To 8th House Synastries,

To 8th House Synastries,

So many people in this world, but you happen to meet only those who make a difference in your life. How a stranger in the bus that means nothing to you is so important to somebody else's life. How the person you hate so much is so important in someone else's life.

Although we may hate them so much, but they were a part of our life because they were a part of our mind somewhere. They lived inside our mind before they entered our life.

Not just romantic but otherwise, 8th house synastries make you question the reality itself. They make you question that space between you and them, that void where chaos happens.

How the things they said don't align with your understanding. How the love they showed don't align with your expectations. And if you happen to have it with one of your parents, how difficult it is to accept that the parent is not a stable image in your life.

We question, question and question. We question them, who they were, why they came into my life and why the heck were they so cruel and evil with us? But do we question ourselves, perhaps they were only a reflection of our own faces.

Karmic Relationship Concept

Karmic relationship was unfinished in previous lifetimes and purpose is to balance the energy

Both people feel karmic pressure or psychic pressure that "my heart is yearning for this specific person but I dont know whether they really exist"

Both feel like the other is their soul image, that "he/she is the one I was looking for subconsciously"

It is not about how cute, interesting, smart, rich you both are, it is about the feelings you feel for each other, that "I know he/she is flawed, but I cannot resist wanting him/her"

You both may or may not love each other!!! Karmic does not always mean loving or fulfilling. Karmic basically means balance of give and take

It may not be how you fantasize things. You can be in karmic relationship and yet fantasize a fairytale. So be realistic of your expectations 🙏

Sometimes people go through karmic relationship but learn nothing about themselves. They come out with list of complaints how their person was lacking, unfulfilling, disappointing. But the point is major self development

Some karmic relationship is the one that you feel like you were born to be with them, that "if not you, I can't imagine being with someone else". Every karmic relationship varies case by case 💕

But the major sign of how this particular FATED relationship differs from every other relationship is the INTUITIVE knowing of your person. That your intuition knew he/she is the one you want, even before you met them, your imagination and feelings guide you. "I knew about you somehow, I just knew"

Things happen around you that guide you to them. You gain sudden insights that remind you of them. You may even feel like you are changing into the kind of person and personality they are. That "Universe was preparing me for you even before I knew it" 💕

You both feel like doing a lot of things for each other. "You were so empty without me, let me do things for you"

You both find yourself in situations where nobody else comes to your assistance. You are for them and they are for you. No friends and family follow through, only you two are each other's rock

You both may be shocked how your life paths met in hindsight. The babysteps, sleepless nights, twists and turns of events led you to each other. "Zig-zag, that's how I found you"

You both may provoke strong emotions in each other. That "Something heavy in my heart I carried through my childhood, only to show it to you"

Perhaps you both had an intuitive idea of each other. That you had a mental picture of them or something about their personality you always knew or something that is unique or quirky about them that you were not supposed to know beforehand unless it was karmic

To attract karmic relationship, you also need to have the natal placements that trigger them

Whether they will last a lifetime or not, who knows?

You both tackle personal issues and insecurities. That everyone does tackle but in a karmic relationship especially, things and beef with other people sort out and you are at peace with yourself, you sort of forget your past and things change after you meet them

Your values align though they may not align with other people in your life, but this one person he/she is exactly on the same page as you

Maybe you were a social butterfly but you change into a wallflower so you can spend time with someone who actually matters more than anybody else

Perhaps you both had challenging lives but it is all worth it now. This one person makes all the effort worth it

To be continued..

Death

Death belongs to the realm of faith.

You are right to believe you will die.

It sustains you.

If you didn't believe it, could you bear the life you have?

If we could not totally rely on the certainty that it will end, how could you bear all this?

Nevertheless, it is only a matter of faith.

And the worst thing about it is that you are not sure.

About 8th House, some notes.

Source: https://barbarapijan.com/bpa/Bhava/8randhra_bhava.htm

The Unseen but suspected;

The Unheard but intuited;

The Unknown but sensed.

* Comfortable with Uncertainty.

* If 8th house is without a planet, life runs on conventional lines till the ruler receives strong aspects.

* There are slightly hidden phenomena, which are not accessible to immediate perception. This type of phenomena can be known indirectly by inference.

* Roll with the punches.

* Surprising spiritual benefits consequent to the shocks.

* Saturn-influenced resistance to change may be uncomfortable at the very least. Occasionally, the result = severe physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual trauma.

* Sudden appearance of "luck".

* The hidden dynamics which may suddenly emerge to motivate a rejuvenating cycle of death-and-rebirth. 

* Tantrik, catastrophic, and transformative.

* The perception of sudden or shocking transformation may be converted into the perception of knowledgeable observance of the changes. This perceptual conversion is available through many varieties of tantric education.

* If the planet in occupation and also the house ruler are well-disposed, one may enjoy a lifetime of tantric initiations which result in magnificent liberation from material attachments. One may be judged a failure by those lacking eyes to see the value of such a profoundly transformative process.

* Engage in a state of constant uncertainty and ongoing emergency

* Few humans can tolerate the constant challenge to one's natural acquisitive tendencies 

* Usually an experience of death recycle rebirth which does not require destroying the body, but after a certain number of cycle-spins the physical form may be destroyed to create a new birth

* The core image of 8th house is the tantrik hunter, moving cautiously through the thick forest, alert to hidden energies which may suddenly emerge at any moment. The outcome of the hunter's awareness could lead to a successful capture, or it could protect one from surprise attack. In any case, graha in bhava-8 must pay profound attention to the Unseen.

* How the world actually works.

* How the native handles sudden, secret, transformative, catastrophic changes, self-destructive behavior: spiritual release of ego-membrane attachments, or collapse of social identity?

* You must be born again.

Ego battles for Sun in 7h

While it is fruitful to have Sun in 10h/11h for career and public life, the public perception and how you appear in workplace; it is, at the same time, detrimental to have Sun in 7h for relationships both romantic and otherwise.

From 7h, Sun also aspects the 1h, thus giving a personality where the native is ego sensitive, demands a lot of respect and authority. These natives are always looking for respect whether it is their personal relationship or professional, they are insecure if not being given a lot of importance by people in their surroundings.

At the same time, they may have a lot of "self-respect" which is a double edged sword -- 1. on one hand, self respect means that you have standards for how you ought to be treated by others, that you do not tolerate insults and teasing from others even as a joke and 2. on the other hand, it means that you are too egoistic to take help from anyone, you want to do everything yourself and seeking help from anyone feels like incompetence.

This applies to both Sun in 1h and 7h but mostly for 7th housers the problem is that ego works everywhere except in relationships. Whether it is your parents or partner, ego ruins relationships. These are the people who matter to you regardless of their shortcomings, they stand with you through thick and thin. So, we adjust our egos to better settle with the egos of our important people.

In the same way, according to the principle "like attracts like" that I like to use in astro relationships, the partners they attract have similar demands for authority, respect, pride and self-respect. If 7th houser is not consciously aware of their egoistic expectations, it is definitely going to cause problems for the people. So, here the choice is to adjust the need to be "I am right" or "respect me unconditionally" and to understand that it is your expectation that is too high. People cannot respect you all the damn time like you are some royalty. Even if you are a royalty, there will be people who gossip about you behind your backs, can you control them?

Moreover, where does this demand for excessive respect come from? If we explore this demand deeply, we find its roots in the relation to our father which is also indicated by Sun in astrology. In relation to father being excessively hero type or being too cold, we are either too demanding of respect overtly or covertly. For sun in 1h, they act too much like their father who himself was a grandiose type personality who liked to be in limelight. For sun in 7h, they are covertly demanding the limelight, father was likely a figure to be feared and intimidating authority. In any case, the personality of 1st houser and 7th houser Sun are similar.

Difference lies in the area of life; whereas the 1st houser will focus on self image but the 7th houser will focus on other image. The goal is to find respect and recognition.

Ladies with 7th house Planets but born in Conservative Societies?

Oh! To have planets in the 7th house but born in conservative society that abhors premarital relationships, casual relationships or even meeting of boy-girl before marriage. To be born in societies that encourage arranged marriages fixed by families and strictly against male-female friendships except those allowed by blood relations.

On one hand, you have an important 7th house and on the other hand your environment restricts one of the important purposes of your life, that is to learn to navigate life through relationships and to find yourself through one upon one relationships. Not every 7th houser ends up in a happy marriage.

If these ladies try to fulfill their destiny by dating someone in their younger years secretly from their parents and if their parents find out - all hell breaks loose! How dare you disrespect our family image and dignity? How dare you have emotions and feelings for someone and try to date someone like that? How dare you try to take a decision in your life that is not controlled by us?

I have seen ladies with moon in 7th house, jupiter in 7th house, sun in 7th house trying to date someone in their teenage or young adult years, only to end up badly for them that fills them with shame and guilt for going against their family traditions. They impulsively jump into relationship by way of projecting their fantasy and later regret for a lifetime that they are bad person for doing a "dirty" thing. Oh, to have feelings is a dirty thing?

I find it sad that 7th houser ladies are born in conservative societies because it strictly restricts their purpose in life and also fills them with shame and self-doubts because of their desires to find themselves through romantic relationships. Wherever planets are placed in a chart is where the native will feel an insatiable drive to fulfill the needs of that house. Someone with planets in 7th house will instinctively feel the desire to form companionship with a boy and to be completed by someone else.

Often the families are not aware of astrology and blame the native for going against family traditions, rather than simply use their mind that the native's destined path goes through 7th house, something they didn't decide but are naturally motivated for. Native does eventually end up marrying because they cannot escape their destiny but it is always a topic of wonder how their natural desires to deeply invest in a romantic relationship is shunned and criticized in their environment.