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How to Become an It Girl

“Elegance is the only beauty that never fades.” - Audrey Hepburn

Manners and Body Language! Legs are together, arms close to body, head high. Of course, I can’t forget good posture. No matter your body language, always make sure your posture is good. Manners are just as equally important. A simple, excuse me, please, thank you, pardon me, makes such a big difference!

Signature everything! Signature jewelry, perfume, color, bag, hairstyle, EVERYTHING you can think of. Make your own iconic look. When people see you, they know that you own that look. Everything, about it says ME!

Take care of your health and focus on you! Health is wealth!! Take care of your body, mind, soul, heart, skin, hair, nails, teeth, etc. Focusing on yourself will change your life, I PROMISE. I recommend you watch self development videos/youtubers. Just like, TheWizardLiz, Tam Kaur, Simonesquared, Persephonesmind, etc.

4. Look presentable/make a strong first impression! I will never forget when Song Jia first walked in on the island in Singles Inferno. Her hair was done, nails, outfit looked fresh, makeup was done. Not to mention, she walked in with confidence, a smile, good posture and stayed to herself. She carried herself so well. She greeted everyone with a beautiful smile and graceful bow.

“Happy girls are the prettiest” - Audrey Hepburn

5. Stay true to yourself! Treat yourself with love. If you’re looking for someone to feel your void, fill it yourself. Learn to love everything about you, even your imperfections. Appreciate the little things in life, like dancing in your room alone, your grwms, picking out your outfit, the trees, sky, laying in your bed, living life. Celebrate your life everyday.

Level Up For 2024!

“Be confident trust yourself and never let anyone put you down, if they put you down it’s because they’re jealous.” - Adriana Lima

Set goals for yourself! It could be daily, weekly, monthly, yearly goals. I recommend you set goals for your career, health, knowledge, mindset, or just what you want. There is only one rule with setting goals though. Whatever you decide, make it happen.

2. Stop lying to yourself! “Oh, I’ll do it tomorrow.” I don’t remember you doing it that day though. So, why did you lie? You need to be able to trust and take care of yourself. Lying to yourself is not helping with either of those. Of course if your schedule got busy and you couldn’t do it, thats fine. On the other hand, when you say or promise yourself you’ll do it and then don’t. That’s disrespectful to yourself.

3. Prioritizing your peace! Take time out of your day to meditate, read, dance to your favorite songs, go on solo dates. Not only is this prioritizing your peace and you but also your happiness. Once I started to prioritize my peace I found true happiness. This is why I stand by prioritizing your peace a lot. It’s something you won’t regret. So, take time for yourself EVERYDAY!

4. Romanticize your life! Try to live in the moment as much as possible. Even, do your favorite things. Romanticizing your life doesn’t mean you have to have money and buy a bunch of things. It simply means to find joy, love, peace in your surroundings. Life is so beautiful when you realize the blessings you have. For example leafs falling in fall, dancing to childhood songs, breathing in cold winter air, picking out a cute outfit, the first snow fall, etc.

5. 2024 is the year for more! Reach for bigger achievements, more money, working out more, doing more self care, more self love, more knowledge, the list goes on. Let’s make 2024 a great year and start by getting in the habit of those things already!

“I sent myself love letters…” - Cher Horowitz

For those who want to know more about romanization then I recommend you check out Vivian Rose and Fernanda Ramirez podcast’s takes on it!

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Steps to Success!

(none of these photos are mine!)

“Kill them with success and bury them with a smile.” - Coco Chanel

Meet people who will fit into your future! You could even meet new people who are where you want to be. Someone you can learn from and look up to. Whether it’s their success, influence, passion, money, lifestyle, etc. Learn and get inspired from them! Make sure that they respect you as for you respecting them.

Don’t let others get in the way! Respectfully, if this person is stopping you from getting to your full potential, they have to go. Think, will this help me reach my goal? You could even ask yourself if this person is stopping you. If the answer is yes, then you may need to distance yourself. I’m not saying completely cut them off when you don’t want to, that’s not my decision. You decide who has your time and energy.

Drive, passion, ambition! If you know what you want in life, and you know how you’re gonna get it. Work hard for that life, that success, and be discipline. Don’t let something small get in your way. You wanna be closer to God, work hard to get closer to Him. You wanna make a bunch of money, work hard for money. Stay discipline and consistent.

Hobbies and skills! Social skills, health skills, academic skills, athletic skills. Hobbies that keep you busy and that you can set goals for. Learning a language as a hobby can get you SO far in life. Same for social skills and so many other skills/hobbies.

Invest in yourself! You have probably heard this from a lot of successful celebrities, but what does it mean? Investing in yourself means to invest in your knowledge, brain, beauty, etc. These things will all benefit you. For investing in your knowledge and your brain, learn new things! Maybe it’s a language, learning about history, reading books, and so many others. Beauty, take time everyday to feel and look well-groomed. Do your nails, put a cute outfit on, try a new hairstyle, do skincare, etc. Don’t forget your inside beauty too!! Remember, always be kind, well-mannered, and compliment others if you wish! “Never try to someone else’s definition of beautiful. You have to define beautiful for yourself.” - Zendaya

Love you, dolls! Stay pretty and iconic 💋

Being Embarrassed is AN ILLUSION!

(I don’t own these photos!)

“Most importantly, you must always have faith in yourself.” - Elle Woods

What does being embarrassed feel like? Well, our first feelings are always insecurity and to overthink. We worry about what others think of us. We worry about getting judged, to even overthinking what we said. I promise you that these people are too focused on their own life. They could even be just like you and overthinking what they said or did.

Why do we get embarrassed? A big part of our population are most likely people pleasers. We all care about what someone thinks about us. Whether it’s your parents, relatives, friends, bf/gf, etc. We also get judged a lot, from the day we came into this life. It’s hard to go from a pure and innocent child to a child scared of being judged. In conclusion, being scared of getting judged is why we get so embarrassed.

The mindset! In order to truly realize being embarrassed is an illusion, you have to walk with this thought. It has to become a life motto, not just that but a rule for yourself. You have to become committed and make sure you’re aware of this. If you get embarrassed and forget it’s an illusion, brush it off.

Validating yourself! One of the main reasons why we get embarrassed or afraid of being judged is, because we love praise. Praise from others that is, so start praising yourself. When you see yourself in the mirror, compliment yourself. Tell yourself the things you want to hear so badly from.

Love you dolls! Thank you dolls for reading 😘

It Girl Habits!!

(none of these photos are mine)

“You cannot live your life to please others. The choice must be yours.” - Anne Hathaway

Stay busy!! Do you see those it girls like Serena Van Der Woodsen scrolling on their phone all day? No, you rarely do. It girls are always busy doing something. So, therefore do some self care, study, workout, read, journal, go shopping, go on solo dates, hang out with friends, paint, have a dance party, etc. Do fun activities and take care of yourself. Another example of a busy it girl is, Elle Woods. Elle Woods wasn’t becoming one with the couch everyday. She had goals to achieve. She had people that doubted her to prove wrong. So get up! Start planning out your day or week. Start making goals!!

Have goals! You wanna know why you’re bored all the time? Well, it’s because you have no goals. You practically don’t have a life because all you do is sleep, eat, scroll, and repeat. You’re wasting time doing nothing. You could’ve had a clean room by now. Maybe you could have finished that book. Whatever it is, you could have had it. You could’ve been 1% better than yesterday. You don’t though because you have no goals. That time you’re wasting, can be used toward your goals. It can be used toward your dream life. Maybe, you do have goals? Yet you don’t even take action. What are you waiting for? For someone to do the work for you? No, get up and start taking action.

Be mindful of what you consume online!! Just like how who you surround yourself with affects you. What you consume online affects how and who you are. For example, listening to sad music makes you feel sad. Music is meant to tell a story that you feel deeply. You may not even relate to the song, but you feel as if you do. So, you become sad and continue to listen to sad music. When listening to uplifting music you gain confidence. You still feel like you relate to the song. Just with a more positive effect. As for what you watch and read. Don’t read/watch stuff that will put you down. Watch/read content that will help you.

Complimenting yourself every time you pass the mirror!! Some may say it’s cringy, but DO IT. Would you rather be cringy or be the best version of yourself? Exactly, so either say it out loud or in your head. Say it even if you might not believe it. Say it because you deserve it! Try to be creative with your compliments. Not all compliments have to be about your looks. It could be your personality, your thoughtfulness, how creative you are, etc. Also loosen up, be your own hype girl. When you see the mirror you could say, “Omg I look like the main character.” “Oh wait, I am!” Lastly, don’t forget to have fun with hyping yourself up.

Mediating or journaling when stressed!! When stressed we start to feel a lot of tension. So, that’s why meditating is so important to do when stressed. All you have to do is sit down and focus on breathing. Plus, It calms down your nerves, relaxes the mind, body, and soul. Not just that, but plenty of other benefits. Which includes, helps focus, betters mood, helps you sleep, slows down aging, etc. As for journaling, it’s practically free therapy! That is, at least in my eyes. All you need is a notebook, a pen or pencil, and yourself. Journal what’s making you stressed or anxious. Let all your emotions out, write freely. Your words don’t have to make sense. Nor do you need to have perfect writing. In fact, when you journal it may be all over the place. However or whatever you write, just let it out.

Expressing your gratitude!! Life is so beautiful and has so much meaning. So, either write down what you’re grateful for or thank God. You are so blessed to be here today. That is only just one thing to be grateful for. There are so many things to be grateful for, air, family, friends, your mind, being born as you, water, books, food, shoes, clothes, and so much more!! Express your gratitude everyday. It could be the most random thing like, a poster. As long as you’re truly grateful, then express it.

7. Having a low screen time!! Cliché, I know but it’s true. Your devices are consuming you. Think about what you use your device(s) for. Good examples are, for work, for motivation, tips, workout videos, inspiration, knowledge, and maybe even faith reasons. Now here are bad examples, procrastinating, sinning, hating on others, scrolling, because you’re bored, to watching videos of people that make you insecure, and lastly to cope with something. Which to clarify, trying to cope by using your phone, I understand somewhat. On the other hand, it could make what you’re coping with worse. I say that because there are so many studies on why our phone is bad for us. Seriously, so many and we are completely unaware of the damage it does. So for that reason, try to use your phone only for the good. I know you’re probably going to make an excuse. Which we all do and that’s ok, but please try.

8. Encouraging yourself to do better!! You should always be working hard to be 1% better everyday. So on the days you don’t feel like doing anything, encourage yourself. Show up for yourself, you will be so happy after. Lastly, trust yourself to get whatever done!!

9. Having a healthy sleep schedule!! For me, I try to aim for 8-11 hours of sleep. For others, it may be 7-10 hours of sleep. Whatever makes you feel the most well-rested should work. Just try to be consistent and mindful of the time. I also recommend to be off your phone for at least 30-60 minutes before going to bed. It will improve how you sleep a lot. That also being said, try not to be on your phone when you wake up either. It’ll help improve your health by a lot. Especially, the health of your brain and eyes. As I had mentioned, try to be consistent. Set a certain time to go to bed and turn off your phone. Then, get your lovely beauty sleep gorgeous!!

10. CLEANING!! The last habit is, cleaning. Now, I don’t just meaning cleaning your room or house. I mean even your body and mind. For starters, a clean room equals a clean mind. Therefore, stop procrastinating and start cleaning. Turn on some fun music and maybe even romanticize cleaning. Just make it fun and DEEP clean. I know someone reading this has been procrastinating on cleaning. You know who you are, so clean everything. Then, for cleaning the mind a little extra meditate. I feel like I already went over a bit about meditation. So lastly, for the body, take your showers consistently. Also, please wear deodorant. I see way too many people nowadays not wearing deodorant. Seriously, wear your deodorant.

“Always walk around like you have on an invisible tiara on.” - Paris Hilton

Remember, always apply lip gloss and stay pretty! Love you, dolls 💋

Info I used: https://reallifecounseling.us/blog/benefits-of-meditation

My Pinterest: @arielleslipgloss

Can you make a guide for Song Jia ??

How to Become Magnetic like Song Jia!!

(none of these pictures are mine)

“It’s hard for me to have a crush on anybody. My standards are as high as Mt. Everest.” - Song Jia

Confidence!! Jia has a lot of confidence. She knows who she is and what she’s worth. She doesn’t see anyone as competition. This is because she knows that the only competition, is herself. Jia is constantly working harder to improve herself. Some ways she takes care of herself are, exercise, skincare, haircare, affirmations, etc. She does self-care with love and care for herself. Which helps her feel good about herself. This just goes to show, that taking time for yourself helps with confidence a lot.

Femininity!! Jia acts in her light feminine energy. She is very soft, feminine, flirty, mysterious, and kind. Her femininity makes her very appealing and magnetic. She moves and talks slow, making her look secure in herself. She is quite private, which makes her mysterious. She knows to stay laid back and let a man be in his masculine energy. Lastly, she always dresses nicely and looks well-groomed. All these qualities are very feminine. It makes her very alluring to people. Making them want to know more about her.

Mystery!! What makes Jia mysterious? Well, Jia is an extremely good listener. She talks less and listens to others more. I’m sure we all can agree that someone who listens well to us is very attractive. We automatically become pulled to them. This is because all humans love attention. We all want to be validated and valued. My point is, a good listener gives us exactly that. They validate us by just listening. All they do is maintain eye contact and listen. Which is insane how powerful those two things can be. Something else about Jia, is that she only reveals a little at a time. Even when she reveals stuff, she still says very little. This makes the person she is interacting with more curious about her. They want to know more and more about her. Yet, she doesn’t let them. Even in interviews, she keeps her answers to a certain amount.

4. Be Your True Self!! All the things I have listed already come naturally to Jia. That is because she worked hard on improving herself. Therefore, also work on making yourself better and better. Especially work hard on confidence because your confidence will radiate. If you have confidence that is strong and radiates, you will instantly be more magnetic. Although, why can being your true and authentic self make you magnetic? Well, because it’s rare to see people being their true selves. It also makes a person feel more comfortable and at ease around you. Almost as if they can trust you, since you seem like you trust them. That’s really magnetic and can make others attracted to you.

5. Don’t Bring Others Down!! Jia was never the type to talk bad about other girls on Singles Inferno. She’d stay out of drama and knew certain stuff wasn’t her business. She also knew that her only competition was herself. Jia always was respectful towards everyone she’d meet. She constantly tries to support others. This is because Jia knows, that bringing down others won’t benefit anyone. There is no purpose in bringing others down. What there is purpose in, is uplifting other people! Therefore, try to uplift others because you will get that positive energy back.

Love you sm dolls!! Remember to keep your standards high and stay pretty 💋🎀

“I’ve done well till now, I can do better in the future!” - Song Jia

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Doll Mindset!! How To Achieve It 🎀

“Imagination and love can change the world.” - Barbie (Rapunzel)

Stay Positive!! One of the biggest parts of becoming a doll, is a positive mindset. Some of our favorite dolls (EX: Barbie) always stay positive. If something goes wrong, try looking for the positive. It’s always best to look on the bright side, rather than the dark. To stay positive, try practice talking highly of yourself. Not only you, but others too. Try encouraging those around you!! Life becomes a lot more fun when you uplift others. Trust me!

Dream big!! One thing about dolls is that they know how to use their imagination. They always shoot for the stars when it comes to their goals and dreams. Also they all truly believe that if they work hard, they can achieve anything. And you should believe the same as well!! If you want to become a lawyer, work hard for it. If you want to become a nurse, work hard for it. All you need is, some imagination, ambition, hard work, and dedication. You can do it, if you put your mind to it! 

Don’t be afraid to be yourself!! The Bratz rarely care if someone disliked their fashion sense. They liked their fashion sense and that’s only what mattered. Not if some stranger gives them a weird look. So, be confident in who you are. If you like something someone else doesn’t, so what?!?! Everyone has their own preferences. We can’t all like the same thing. If we all did, what’s the fun in that?

Take care of yourself!! I will never stop mentioning that everyone should be taking care of themselves. Always, always, always invest in yourself. If you have the time to do a full on spa day for yourself, DO IT!! Because taking anytime to care for yourself, will always be worth it.

Always be up for a challenge!! The Winx Club fairies were never afraid of a challenge. Whatever came at them, they remained fearless and positive. So, when your studies get challenging remain positive. Never let the challenge bring you down!! Instead be ready for the challenge and use it to grow.

Motivate others!! Encourage & compliment others around you. Once I started complimenting people more often, my life changed. I felt more positive and I was able to make others smile. Now, it’s a daily practice in my life to motivate others!

“That’s so weird. Fashion’s like your superpower. You shouldn’t have to hide it.” - Yasmin

Love you dolls!! Remember to stay positive and pretty 💋🎀

Xoxo, Arielleslipgloss

How To Become A Brand New Person ✨✨

Self Reflect:

Journal daily.

Think about past decisions and how they impacted your life.

Meditate regularly.

Create a vision board to visualize your goals.

Review your strengths and weaknesses.

Identify your core values and beliefs.

Figure out your passions and interests.

Think about your childhood dreams and aspirations.

Evaluate your current state of happiness and fulfillment.

Set Clear Goals:

Define specific career goals, like "Get promoted within two years."

Set health goals, like "Lose 20 pounds in six months."

Create financial goals such as "Save $10,000 for a vacation."

Establish personal development goals, like "Read 24 books in a year."

Set relationship goals, such as "Improve communication with my partner."

Define education goals, like "Complete a master's degree in three years."

Set travel goals, like "Visit five new countries in the next two years."

Create hobbies and interests goals, such as "Learn to play a musical instrument."

Set community or volunteer goals, like "Volunteer 100 hours this year."

Establish mindfulness or self-care goals, such as "Practice meditation daily."

Self Care:

Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day.

Follow a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables.

Prioritize getting 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night.

Practice in relaxation techniques like deep breathing or yoga.

Take regular breaks at work to avoid burnout.

Schedule "me time" for activities you enjoy.

Limit exposure to stressors and toxic people.

Practice regular skincare and grooming routines.

Seek regular medical check-ups and screenings.

Stay hydrated by drinking enough water daily.

Personal Development:

Read a book every month from various genres.

Attend workshops or seminars on topics of interest.

Learn a new language or musical instrument.

Take online courses to acquire new skills.

Set aside time for daily reflection and self improvement.

Seek a mentor in your field for guidance.

Attend conferences and networking events.

Start a side project or hobby to expand your abilities.

Practice public speaking or communication skills.

Do creative activities like painting, writing, or photography.

Create a Support System:

Build a close knit group of friends who uplift and inspire you.

Join clubs or organizations aligned with your interests.

Connect with a mentor or life coach.

Attend family gatherings to maintain bonds.

Be open and honest in your communication with loved ones.

Seek advice from trusted colleagues or supervisors.

Attend support groups for specific challenges (e.g., addiction recovery).

Cultivate online connections through social media.

Find a therapist or counselor for emotional support.

Participate in community or volunteer activities to meet like minded people.

Change Habits:

Cut back on sugary or processed foods.

Reduce screen time and increase physical activity.

Practice gratitude by keeping a daily journal.

Manage stress through mindfulness meditation.

Limit procrastination by setting specific deadlines.

Reduce negative self-talk by practicing self-compassion.

Establish a regular exercise routine.

Create a budget and stick to it.

Develop a morning and evening routine for consistency.

Overcome Fear and Self Doubt:

Face a specific fear head-on (example: public speaking).

Challenge your negative thoughts with positive affirmations.

Seek therapy to address underlying fears or traumas.

Take small, calculated risks to build confidence.

Visualize success in challenging situations.

Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people.

Journal about your fears and doubts to gain clarity.

Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small.

Focus on your strengths and accomplishments.

Embrace failure as a valuable learning experience.

Embrace Change:

Relocate to a new city or country.

Switch careers or industries to pursue your passion.

Take on leadership roles in your workplace.

Volunteer for projects outside your comfort zone.

Embrace new technologies and digital tools.

Travel to unfamiliar destinations.

Start a new hobby or creative endeavor.

Change your daily routine to add variety.

Adjust your mindset to see change as an opportunity.

Seek out diverse perspectives and viewpoints.

Practice Gratitude:

Write down three things you're grateful for each day.

Express gratitude to loved ones regularly.

Create a gratitude jar and add notes of appreciation.

Reflect on the positive aspects of challenging situations.

Show gratitude by volunteering or helping others in need.

Send thank-you notes or messages to people who've helped you.

Keep a gratitude journal and review it regularly.

Share your gratitude openly during family meals or gatherings.

Focus on the present moment and appreciate the little things.

Practice gratitude even in times of adversity.

Be Patient:

Set realistic expectations for your progress.

Accept that personal growth takes time.

Focus on the journey rather than the destination.

Learn from setbacks and view them as opportunities to improve.

Celebrate small milestones along the way.

Practice self-compassion during challenging times.

Stay committed to your goals, even when progress is slow.

Keep a journal to track your personal growth.

Recognize that patience is a valuable skill in personal transformation.

Celebrate Small Wins:

Treat yourself to your favorite meal or dessert.

Reward yourself with a spa day or self-care activity.

Share your achievements with friends and loved ones.

Create a vision board to visualize your successes.

Acknowledge and congratulate yourself in a journal.

Give yourself permission to take a break and relax.

Display reminders of your accomplishments in your workspace.

Take a day off to celebrate a major milestone.

Host a small gathering to mark your achievements.

Set aside time to reflect on how far you've come.

Maintain Balance:

Set clear boundaries in your personal and work life.

Prioritize self care activities in your daily routine.

Schedule regular breaks and downtime.

Learn to say "no" when necessary to avoid overcommitment.

Evaluate your work life balance regularly.

Seek support from friends and family to avoid burnout.

Be kind to yourself and accept imperfections.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and grounded.

Revisit your priorities and adjust them as needed.

Embrace self love and self acceptance as part of your daily life.

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- map out your goals and make sure you stay on top of it. you're the only person standing in the way of your success

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BECOMING THE WOMAN YOU WANT

Imagine the woman you want to become. Envision her embracing a lifestyle woven with healthy habits that radiate positivity and well-being. Picture her waking up early, greeting the day with gratitude, and setting intentions that shape her mindset for success.

In her daily routine, she prioritizes self-care—nourishing her body with wholesome meals, staying hydrated, and indulging in regular exercise that she genuinely enjoys. Whether it's a morning yoga session, an evening run, or a dance class, physical activity is not a chore but a celebration of what her body can achieve.

This woman values the power of mindfulness. Picture her taking moments throughout the day to breathe deeply, practice meditation, or simply appreciate the present. It's in these mindful pauses that she finds clarity, resilience, and a profound connection with herself.

As she moves through her day, healthy habits extend into her work life. This woman is organized and efficient, using time management techniques to tackle tasks without feeling overwhelmed. Regular breaks and moments of reflection help her maintain focus and creativity.

Evenings are a sanctuary for winding down. She cherishes a good night's sleep, prioritizing rest as a cornerstone of her well-being. Unplugging from screens, engaging in calming activities, and maintaining a consistent sleep schedule contribute to the rejuvenation her body and mind need.

Remember, becoming her doesn't happen overnight. It's a gradual process, a collection of intentional choices and persistent efforts. Start incorporating these healthy habits, step by step, and watch as you evolve into the empowered, balanced woman you aspire to be. 🌿💪🌺🌟

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the best thing you can do for yourself is to stick to your routine and not your feelings

Steps to Success!

(none of these photos are mine!)

“Kill them with success and bury them with a smile.” - Coco Chanel

Meet people who will fit into your future! You could even meet new people who are where you want to be. Someone you can learn from and look up to. Whether it’s their success, influence, passion, money, lifestyle, etc. Learn and get inspired from them! Make sure that they respect you as for you respecting them.

Don’t let others get in the way! Respectfully, if this person is stopping you from getting to your full potential, they have to go. Think, will this help me reach my goal? You could even ask yourself if this person is stopping you. If the answer is yes, then you may need to distance yourself. I’m not saying completely cut them off when you don’t want to, that’s not my decision. You decide who has your time and energy.

Drive, passion, ambition! If you know what you want in life, and you know how you’re gonna get it. Work hard for that life, that success, and be discipline. Don’t let something small get in your way. You wanna be closer to God, work hard to get closer to Him. You wanna make a bunch of money, work hard for money. Stay discipline and consistent.

Hobbies and skills! Social skills, health skills, academic skills, athletic skills. Hobbies that keep you busy and that you can set goals for. Learning a language as a hobby can get you SO far in life. Same for social skills and so many other skills/hobbies.

Invest in yourself! You have probably heard this from a lot of successful celebrities, but what does it mean? Investing in yourself means to invest in your knowledge, brain, beauty, etc. These things will all benefit you. For investing in your knowledge and your brain, learn new things! Maybe it’s a language, learning about history, reading books, and so many others. Beauty, take time everyday to feel and look well-groomed. Do your nails, put a cute outfit on, try a new hairstyle, do skincare, etc. Don’t forget your inside beauty too!! Remember, always be kind, well-mannered, and compliment others if you wish! “Never try to someone else’s definition of beautiful. You have to define beautiful for yourself.” - Zendaya

Love you, dolls! Stay pretty and iconic 💋

HAVING AN INTENTIONAL ROOM

Your room is the most important place in your life. You sleep, wake up, heal and experience many emotions just in your room. You have to take care of your room, so it is spiritually the ideal place to grow into the best version of yourself. 

KEEPING YOUR ROOM CLEAN 

Keeping your room free of mess is an act of mindfulness and self-discipline that supports your overall journey and connects you with your higher self. It helps with promoting clarity, and cultivating inner balance and is an everyday self-care ritual. 

Make your bed every day. You have to respect the place in which you sleep and heal.

Hang up clean clothes after the day or put any dirty clothes in your laundry hamper, avoid tossing them on the floor. 

Find a place for everything, and know where everything is. If you do not know where each thing in your room is located, you either have too much clutter or you’re disorganised. 

Tidy up your room daily, neatly putting everything away in its place. If needed, buy a few organisers. 

Don’t leave rubbish for extended periods. Treat your room like a temple, don’t disrespect it, and pick up after yourself. 

Try to avoid eating meals in your bedroom. We forget the dirty dishes over time, and it stinks and attracts unwanted bugs. 

Change bed sheets regularly. Once a week at the most, for more hygienic reasons though. 

Remove unwanted items on your bedside table. Keep it minimal and intentional with anything you want to place on it.

Regularly clean up the dust in your room, using a duster or a damp microfiber cloth on all of the surfaces. 

ENCOURAGING GROWTH IN YOUR LIFE

A room designed to encourage inner growth serves as a physical reminder of your commitment to self-improvement, personal development, and overall well-being. It creates an environment helpful to improvement, self-reflection, and positive change.

Keep specific areas of your room designated to one task in your life. For me, my desk is for productivity, my bed is for resting or relaxing and my bedroom floor is for mindful activities. 

Throw away any items that do not serve a purpose to you anymore. Avoid keeping items that bring you painful or harmful memories.

Minimise the presence of technology in your room. I suggest having zones in your room which is device-free or having a time of day in which devices are not allowed in your room. 

Create a vision board poster in your room that you can see every day, which helps to visualise and motivate you to create your dream life. 

Place meaningful quotes, affirmations, mantras or prayers as reminders of the values, mindsets or intentions you wish to cultivate in your life.

Display personal achievements. If you won any awards or certificates, place them in a way in which you can view them every day. If you have done something in your life that you think is an achievement but have no award to display, just simply create your own. Buy some balsawood and glue it together to create your own medal. 

Place items that align with the habits or routines you want to cultivate in your life so that they are easily accessible. Put a workout mat in the corner, always have your journal on your desk or have a cold water bottle ready to go when you wake up. 

3. DECORATING YOUR ROOM TO REFLECT YOU

Decorating your room in a way that reflects your true self brings a sense of authenticity and comfort. It creates a nurturing environment that allows for self-expression, reflection, and personal growth which ultimately contributes to your journey of inner development.

Make a mood board or vision board of how you would want your room to look, how it supports you and how it makes you feel. Choose a colour scheme in this process as well.

Add candles or incense that you think embodies who you are, or who you want to be. For example, if I want to be a cleaner person, I would choose a candle that smells like fresh linen. 

Put up posters of things that you like, people who you look up to or anything that expresses who you are.

Add a canopy to your bed while you sleep. So cute, and I believe it helps protect you from any unwanted energy entering through you while you sleep. 

Add a rug, even if you already have carpet, to enhance the cozy ambience of the room. 

An ottoman at the end of the bed can elevate your room to look more expensive, if needed, it can also be an organiser for your extra things. 

Put life in your room, adding low-maintenance plants or flowers can liven it up. A little extra, research some plants or flowers meaning’s and pick one that resonates with you. 

Display any of your favourite jewellery, bags, clothing pieces, or make-up around your room. A nice way to appreciate what you have, without actually using them. 

SELF CARE DAY FOR LOW ENERGY DAYS

it’s important to have different routines ready to match your mood and energy level. which is why I believe preparing for self care days for when you’re just not feeling your best is essential and a great way to look out for yourself. here’s my guide to self care days for low energy.

✧ 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓

despite your low energy, it’s important you still get your daily movement. however, exercise doesn’t always have to be intense.

try doing one of these

— 2 minutes of touching/trying to touch your toes

— 5-7 minutes of full body stretching

— 10 minutes of yoga

or maybe just stretch your neck, roll your shoulders, and take a few deep breaths. whatever you’re ready to do :)

links to short low energy workouts:

5 minute morning yoga

11 minute stress relief yoga

10 minute lazy girl workout

8 minute good morning pilates

✧𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐃

do something for your mind. journal, get your thoughts out, meditate, read five pages of an inspiring book. do something that you will love and that your mind will thank you for. whether it’s sitting in silence for a few minutes or playing a game that’ll challenge your brain.

journaling prompts <3

++ what’s been draining your energy recently?

++ what’s been giving you positive energy recently?

++ what’s your focus been on lately?

++ what are three things you’re happy are in your life?

++ how is my environment impacting my energy?

if your energy is low I really recommend writing about it. what’s making you tired? reflect on it and go easy on yourself.

✧𝐓𝐎 𝐃𝐎 𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓

the last thing you want to do is give your mind the responsibility of remembering your tasks. i don’t care how little you have on your schedule, write a to do list. on a low energy day, it’s important we’re easy on ourselves. getting everything out of our head and onto a piece of paper will not only make tasks seem more manageable but will also make our minds feel a bit lighter.

write everything. I mean it. even the small and seemingly insignificant tasks. even the parts of your routine that you do everyday anyways, write it all down.

✧𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐒

even though we’re a little bit down, that doesn’t mean we can cheat on the promises and boundaries we made with ourselves.

a low energy day doesn’t mean you can jump right back into your old habits. you’ll only feel worse if you do. it can be comforting to spend the whole day in bed, liking relatable TikToks and having a 7 hour screen time. but that’s not real rest. do something that’ll nourish you while also making you feel relaxed and comfortable. whether that’s watching an episode of your comfort show, rereading a chapter of your favorite book, or listening to your all time favorite songs while you just relax.

low energy is not a reason to practice unhealthy bad habits.

✧𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐈𝐓𝐘

how do we enjoy a low energy self care day besides the usual rest and relaxation? by doing some activities!!

things you can do on a low energy self care day:

++paint

++do your own nails

++movie marathon of your fave genre

++install and try out different cute & cozy games on your device

++bubble bath

++make a Pinterest board or Moodboard that will inspire you to be the best version of yourself

thank you for reading, take care!! ♡

— messyoungie

KIMMY'S DIGITAL DIARY

first week of march

As the sun sticks around a little longer each day, and the birds serenade the world, there's a sense of awakening. The ice is melting, both literally and metaphorically, bringing in a season of renewal. It just feels like the perfect time to plant seeds for success. 🌼🌸☀️

february was hectic. it was exhausting, and it took extra strength and belief in myself to stay on track.

there was tooons of low energy days but i made workarounds. i altered my schedules on my low energy days to activities that wouldn't further exhaust me and invigorate me instead.

the one thing that kept me grounded was daily prayer, and gratitude. on the hardest days, find one thing that went right and hold onto that as your hope for the day.

it might be a terrible day but it's not a terrible life, if i have these things to be grateful for.

subliminal of the week

what's in?

subliminals for success

spontaneous acts of kindness

exploring new hobbies for joy, not perfection

setting realistic and achievable goals

surrounding yourself with uplifting people

mindful breathing exercises

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what's out?

seeking validation from others

overcommitting and feeling overwhelmed

dwelling on past mistakes

negative self-talk and self-criticism

engaging in toxic relationships

affirmations for the week

I am a source of positivity and kindness, spreading joy through spontaneous acts of kindness each day.

My goals are realistic and achievable, and I celebrate progress over perfection. I embrace the joy of exploring new hobbies for personal fulfillment, not external validation.

I surround myself with uplifting people who support my journey, and I release toxic relationships that hinder my growth. I am a beacon of positivity and choose mindful breathing to center myself in moments of stress.

conversation tips + how to be funny

talk about the other person. i know, this is said basically everywhere so im not gonna go too deep into it. everybody likes talking about themselves, where they've been, experiences they've had, etc. so just keep asking questions about themselves!

another thing id like to mention is don't just let them talk the whole time, thats not how a conversation works. instead add in your own opinions, and experiences! make them laugh!

literally just find out things about the other person- linking back to the first point- be genuinely curious about the other person. be curious about them! how they think, how they are, find out stuff about them that you can use later- ex: if they mention they like star neckless, maybe one day you can buy a star neckless for them to show that you care!

absurd analogies.

share funny & embarrassing stories from your past! this makes you look more confident and people feel more comfortable around you bc you're able to laugh about a cringe moment in your past. but its best to do this when the laugh is at your expense, and not at others.

make people feel good about themselves. make them feel special.

watch how other people do it. take inspo from others! you can even look at celebrities interviews and see how they've made people laugh and have an interesting conversation. some rly good interviews that i'd recommend are: ryan gosling / the tv show percy jackson / Zendaya & Tom Holland /

finish other people's sentences with something funny and ridiculous. when someone's trying to remember what they were about to say, you can fill in with a ridiculously funny idea to end their sentence! dont overuse this tho, otherwise it can get pretty annoying.

EXPRESSIONNNN!!!! laugh at their jokes, nod along, be sympathetic. just express and overreact in a way that makes them feel heard and special!!

playful teasing.

Xoxo, your Glamorous Vanilla

🎀 The It Girl Lifestyle Guide 🎀

hi girlies! this guide is a part of the big series: The Ultimate It-Girlism Guide. in this mini guide i'll be including all things health, morning/nighttime routines, and more!

How to create your ideal morning / night / any other routine:

Here’s a mini step by step guide to curating a routine that works specifically for YOU, tailored to your own needs and wants. This can be for any routine u wanna create: morning, night, after school, after work, before school/ work, etc etc.

Apps / things needed:

ChatGPT (or an AI like that- it’s not completely necessary but it’s useful)

Notes app / docs app. (Or a pen and paper- this will be to write down the routine!)

Calendar app (optional tbh)

Ok so first off: decide what you want in your routine. Make a list in no particular order of what you need/ want in the routine.

Some examples:

Once you’ve created this list, you’re pretty much half way done. In this next part you can use chat GPT to make it easier, or use your own mind.

The next thing to do is: ask chatGPT to make a routine with the steps u wanted.

Make sure to mention what time your routine starts and ends. And if there’s anything you want to change, you can just ask the AI or make those changes yourself!

The last step is to write it down!

You can either write it down on the notes app, docs, on a journal/ piece of paper, anything that’s easily accessible to you. I heavily recommend writing it down somewhere, but if you dont want to you can…

Put it into your calander. This can help you be a bit more organised, but it’s not completely needed. As long as it’s written down somewhere- so you dont need to always remember it- you’re good.

Health and wellness

In this section, i will be talking about fitness, mental health and physical health. I will mention some useful tips to finally start, how to overcome procrastination, and how to take care of that area of your body.

1. FITNESS.

Numero uno: fitness! I’m not going to go yapping on about how fitness is so important- im assuming you all know that by now. But let me just remind you that staying fit is not only exercising or going to the gym everyday. It can be: running, going for a walk, playing a sport, yoga, pilates, dancing, cycling, and THE LIST GOES ON. DO anything that moves your body and gets you fit!

Here are some tips to help you get started:

Start small. Set small goals first. Set SMART goals

Choose the activities you enjoy. Like i mentioned earlier, there’s tons of ways to stay fit- cycling, running, swimming, yoga, dance, sports, etc. etc. (if you like, joining a class or working out with friends can help you stay motivated!)

Stay consistent. I know i know, this is said everywhere. But there is no progress without consistency. Even if you can’t do a whole workout one day, try and do 10 jumping jacks, or 5 pushups. Do whatever you can. Remember: 1% is better than 0.

Create a vision board. You can create one yourself, or find tons of them off Pinterest. Vision boards will make the process so much more fun and will certainly motivate you.

Set a reward system. Tell yourself: if you do this high intensity workout now, you can go to the spa later or watch tv.

Find a why. This goes for like everything tbh. If your why is big enough, you are capable of doing anything (even finding that lost book that you owe the library!) basically, are you doing this to get ripped? With tons of abs, or to get strong and impress people? Or are you doing this to boost your self esteem and improve your health?

2. FOOD & NUTRITION.

Balanced diet: eat the rainbow! Meaning- eat meals with a variety of different colours. Fruits, vegetables, proteins, carbohydrates, etc. it’s completely alright to eat a chocolate, but remember: EVERYTHING IN MODERATION.

Hydration: aim for at least 8 glasses of water a day. Trust me, drinking the magical potion that is water will help you SO much! It can help you clear your skin, have pink uncrusty lips, keep you fit and soooo much more.

Mindful eating: in the book IKIGAI it is said that you should only eat until you’re 80% full. Not 100%. Why? Because the time it takes for you to digest the food will have already made you extremely full. You may even have a stomachache. Studies also show that cutting back on calories can lead to better heart health, longevity, and weight loss.

Here are some tips to manage cravings:

Find healthier alternatives. If you are craving something sweet like chocolate, have something like a sweet fruit. If you crave something salty, try nuts. If you can’t think of any, search up some healthier alternatives to it!

Create more friction for junk, and less friction for healthy. This concept was said in the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. What does it mean? Make sure that it takes a lot of energy to get the unhealthy junk food. Maybe keep them high up in a cupboard so whenever you want it you have to go get a ladder, climb up, and then get it. And keep the healthy food in easy reach. Like some fruits open on a table, etc. (also remember to keep some actually yummy healthy food like Greek yogurt or protein bars.)

Distract yourself. Go do a workout or engage your mind in a hobby that you enjoy. Basically take your mind off food.

Yummy water. Make some lemonade for yourself. Or perhaps add slices of lemon, cucumber, mint or strawberries to it for some flavours. I’d do some research on this cus i know that some combos can rly help for things like clearing your skin, boosting energy, etc.

3. MENTAL HEALTH

Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health. It affects how we think, feel and act and also determines how we handle stress, relate to others, relationships, etc.

Of course there will be ups and downs for our mental health. It’s not something that you can just fix once and it’ll be good forever. No, it’s a rollercoaster. But having a “good” mental health is really important for a successful lifestyle.

Here are some tips to help you improve your mental health:

Meditation / deep breathing. I can’t emphasise how important this is. Even 1-2 minutes a day is good. Start small. You dont even need to be sitting crossed legged for this. Whether you’re in class, on a vehicle or in a stressful situation; just breathe. Take a deep breath, and out. Do it right now.

Journalling. Write. It. Out. Writing your problems and worries out is SOO therapeutic, especially when you want to calm down. There are SO MANY benefits to journalling. But remember that once you’ve ranted on the paper, tear it, rip it, and watch it burn. (Don’t keep a journal for this unless you KNOW 150% that no ones ever gonna read it. Trust me, it’s terrifying knowing that someone’s read that.) other things you can do is create a gratitude journal, so whenever you’re feeling low you can just go to it or write in it.

Self careee!! Create time for self care in your week. Because if you do that, it’s gonna be that one thing which you’ll be looking forward to each week, which will make life SO much more fun and bearable. For me, my forms of self care are watching thewizardliz or tam Kaur, reading, watching a movie at night, etc.

POSITIVE. SELF. TALK. Need i say more? What you say to yourself, is what you believe. And what you believe reflects in your external life.

Sing your heart out to Olivia Rodrigo. I swear this is actually so calming and therapeutic. Basically: express your feelings. If you’re angry at someone, feeling grief or really hurt by someone, screaming to Olivia Rodrigo songs in my bedroom is my go-to (i just make sure not to do it when others can here hehe). You can punch your pillow, scream, cry, etc.

Remember honey: this too will pass. Repeat that over in your head. This will pass. This will pass. This will pass. I know you may be going through the toughest time ever, but this too will pass. Nothing is forever. You’ve gotten through so much worse. You’ve got this.

!! Girls, please remember that these are just some tips. I am NOT a professional. If you really feel horrible every single day, go to therapy or counselling. Also contact mental health hotlines or emergency numbers if needed.

Mkay thats it! I hope this was of some value to you, and stay tuned for the next guide in the it girl series!

it feels good to be back <3

to the digital girl guide newsletter subscribers the wait is finally over, i'm working on July's edition and I thank you for your patience 🍓🥰💖

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DREAM GIRL HOBBIES PART ONE: PHYSICAL

A list for people who are looking for physical-related hobbies! Remember to choose any hobbies that align with your goals and values.

PHYSICAL 

♡ Running/jogging

♡ Yoga or stretching

♡ Pilates

♡ Sports 

♡ Soccer ♡ Basketball ♡ Tennis ♡ Lacrosse ♡ European handball ♡ Football ♡ Volleyball

♡ Cycling

♡ Swimming

♡ Gymnastics

♡ Horse-riding

♡ Archery 

♡ Weightlifting

♡ Dancing

♡ Ballet ♡ Ballroom ♡ Latin dance (salsa, cha cha cha, samba) ♡ Jazz ♡ Contemporary ♡ Zumba ♡ Hiking

♡ Rock-climbing

♡ Marital arts (Judo, karate, taekwondo)

♡ Surfing

creavity & intellectual goals here!