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just so we're clear, i AM aromantic, but didnt want to use the aro flag cuz it will get tagged as asexual/aroace, even though i am just aromantic. Not asexual, not aroace, just aromantic.

Had to use the aroallo flag cuz it seems to fit me more than my own label.

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYBODY! be who you want to be, regardless of your gender, age, or race <3

everything sucks so bad. but at least there's aromanticism.

what a great day to remember that all aces and aros belong in the lgbt community

Aromantics aren’t broken, because romantic love doesn’t make us whole.

aromantics can like romance.

aromantics can date.

aromantics can have meaningful relationships full of love.

aromantics don't owe you the stereotype of being cold and disgusted by the idea of romance.

at the same time, aromantics who don't like romance or dating shouldn't be shunned or villainized.

there is no right or wrong way to be aromantic, stop pushing us into boxes.

“how can you be intimate with someone if you’re aromantic??”

sharing secrets, trusting them with your life, telling them about that stupid thing you did when you were 14 and haven’t told anyone else since, being there for them any time day or night, talking til three in the morning, letting yourself cry around them, sharing grief, sharing joy, getting excited about the things they’re excited about just because you love to see them so happy about something

A meme for y’all

[ID: bugs bunny meme reading “I wish all aromantics a very normal tuesday”.]

shout out to ace and aro kids who are constantly bombarded with the opinion that sex and romantic love are directly connected to living a happy life.

Once I was talking with a group of people in my theater class and somehow we started talking about what vegetables we are and scallions came up. So I was saying how I think of scallions as an aromatic. And the girl next to me was like "wait you're aromantic?" And like "well yes but that's not what I meant." Anyways that's how I came out to my theater class.

new aromantic symbol: scallions

Asexual and Aromantic Survey

I am currently writing a book about the experiences of those on the asexual and aromantic spectrums! As part of my research, I’m trying to compile as many personal stories as I can to include in the work - to which end, I’ve created a survey.

I’m hoping to put together a personal story of my respondents, exploring the challenges we face, the way our orientations intersect with other aspects of our identity such as disability and race, how we navigate relationships, and so on. How long the survey takes will depend on how much detail you want to go into; you could probably breeze through in a few minutes, though longer and more detailed answers will be a huge help to me.

If you are in any way ace or aro (including grey-ace/aro, demi, etc), it would mean the world to me if you filled in the survey; and if you’re not, please do spread it around! The survey will not collect your details (other than what you choose to share, of course).

Here is the link to the survey.

I wish all aro MLM and WLW a very pleasant evening

ARO AWARENESS WEEK ✊ Aro people aren’t emotionless robots! Aromanticism is beautiful and valid 💚🖤🤍

Reblog if you‘re Aro or if you want to show your love for the Aro members of our family!👇💓

Aroflux flag: *exists*

Me: It’s pretty and I love it.

Here's your friendly remider that aces and aros are real, valid and are queer enough to be part of the community. If you think other wise you're free to get off my page. (I will not fight anyone on this. I'll block anyone that disagrees, no questions asked.)

my biggest glow up was realising that finding a romantic partner wouldn't somehow fix all my problems, saying fuck amatonormativity and accepting that i'm aromantic

To all my Aro/Ace out there you are loved!!!

CIS MALE AROMANTICS/ASEXUALS, YOUR VALID AND KEEP REMEMBERING THAT!!

!PSA!

Asexuality and aromanticism is not a choice!

It is not a disease!

It is not a mental illness!

It is not caused by anything!

It is not something that can be changed!

It is not someone that cannot feel love!

It is not introversion!

It is, however, a valid sexuality. Be proud if you are aro or ace! Be proud even if you aren’t!

Thanks for coming to my TEDtalk

🌈 It's okay to be romance repulsed.

💛 Being romance repulsed doesn't make you heartless or evil.

🐥 Romance is not the height of human connection, and romance repulsed people aren't "missing out."

🌻 We all have different ways of relating to people, especially those we care about, and that's okay.

☀️ Romance repulsed people don't need to change. They're perfect as they are.

⚡Romance repulsed people's boundaries, especially around romantic topics, deserve to and need to be respected.

🌙 Amatonormativity is an extremely prevelant construct in our society, and it hurts those who are romance repulsed.

⭐ Romance repulsed people are important members of the LGBTQ+ community, and deserve much more recognition than they receive.

🍋 Romance repulsed people are valid no matter their orientation, whether they're aro, demiro, grayro, apothiro, or any other orientation.

🌈 Having pride is for romance repulsed people too, and it's important to support and uplift the pride of romance repulsed people.

Do you have any tips on how to be more supportive/inclusive of loveless aros?

Drop completely the concept that love is something that makes us human, that it’s something we need, that it’s something everyone wants.

Be very careful of thinking aros need to be more loving or love their friends more or anything like that to “make up for their aro-ness”. A. there’s nothing to make up for because aros aren’t lacking in anything, but also B. that just isn’t every aro person’s experience. Some aros do invest a lot in their friends, but not all. And they don’t have to. Not all aros are close to other people. These aros need to be remembered too.

Be aware that aro or not, some people have a hard time connecting to other people or even feeling love at all. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s especially common for neurodivergent people to sometimes have trouble connecting to other people or feeling emotions the way neurotypical people do. Sometimes people who are dealing with trauma also have trouble connecting with, or don’t feel like they love, other people.

On that note, be wary of the concept that there’s any kind of morality to how someone feels love. Morality comes from how we treat people and how we act, internal feelings we have no control over isn’t someone’s morality.

I haven’t seen this in a long time but it used to be common for ace stuff, especially outreach stuff to say ‘but we can still love’ to appeal to heteronormative sensibilities. This hurt all aros, but especially loveless aros. Definitely do not do that and push back against it when you see it.

So I’m not a loveless aro myself, and it’s possible there are more things that could be done to be inclusive that I either haven’t thought of or am not doing. I definitely encourage you to look up what loveless aros say on the subject as well and see if there’s other things you can adopt.

And just a note if anyone wants to know what loveless aro means, the lgbta wiki has an entry on it.

All the best, Anon!