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i was thinking about how it took me a while to figure out i'm aegosexual (which basically means that there's a disconnect between yourself and being the subject of attraction) and i thought about how much i really dislike and just cannot see myself in slash reader fics. i tend to dislike these fics for multiple reasons, but some of them include that the reader self insert is usually really boring, has no personality outside of being lovey dovey and isn't unhinged enough for certain characters for reasons outside of contrasting personalities for my tastes (like spamton for example, why are you writing a normal protagonist to pair with fuckin spamton of all characters). but another reason is that i literally cannot connect myself to the reader self insert. like i cannot imagine myself in their place at all, it's always another stand-in that i imagine instead and thinking about myself in their place makes me uncomfortable. i can't see myself in their place because i don't see myself as a subject of attraction, and i'm repulsed to that idea. so i imagine someone else instead because that's better to me. and also because of the aforementioned reasons that have more to do with the writing of the self insert, i just cannot imagine myself acting the way the self insert does because I Personally Would Not Fucking Do That™. like i would not be romantically kissing a guy on a date, i would be infodumping about my special interests for 3 hours and then start ranting about how funny cars are while he just smiles and nods lmao

this is why i've never really self-shipped with any character. like i can be attracted to them and be like "i wanna hold his hand/kiss him/do inexplicable things to his psyche", but in reality i could never actually see myself as a subject of attraction by this character, so i'd either ship them with another character i like or imagine a sort of stand-in that has some of my traits and lives out my fantasies but still isn't me. i can fall in love but i can never connect because ew that's gross and weird. watching from the sidelines by reading fics and looking at fanart about characters being shipped with others and being intimate with each other is more my cup of tea.

how it feels to be an aegosexual looking for slash fanfics in your favourite fandom:

finding a fanfic that has a really good premise and is really romantic or smutty and has your favourite character but then seeing "slash reader" in the tags or seeing it mention "you" as in the reader is an instant turnoff for me. it's like noooo why did i have to be involved in this character's life all of a sudden :(

perhaps i am just too aegosexual demiromantic for the internet but whenever i see a comment or a post that goes along the lines of positive affirmation followed by "i love you" it just.... irks me. like. first of all i doubt that because literally who tf even are you. you are literally some guy on the internet. i doubt you would love every person who reads your thing. who are you people. and second of all it just feels... wrong??? like it feels bad to have some stranger on the internet say that "to me" (the post isn't directed towards me specifically but it is directed towards the reader and that just so happens to be me). especially on posts where it's followed by "you are hot/beautiful", which is where i go past the point of aversion and into disgust. i really wish some affirmation posts wouldn't put stuff like that in there and just leave it at a "you are enough as you are and you do not deserve to beat up on yourself and declare yourself unlikeable for existing the way you do". like personally that will always be more positive to me than "i think you would be attractive to other people regardless of what you think". that's how it comes off to me anyway.

being aegosexual is like looking at a guy and being like "damn he's hot" but never wanting to do anything with him. instead, you take another hot guy and then do the imaginary equivalent of smacking them together like action figures

THIS IS THE FLAG OF MY COUNTRY🗣🗣

Shoutout to all the milfs and milf lovers on the asexual spectrum!

~Your favorite aegosexual milf connoisseur

; I haven't seen an explanation quite so good omfg !?? /gen ( I'm a Lucky Charms and Apple Jacks kinda guy, maybe Fruity Pebbles. What about y'all ? /genq /nf

Asexual labels explained using cereal

You are in a kitchen, opening a pantry door. It contains every brand of cereal in existence.

Libido- How hungry you are

Sexual Attraction- How appealing each cereal is to you

Sex-Repulsed- The mere act of eating cereal disturbs you. You flee the kitchen to watch Netflix instead.

Sex-Indifferent- Someone brings you a bowl of cereal. Even though you don’t crave cereal, you decide to eat some anyway. Maybe because you want the person to feel happy you’re eating something they provided you. Maybe you’re just that hungry. Regardless, you’re fine with eating it since it’s already there. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t care either.

Sex-favorable- Though you don’t particularly crave cereal, the act of eating cereal is enjoyable. So enjoyable, you go through the trouble of picking a brand to eat.

Asexual with low/no libido- You are rarely hungry, and none of the cereal appeals to you.

Asexual with average/high libido- You are often hungry, but none of the cereal appeals to you.

Aegosexual-  Eating cereal sounds fun in theory but not in practice. You certainly have no interest in eating cereal yourself. You’d rather fantasize about other people eating cereal, thankyouverymuch. 

Gray Asexual- You only like Lucky Charms and Apple Jacks. And maybe Fruity Pebbles but you’re not quite sure.

Demisexual- You see a box of Trix. You are familiar with the rabbit on the box, due to the commercials you’ve seen. You always sympathized with the rabbit for never getting any Trix. There are things in life you’ve wanted but have never gotten. You feel a bond with the rabbit. Suddenly that box of Trix looks tasty.

Fraysexual- You see a box of Cocoa Puffs. You have never heard of Cocoa Puffs in your life. But something about it is oh-so-appealing. You pour yourself a bowl. As you start to eat, you catch a commercial for Cocoa Puffs on TV. You now know what the mascot on the box is like. You lose interest in Cocoa Puffs for reasons you cannot explain.

Lithosexual- You notice a box of Fruit Loops. You feel an urge to eat it. Toucan Sam comes to life and asks you to eat them. This makes you uncomfortable, so you leave to watch Netflix with the sex-repulsed ace.

Reciprosexual- You have no interest in any of the cereal. Not even that box of Frosted Flakes. But Tony the Tiger shows up wanting you to eat the Frosted Flakes. Now that he wants you to eat Frosted Flakes, you want to eat Frosted Flakes. 

Cupiosexual- You want to eat cereal, but none of the cereal looks appealing. Maybe if you grab that box of Corn Flakes, it’ll become appealing to you later? It’s happened to other people. You consider grabbing that box of Corn Flakes, just in case.

Orchidsexual- Some of the cereal looks appealing, but you have no interest in eating cereal.

Aceflux- None of the cereal looks good, so you close the pantry. A few days later, you decide to open the pantry again. Now, some of those brands look appetizing. You check the pantry again the next day. None of the cereal looks good anymore.

Quoisexual- You have no idea if you like a cereal because you want to eat it, or if you just think the box art is pretty. Does liking the box art count as wanting to eat it? Do you just like the mascot? Does liking the mascot count as wanting to eat the cereal? After reading everything I’ve written, you are still confused. You bang your head against the pantry in frustration.

i made a redraw of an older art piece i made were i came out as nonbinary.

older version

im literally nothing XD being aro and ace with the exstra steps of being agender lol really like the style im going for OwO

im literally nothing XD being aro and ace with the exstra steps of being agender lol really like the style im going for OwO

God...I love him , I just want to put him in my pocket.

Legs detached , soul ready to be snatched.

Me, outwardly: "WTF IS WRONG WITH HIM?

Me, inwardly: "I volunteer, daddy."

𝕰𝖝𝖈𝖚𝖘𝖊 𝖒𝖊 , 𝖜𝖍𝖎𝖑𝖊 𝕴 𝖕𝖔𝖘𝖙 𝕺𝖀𝕽 𝖍𝖚𝖘𝖇𝖆𝖓𝖉.

ℭ𝔢𝔯𝔱𝔣𝔦𝔢𝔡 𝔄𝔢𝔤𝔬𝔫 𝔖𝔦𝔪𝔭 🤭

CD:HEARTS.4.HEARTSS @tiktok

Got to love the Greens on reddit...

aego culture is wanting the kink part of sex but not the sex part of sex lmao

Mhmmm keep the sex part out of sex

Being a sex-positive personally-sex-repulsed ace is weird cuz like reading about sex? Awesome. Writing about sex? Not much more intolerable than writing about anything else. Sex is good. Sex is normal. Sex is only as important as you let/want it to be. Kinks are natural expressions of sexuality. Sexual purity is a scam. Bodies are nothing to be ashamed of. Sex work is no more exploitative than any other kind of labor. If you touch me I will throw up on you.

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Can someone who labels themselves as aegosexual tell me what it means to them? I’ve look at the definition but now I want to know it in real life

Since I seem to have a hard time making the people in my life understand, I'm going to spell out my sexuality to its etymological parts. The word describes itself perfectly.

I am AEGOSEXUAL

A label under the Asexual umbrella. And it consists of 3 separate parts.

A - EGO - SEXUAL

A- is a prefix meaning "not" or "without"

Ego, which I'll define as "self"

Sexual, of course for "sexuality"

So if Asexual, in this way, logically means "without sexuality" or "not sexual"

Then Aegosexual means "without self sexuality"/"not self sexual".

My very sense of being is so disconnected from sexuality that the idea of myself having sex or being perceived as sexual shrivels my soul from the inside out.

You know that smut you like? Y’know, the really, REALLY good one? You know that one? Yeah?

An asexual wrote that.

And that really good romantic fluff you like? The really cute one, the domestic fluff? Y’know that one?

An aromantic wrote that.

So before you go to sleep reading fanfiction tonight, be sure to thank all the asexuals and aromantics that are writing your favorite fics!

Because no, we are not the pure little children you think we are.

Everybody say thank you a-specs!

Thank you a-specs!

Alright, I’ll let you go now :3