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8th house synastry and OBSESSION

First of all, I did not know anything about 8th house synastry before it happened to me. I'm writing this to share my raw personal experience. Perhaps it will help someone someday, or it will assist other astrology students to learn about this strange synastry.

About me: I am scorpio ascendant with moon and venus in 8th house in Gemini. My romantic situationship (very toxic) happened with Aries ascendant, moon in 3rd house in Gemini and venus in 2nd house in Taurus.

Before the synastry happened: I was a normal happy girl. Young, naive, clueless, hopeless romantic, emotional, black and white thinking, obsessive personality, addiction prone personality, atheist, emotional rollercoaster, used to read astrology for future prediction, browsed a lot of memes, hated reading books, maladaptive daydreaming and mental rumination.

My life before 8th house synastry: Things were getting tougher in all aspects of my life but I did not think much about it.

During 8th house synastry: I became obsessed with this man. I used to talk to him in my daydreams and fantasies. Unfortunately he was a womanizer predator alcoholic cheater liar and manipulator but I was just obsessed with him. We were not even in a relationship but I was OBSESSED. I forgot the whole world. It started so subtle and then it consumed me like a demon. I was no more the same person. I started telling him my dark childhood secrets and family secrets. I was in a storm of emotions and craziness. The whole world ceased to exist for me. My mind was a mess. I used to daydream all day about him. I was not even interested in him as a person. I was just obsessed with a mental image of him. I pictured him like a perfect person with no flaws. Somewhere deep down in my heart, I was deeply insecure about myself. This man was taking advantage of me and I let him. My obsession lasted 3 years! I did not know how to get it of it. I did not know why it happened in the first place.

How i broke my obsession: self transformation. Personality change. Brutal honesty with myself and what was lacking in my life. Complete change of identity. Facing my weaknesses and failures.

My life after 8th house synastry: I am calmer. Interested in occult. Self aware. A part of me has died sometimes back. I feel like a ghost has left my body. I was so exhausted and tired. I was so drained and empty. My whole life broke down. Studies hobbies family life and my identity. then I made everything from ground. I quit my vices (porn binge eating Maladaptive Daydreaming envy jealousy). My self confidence has shot up. My self esteem has improved. I am very spiritual now.

What was the 8th house synastry like? We talked about me mostly. I overshare everything. My childhood, problems, psychological issues, secrets. After I figured out he was a wrong man, I sent him many emails expressing my anger frustration etc. I was so frustrated that I was going through a strange obsession that nobody else was going through. It had ruined my life. The obsession itself was crazy. I used to talk to him in my head. I would rehearse all the conversations in my head. My mood depended on how he treated me.

It was the worst mistake of my life and the biggest life detour.

A part of me has died. I dont remember who I was before this. I dont remember the girl who talked to this man. I dont remember anything or anyone. I dont have victim mindset. I have no desires for relationship. I have no desire for romance. I am interested in spirituality and philosophy. I am interested in occult and esoteric. A part of me has died with this obsession.

Am I happy with this transformation? No. If I had the choice I would go for a normal life.

What did the obsession feel like? Blinding. Crazy. Brainless. Mindless. Emotional fool.

How did it improve my occult practice? I became very spiritual and firm believer of astrology. I am skeptic but also have a firm believer.

How did it change my love life? I dont know. I am single.

What placements are in my 8th house? Moon and venus. Both of them are so pretty feminine. These two beauties in a harsh house. These beauties in a storm. Two beauties in a graveyard haunted by the ghosts of 8th house.

Any advice to others? It is destiny. It is fate. 8th house synastry (moon in my case) was like the death of old me and birth of new me. I dont think it could be prevented. I knew the red flags but ignored them. I knew how wrong it was but ignored it. It was destined to happen.

8th House Synastry Discussion:

You can have 8th house synastry with anyone, even people who you are not romantically involved with like your parents.

"Obsession" does not happen all the time when you will encounter 8th house synastry. As we experience and mature, we learn to control our emotions and feel less and less reactions.

In my opinion, 8th house synastry is a call for inner growth. It will reveal your most darkest traits to you, your deepest wounds, most sensitive places and insecurities that you have been ignoring.

When it comes to "romance", it will help to know that love can be many things, it can be art or poetry or a feeling or an act or just a word. Obsession does not have to be positive, it can also be negative like you are so angry at someone that you just keep thinking about them all the time because you hate their guts.

Obsession is not really love. Obsession is a psychological issue, something to do with immaturity and low self esteem. In other words, obsession happens to people who have not worked on themselves, have weak identities, most probably have unresolved childhood traumas and similar hidden issues that come to awareness later on. If @zeldasnotes doesnot feel obsessions, it could be because she has worked on her inner development already; given that she has pluto and 8th house placements that already make her prone to shadow integration. She is so good in astro, this is proof of her spiritual journey.

May I make a guess and say that you will have 8th house synastry with people who will be your spiritual teachers in some ways and transform you in and out?

Is it safe to assume that most people on tumblr astro are young? Young people will experience 8th house synastry strongly because they are not yet evolved, so they should have patience with themselves when learning to explore the world.

The magnetic push and pull energy between planet and house person affects planet person more. Why is the passion so strong though? Why is there so much intensity? Why is it so hard to let go of? Why do they linger on the back of your head even when you have parted ways? If native is ready to accept that a spiritual attitude is needed in life from there on, they might handle it better. But if native keeps seeing it from romantic attitude "it must be love because I still think about them" then they will remain stuck where they are.

"Love is blind"....err "Obsession is blind". 8th house synastry feels like a possession, it does not see the externals of the person - it only sees their energy, mental image, inner vision of what "that person" is supposed to be in native's mind. It feels like hypnotism. We dare not romanticize it and see it only in positive light because it can make the native really dysfunctional and lost in darkness.

With Mars in the 8th house in synastry who feels it the strongest? 🔥

I love if you could answer based on personal experience!

To 8th House Synastries,

So many people in this world, but you happen to meet only those who make a difference in your life. How a stranger in the bus that means nothing to you is so important to somebody else's life. How the person you hate so much is so important in someone else's life.

Although we may hate them so much, but they were a part of our life because they were a part of our mind somewhere. They lived inside our mind before they entered our life.

Not just romantic but otherwise, 8th house synastries make you question the reality itself. They make you question that space between you and them, that void where chaos happens.

How the things they said don't align with your understanding. How the love they showed don't align with your expectations. And if you happen to have it with one of your parents, how difficult it is to accept that the parent is not a stable image in your life.

We question, question and question. We question them, who they were, why they came into my life and why the heck were they so cruel and evil with us? But do we question ourselves, perhaps they were only a reflection of our own faces.

🥀8TH SYNASTRY EXPERIENCE WITH MY EX BOYFRIEND🥀 {PART 1}

Hi guys, this is my first post here, and I wanted to start by saying that this is my personal experience during the relationship, I don't accept third party guesses and unsolicited opinions. It's my blog and I post whatever I want.

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Second of all, I'm not an expert or professional in the field of astrology, I'm just posting this because I feel like I should share it with everyone who is afraid of the 8th house.

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His Venus, Moon, Mars and Saturn all fall in my 8th house. In this part I will only talk about his planets and how it felt to be the house person.

🥀 VENUS IN 8TH

When I first met him it was like my whole body had received an electrical charge. My mouth went dry and my heart raced. It was a quick and silly conversation but it had me dying to find out more about him. He was beautiful, like a Greek God, I had already been attracted to other men before, but no one could compare with his beauty. He had something that made me want to get to know him more. He was mysterious, sexy, bold and confident.

His Venus falling in my 8th house was like seeing the most beautiful art in the Louvre museum. There was no one else in the world that could compare to his beauty, he had cast a spell on me, tied me to his feet. I was enchanted.

His eyes were the first thing I saw, his body was beautiful, of course, but the beauty of his Bambi brown eyes was unmatched. They were so loving and kind, I felt like I could tell him all my secrets, dreams and goals. I was at home.

Venus falling in the 8th house makes the house person see everything bigger than it really is. She puts her expectation on the planet person, she thinks he is the only man on earth. It's all more viceral and fanciful. She tries to look directly at the sun and ends up with a sore eye. But she doesn't care, because she's in love with him. It's like magic, it's this crazy thing that makes you obsess over this person.

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{PART 2 IS COMING}

8TH + 12TH synastry combo is CRAZY, I swear y'all, I'm done with karmic relationships, I QUIT

8TH SYNASTRY CULTURE 🫀

When people read about the 8th house, the first thing that comes to mind is sex. And sorry to dampen your excitement, but that's not all this house is about.

The 8th house is a place of depth, taboos, traumas, death and fears. Is the house of transformation, of the occult, of what is not accepted by society.

Is deep bonding, deep sharing, and deep transformation. It is a person's most intimate and darkest place.

So when a planet falls in this house, you feel like your privacy has been violated. It's like if you let a stranger read your diary, let them go through your stuff and turn your life upside down.

It messes with your head, you no longer have control of your actions. You're blindfolded, and holding his hand in the dark.

You find yourself in Russian roulette. You trust that person with your eyes closed. And normally you don't trust anyone.

The person on the planet attracts like nobody else. It has a magnetic force that makes you want to be close to it. You feel naked next to this person.

Your morals are on the floor, you're doing things you never imagined yourself doing. He excites you, and intrigues you. But can we judge you? Who are we?

I was once the person of the house and the planet. Usually they are different situations, but in this case they are the same. You both have darkness inside you, secrets and fetishes that you don't tell anyone. You attract each other because deep down you know that if you stick together, you will turn darkness into light.

If any personal planet falls here, sun, moon or venus. You light up this house, all the pain, suffering and fear disappears when you are together. You complete each other.

And when you're far away, you can't stop thinking about each other. It's like the memories are tattooed on your minds. It's suffocating, and dangerous.

If poorly aspected, it can cause intense jealousy, and sometimes physical aggression. All that love can turn toxic if you're not careful. So if you're in one, leave now.

Do I really have to talk about the sex? We all know it's amazing.

Sex can be an out-of-body experience. It's so amazing that it feels like you've been to heaven and back.

If you're away from each other, masturbation can sometimes be even better lol, trust me I've been there. IT'S GREAT!!!

Now, the songs that I think describe the 8th house synastry.

Regarding the 8th house synastry, who do you think feels the placements the most? The person of the planet or the person of the house? I don't think I've ever seen anyone explain whether the planet person also feels everything intensely like the house person. What y'all think?

I seem to be a sane person, but I've been in love for years with a guy who has a stellium in my 8th house.

8th house synastry is not for the weak ones, this sh*t has been following me for years, it seems like I can never move on. I've never met anyone like him. I'm trapped. I can't get out. I'm tired. Enough!!!

FREE ME UP!!!

8TH SYNASTRY is thinking every now and then about the person who made you feel like you were on fire in the past, and not being able to do anything because you don't talk to each other anymore. They tell you to move on, but what about when no one you've ever met is like them? Once you've tasted the divine, it's hard to settle for less.

that's very accurate

8h/12h synastry

☀️ ASTRO OBSERVATIONS PT2 ☀️

I'm not a professional astrologer, just based on my personal experiences.

☀️ People with moon in the 8th house tend to have a mystical side, they like tarot readings and love spells.

They may also have dreams that reveal the truth, if you are being cheated on, your dreams will guide you to the truth.

☀️ Mars in the second house are the people with imposing and strong voices, they can lead groups, masses and can even be great singers.

An example of this is Martin Luther King, with a Gemini Mars in the second house. a voice that inspires.

There's also Cher with a Leo Mars in the 2nd house. Powerful and influential voice for decades.

If you have this aspect, I would say that you should invest in your communication, your voice here is your greatest weapon. Politics, Showbiz or even social media can lead you to success.

☀️ Neptune and Uranus in the 5th house tend not to want children, but if they have them they will be rebellious, artistic and intelligent. A very strong energy of Aquarius and Pisces.

Put your children in theater or dance school.

☀️ Venus in the third house makes a person love reading, writing and watching romance films. They tend to be a little out of the ordinary, with a lot of imagination.

Writers of fanfiction, music and poetry probably have this aspect.

☀️ Speaking as someone who has gone through the 8th house synastry, getting involved with someone other than this aspect is very challenging. In the sense that we wait for the hurricane to arrive, the house to burn and the obsession hits, but it never comes.

It is very difficult to overcome these feelings, but don't blame yourself for not having overcome them yet, time heals, I have faith.

☀️ Saturn in the 9th house tends to feel uncomfortable on long journeys and on planes. They may miss the comforts of home and tend to get into a bad mood when the trip is almost over.

That's all for today.