERYTHING.

"Health" related skills. I'm talking gut health, get a first aid certification, learn herbs and holistic methods and reiki and yoga and all that. Your wellbeing shouldn't even be a choice honestly. Is there one time being at prime health will Not come in handy? No. Till you figure stuff out learn the right foods, learn to heal your gut, learn quick first aid tips, learn how your body works, learn female reproductive health, learn evolutionary psychology- stack up on the health.if your community has traditional healing methods learn that. Especially those of us that want to be moms? You'll need this so bad.

Fashion, styling, beauty. Because we are women and let's be honest , it's much easier and better when you finally learn to style yourself and express yourself through your clothing & make up &c &c and do what's good for your skin and hair and- you get it. Is there a day you will not need to dress? No? There you go

Financial education. Now if I need to explain this to you please meet me out back I just wanna talk

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How to be an It Girl (pt 2)

“I don’t care much about what others think. My life revolves around me and only me.” - Song Jia

Learn the importance of having a private life. One of my favorite pieces of advice I can give is to be private. Never share too much, share little by little. Some of our most popular it girls we still don’t know much about. (Ex: Wonyoung, Marilyn Monroe, Song Jia, etc)

2. Dress nicely and have your own personal style. Dressing nicely 24/7 will change your whole appearance. Make sure your clothes are ironed, clean and colors match. Overall try to make your clothes look neat. Nevertheless, having your own personal style includes your own accessory. That is….your confidence! Therefore find a style that makes you feel confident and good!

3. Expanding your vocabulary! Expanding your vocabulary will not only make sound more efficient but also may help you in the future. Simple words like, wanton, vitriol, pernicious will make a big difference.

4. Proper hygiene care! I swear that proper hygiene care is SOOOO important. I’m gonna be brutally honest, who wants to be next to someone with bad hygiene? I’m genuinely not trying to be rude, just honest. The importance of hygiene is HUGE. Simply brushing your teeth three times a day, showering, exfoliating your skin, oil pulling, putting deodorant on DAILY, changing your underwear DAILY, flossing, etc. Whatever you can do for your hygiene DO IT!

5. Be nice to everyone! This is another HUGE tip, being nice to people. Yes, even your haters/enemies. Do you see your favorite it girls being rude to people, no. Exactly, so always be nice to everyone around you.

Remember, “Never pass a mirror without looking at yourself.” - Paris Hilton! Love you, dolls! 💋

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Just know that the work you put into yourself will always compound and pay you back 100x. And there’s no rush to a finish line, everything is always a work in progress. I will never regret going to college, buying books, courses, classes, investing in hobbies, traveling, the gym and workout classes, high quality organic food, good healthcare, high quality clothing, taking care of my skin/hair/nails/teeth/brows/lashes/etc. because it all snowballs into the larger picture. No one can take your education from you. No one can take your fit body and healthy, glowing appearance from you. It takes real work day in and day out to have it all together. I’ve invested thousands of dollars and countless hours into myself and I would do it all again and then some. There is no easy fix and there is no get rich quick scheme. You know what you have to do, it just takes the courage to do it.

Tips for improving vocabulary and being a good conversationalist?

I dislike that I'm so shy and find it difficult to speak with others, especially if it's about topics I'm not to familiar with.

Thank you 😊

Becoming A Better Conversationalist!

Why do I get this way? Are you shy because you're scared of being judged? Is it because you may be insecure? What is the main problem(s) for being shy when speaking with others? Journal and take time to fully understand your thoughts and feelings. I know journaling sounds cliche, but it truly will help. Once you discover the problem(s) then try to work on it.

2. Everyone is to focused on THEMSELVES! You being afraid of being judged is probably happening to another person in the room too. Nobody cares about that small little mistake you made. Sure, they may think about it for 5 or 10 seconds. After that it’s back to themselves.

3. Understand life is about LEARNING! You had to learn your first steps, first words, your personal style, etc. It is perfectly fine if you don’t know anything about a certain topic. Instead of feeling embarrassed or shy take it as an opportunity to learn about it. Ask the person about it, I’m sure they would love to explain it.

4. Asking questions that the person is passionate about! If you like a certain topic a lot ask them about it. People who are passionate about a topic LOVE to talk about it. I have never met one person who is passionate about a topic and doesn’t start ranting away. This is one of the easiest way to have a conversation.

5. Matching other’s energy! I’m not saying to completely change yourself. On the other hand, matching a little of someone’s energy is helpful to know. Read and observe whoever and then match their energy. Humans LOVE others like them. It also helps the person become a lot more comfortable around you. Leading, to you and the person becoming closer.

I honestly could give more tips and advice so let me know if you guys want a part two 🤭

As for improving and expanding vocabulary, I will post a separate blog for that!

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Love you dolls!! Also, thank you to whoever asked this I hope I helped 😘🫶