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I see the love of my life every single time I look in the mirror. I'll do everything not to lose her or else I'll be insane.
Free At Last
The morning light filtered through the curtains, casting a gentle glow across my room. I lay there for a moment, savoring the quiet, the stillness, the absence of dread. For the first time in a long while, I felt at peace. This was freedom, a feeling I had almost forgotten.
My journey to this point was anything but smooth. For years, I had been ensnared in a web of toxic relationships that had drained my energy and distorted my sense of self. Friends who thrived on drama, a partner whose every word was a calculated blow to my self-esteem, and family members who viewed my boundaries as a personal affront. Each day felt like a battle for survival, where merely getting through was the goal.
The decision to cut these people out of my life didn’t come easy. It was a gradual realization, creeping in through the cracks of countless sleepless nights and anxiety-ridden days. I remember staring at my reflection one evening, the weight of constant stress etched into my features. That’s when I knew something had to change. I couldn't keep living in survival mode.
The process was painful. There were heated arguments, accusations, and tears. My phone buzzed less and less as I distanced myself from those who brought nothing but negativity into my life. At times, the silence was deafening, and I questioned whether I was doing the right thing. Was it really worth the isolation?
But slowly, as the days turned into weeks, I began to notice a change. The constant tightness in my chest started to loosen. I no longer woke up dreading the day ahead. Instead, I felt a growing sense of lightness, of possibility. I began to reclaim pieces of myself that had been lost in the chaos.
I started each day with a simple ritual: a cup of tea on my porch, watching the world come alive. No rush, no immediate demands. Just me, my thoughts, and the soft morning breeze. I rediscovered hobbies I had abandoned—hiking, reading, writing—and found joy in these small, quiet moments. They were mine, untouched by the toxicity that had once consumed my life.
I found myself laughing more, genuinely enjoying conversations with new friends who brought positivity and support into my life. These relationships were based on mutual respect and understanding, not manipulation or control. It was a stark contrast to what I had known, and it felt like stepping into the sunlight after years spent in a dark room.
One evening, as I sat on a park bench watching the sunset, I realized just how far I had come. The vibrant colors painted across the sky felt like a celebration of my newfound freedom. I was no longer in survival mode, constantly bracing for the next attack. I was living, truly living, and it was a revelation.
In this new space, free from toxic influences, I could breathe. I could dream again, set goals, and work towards them without the constant drag of negativity pulling me down. I learned to trust myself, to value my own worth, and to surround myself with people who uplifted and inspired me.
As the sun dipped below the horizon, casting a golden glow over everything, I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude. I had fought hard to remove the toxicity from my life, and the reward was more than I had ever imagined. I was no longer a prisoner to the demands and manipulations of others. I was free to be myself, to pursue my dreams, and to live a life that was truly my own.
For the first time, I understood what it meant to thrive, not just survive. I had reclaimed my life from those who sought to control it, and in doing so, I had discovered a world of possibilities. This was my life, and I intended to live it fully, joyfully, and without apology.
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I have to believe in myself. I can’t keep holding on to my anger and resentment, because it’s poisoning me. Acceptance is what moves me forward. I can’t keep berating myself for the past. I’m allowed to fuck up. I can’t change the past. Feel, process, release.
I may never receive an apology. I may never receive forgiveness.
I’m realizing that my life isn’t defined by the mistakes I’ve made. To be human, is to make mistakes.
Be accountable for them and acknowledge their consequences. Don’t let them control the narrative.
But it’s how I rebound, how I rise from the ashes — that what counts. What I learn. How I stay humble & evolve. That is what determines my character. My self-worth. Through the fire, I discover who I really am.
I trust in my greater She to guide me.
I’m hopeful for the future.
Each day, a little better and brighter.
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Life trucks on.
I really struggled in June. Fell into a depressive episode that lasted almost the whole month. I missed half the days of school and I smoked weed to deal with how miserable I felt.
Normally I’d beat myself up about this. Another fucking setback.
Instead I’m choosing to remember that change does not happen overnight. It’s the little steps, sometimes tiny ones even, that add up over time.
I got on new meds for ADHD and depression and they seem to be helping significantly. I quit weed and now we are a sober potato all day long. I’m still in the early stages so I’m definitely feeling out of it, distracted, irritable, antsy, BORED!
But I keep reminding myself of the bigger picture.
It’s so god damn hard.
A cornerstone of my depression is lack of interest, in anything. I don’t know where it went but it’s been gone for some time. I want it back.
I want to wake up feeling optimistic, energized and ready to take on the world.
I’ve realized a lot of life is built on faith - in others, in myself, in good things coming. Faith is hard to develop when you’ve spent your whole life thinking the opposite. But I’m working on it.
As usual, I am a beautiful work in progress. Each day, a little better & brighter. And I have come so far already :)
btw being excessively nonconfrontational is NOT a positive trait. it does not mean u are “too nice” or just too kind to hurt people, it means u have a problem communicating and you need to work on it.
The Power of Self-Love: Embracing Your Inner Light
Shaina Tranquilino
August 17, 2023
In a world that constantly bombards us with expectations, comparisons, and judgments, it's easy to forget the most important relationship we will ever have—the one with ourselves. Self-love is not just a trendy buzzword; it is a fundamental pillar for personal growth and happiness. Let's explore why practicing self-love is crucial and how it can transform our lives.
1. Understanding Self-Love:
Self-love is often misunderstood as being selfish or narcissistic. However, it goes beyond superficial vanity. It is about accepting ourselves fully, embracing our strengths and weaknesses, and treating ourselves with kindness and compassion. It involves recognizing our inherent worthiness as human beings and prioritizing our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
2. Nurturing Our Mindset:
Cultivating self-love begins by reshaping our mindset. We need to challenge negative self-talk, replace self-criticism with self-compassion, and affirm our own worthiness. By acknowledging our achievements, setting realistic expectations, and celebrating small victories, we foster a positive mindset that fuels self-esteem.
3. Practicing Self-Care:
Self-care is an essential component of self-love since it involves nourishing our mind, body, and soul. Taking care of ourselves allows us to replenish our energy reserves and maintain balance in life's chaos. Whether it's engaging in activities we enjoy, maintaining healthy boundaries, getting enough sleep or seeking professional help when needed—self-care is an act of love towards ourselves.
4. Setting Healthy Boundaries:
Learning to set boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships both personally and professionally. By establishing what we are comfortable with and communicating effectively, we protect ourselves from unnecessary stressors or toxic dynamics that drain our energy levels. Prioritizing our well-being reinforces the importance of self-love and ensures we surround ourselves with positivity.
5. Embracing Imperfections:
Perfectionism is an enemy of self-love, constantly pushing us to chase unattainable standards. Instead, let's embrace our imperfections as a testament to our humanity. Recognize that mistakes are stepping stones towards growth and understand that self-worth is not contingent upon external validation or achievements. By embracing authenticity, we liberate ourselves from the pressure to conform and foster self-acceptance.
6. Practicing Gratitude:
Gratitude is a powerful tool for cultivating self-love. Taking time each day to acknowledge the things we appreciate about ourselves helps shift our focus from what's missing in our lives to what we already have. By expressing gratitude for our unique qualities, talents, and experiences, we develop a deeper sense of self-love and contentment.
Self-love is not a destination but rather a lifelong journey—an ongoing commitment to nurturing ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It allows us to move through life with confidence, resilience, and compassion for others. When we prioritize self-love, we become more resilient in facing challenges, form healthier relationships, and unlock our true potential. So let's embark on this transformative path today—embracing our inner light and celebrating the beautiful individuals we truly are!
Taking What You Need: A Guide to Finding Comfort, Hope, and Inspiration
Shaina Tranquilino February 24, 2024
At times, we find ourselves yearning for something more—whether it's comfort in moments of distress, hope in times of despair, or inspiration to propel us forward. The key lies in recognizing our needs and actively seeking what is necessary for our well-being. In this blog post, we'll explore the concept of taking what you need, be it comfort, hope, inspiration, forgiveness, motivation, peace, or any other essential element that contributes to a fulfilling life.
Recognizing Your Needs: Before embarking on the journey of taking what you need, it's crucial to identify and acknowledge your emotions and desires. Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or anxious? Do you lack motivation or hope for the future? Understanding your needs is the first step towards addressing them.
Seeking Comfort: Comfort acts as a soothing balm during challenging times. Whether it's through the support of loved ones, engaging in self-care activities, or finding solace in a comforting routine, taking the time to nurture your emotional well-being is vital. Embrace the power of seeking comfort and allow yourself the space to heal.
Cultivating Hope: Hope is a powerful force that propels us forward, even when the path seems uncertain. To cultivate hope, focus on positive thinking, set achievable goals, and surround yourself with sources of inspiration. Remember that hope is not passive; it's an active choice to believe in the possibility of a brighter future.
Drawing Inspiration: Inspiration can be found in various forms—art, literature, nature, or the accomplishments of others. Explore what resonates with you and ignites a spark within. Whether it's reading motivational quotes, listening to uplifting music, or spending time in nature, draw inspiration from sources that align with your values and aspirations.
Embracing Forgiveness: Forgiveness is a powerful tool for personal growth and healing. Often, the first person we need to forgive is ourselves. Release the burden of past mistakes, learn from them, and allow forgiveness to pave the way for a more compassionate and fulfilling life.
Finding Motivation: Motivation can be elusive, especially during challenging times. Break down your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks, celebrate small victories, and surround yourself with positive influences. Sometimes, taking the first step is all it takes to reignite the flame of motivation.
Cultivating Inner Peace: Inner peace is a state of tranquility that arises from acceptance and mindfulness. Practice meditation, engage in activities that bring you joy, and create a peaceful environment for yourself. By cultivating inner peace, you enhance your resilience in the face of life's challenges.
Taking what you need is a personal and empowering journey. Whether it's comfort, hope, inspiration, forgiveness, motivation, or peace, prioritize your well-being and actively seek the elements that contribute to a fulfilling life. By recognizing your needs and embracing the resources available to you, you pave the way for personal growth, resilience, and a more meaningful existence. Remember, you have the power to shape your own narrative and create a life that aligns with your deepest desires and aspirations.
You deserve to be surrounded by people who are good for your health. People who give you true kindness and people who make you feel like this is what you're worth. People who fill your cup and show you how you've filled theirs. People who leave you feeling better for having been with them every time you part ways.
You deserve this. You can seek this. You deserve this.
I will not beg for your attention or your favour. I will not beg for love.
I will love myself. Favour myself. Pay attention to myself.
“conversations with good intentions, exchanges that feel like cardio sessions for the soul, dialogue directed in growth that leads you back to yourself, words wrapped in vulnerability and soaked in honesty, conversations like this.”
— iambrillyant
“it’s a beautiful thing to be understood, but a powerful thing to understand yourself.”
— iambrillyant
You make me feel so worthless, ive worked so hard to try to see my own worth and just as I think I'm getting there I remember that the person that really matters, the person that is supposed to care about me, doesn't even think I'm worthy of their time.
Self Care Reminder:
You don’t need another person to make you feel whole. You’ve been whole all along, but just haven’t taken the deep dive to all that you have to offer.
Self Care Reminder:
You don’t need another person to make you feel whole. You’ve been whole all along, but just haven’t taken the deep dive to all that you have to offer.
Hair care 🏹
How to wash:
Completely wet all the hair
Don‘t squeeze the water out and apply shampoo
Only use fingers: move from front to back and from the side to back
Don’t do the length, only the scalp for 1-3 minutes
Rinse out with lukewarm water also for 1-3 minutes
Gently squeeze out the water (don‘t fold you hair)
Apply conditioner in your length and let it in for 2-5 minutes (maybe even 10 minutes)
Wash out with lukewarm and cold water
Squeeze out water from top to bottom, preferably use a micro fibre towel or cotton T-Shirt
You can do a light turban without much pressure for 10-15 minutes
Don’t brush your hair until they’re dry (preferably air dry)
Tips: you don‘t have to use too much product, do everything very gently without rubbing
+ it is enough to wash your hair 1-2 times a week but ofc this can depend on one‘s lifestyle
Products:
shampoo
conditioner
tip: look out for argon oil, avocado oil or coconut oil
Ingredients to avoid: Sulfates, Silicones Mineral Oil, Parabens, Denatured Alcohols, Synthetic Fragrances
Hair masks or oils (don’t use these too often)
Silk pillowcases
Micro fibre towels or cotton T-shirt/ fabric
Wooden hair brush
See you soon, bye 💋
I feel like a loser don't know why
