By The Way If You're Creating A Space Like A Private Group Chat Or A Discord Server It Is Absolutely

By the way if you're creating a space like a private group chat or a Discord server it is absolutely your responsibility to make sure that space is safe.

It is your responsibility to moderate it. To regulate the behavior displayed within it. To take action when people create harm. You cannot just create this space then wash your hands of any responsibility for what happens within it.

I keep seeing so many teens making servers and chats and groups and then whining that they're getting bullied for not doing anything when people use them to cause harm and upset and I cannot stress this enough.

You are responsible for shutting that down. Or for sourcing someone to do it on your behalf. You have control of that space. You are not just an innocent bystander.

"Anything goes here, if you're offended just leave" is absolutely not an excuse for blatantly allowing things like harassment, bullying, racism, homophobia and other targeted hate.

Discord in particular is incredible for available resources for preventing things like this. There are literally hundreds of server bots you can deploy to auto-moderate and manual moderation is as easy as two little clicks.

If you feel you're responsible enough to be in the position of power of creating a space, you are responsible enough to ensure it is not used for harm.

And if you're not?

Well.

If you tell victims they need to be ashamed of how they cope with or heal from their trauma and that they need to be hidden and silent about it because you disagree with it or it makes you uncomfortable, you do not care about victims. You care about your own comfort and consider it more valuable than theirs.

the answer to the possible issue of glorification and "romanticization" of taboo topics in fiction is not to censor and harass.

It's to advocate for the targeted demographics to have access to proper resources and education regarding those topics.

-signed me, who benefited greatly from the discussions, discourse and resources surrounding relationships and kink in reaction to Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.

"Someone had a good point so I'm gonna make a snarky not-response and ignore it."

I feel like people forget incest victims exist in real life and you may not want to make your incest fan content extremely public with zero filter. A lot of people treat incest as a joke but it's actually so fucked up because family is who you're told to trust so the level of betrayal and disgust is unimaginable. I hope I made someone feel guilty with this post 👍

"READ MY DNI" no. use your block button like an adult. i'm not scrolling through the many-paragraphs-long pinned posts of every blog i reblog something from. if you insist certain types of people aren't welcome in the notes of your posts then it's your responsibility to curate that. or choose a closed social media platform like facebook or instagram. or go and live in a barn away from humanity if you really don't like sharing the world with people who are different from you

Hi, hi! I just wanted to thank you for your blog. Not only you actually, most proship Tumblr I follow, but I feel very emotional right now so you're getting the thanks haha. I've been feeling guilty about an oc incest ship recently, I've never been that attached to a ship nor into incest but I keep turning The Suffering and The Horny all over in my head. It's reassuring to ground myself in reality and reaffirm that it doesn't make me disgusting. I just have 'ugly' feelings to process. And I don't even need that justification. I mean I've been a Sebaciel shipper since I was a pre-teen but before my current incest ship I've never felt guilt or a need to justify it tbh. It's getting long and rambly but thank you. And fuck thought police.

I do what I do for people like you.

But, really. Its actually pretty common to feel guilt or anxiety about your relationship with fiction or something you're consuming in regards to fiction, and I promise you its normal.

The best thing you can do is what you are; understand and affirm that fiction is encapsulated from reality and it does not reflect who you are or what you uphold. Painting a dead body does not mean I killed someone.

Fictional incest does not equate to a real life crime nor possess a victim.

Sometimes, fiction can even help us to process our thoughts and feelings more than reality ever could. Sometimes its easier to tell a blank piece of paper your feelings than it is to tell a real person. Sometimes it takes us reading someone else's fiction to understand or learn something about our own reality.

In the iconic words of the most shagalicious agent; its all groovin', baby.