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It was worded badly, a fact that I noted well beyond the point of it being conductive to go back and change it. 'Called out' in this case was the incorrect language, since its been turned into a buzzword on the internet for going for someone's jugular.

'Called out' would perhaps more aptly be worded as pointed out. If you're going to make disagreeable content, people will disagree with it. However aggressively. Any time you make a public post, you simply must be prepared to accept that anyone can have any kind of reaction to it.

Nor did I ever mention you cannot block people even if they are, rightfully, challenging you on something. I simply stated to be prepared that it can, and will, happen. So many people get corrected on something they've stated or claimed and take it as a personal attack and a wrong act.

In reality; if you're going to call the sky green, you're going to get people telling you its blue.

Interesting, though.

Actually there's nothing wrong with blocking or reporting people, deleting comments and refusing to respond/engage with hate and baiting on any level whatsoever. They are not owed your time or explanations. They are not owed your energy. You are not immature or incapable for choosing to refuse to engage instead of choosing to argue and expend energy.

Obviously if you're making uneducated, incorrect or bigoted content then yeah, be prepared for people to call you out and challenge your statements and views, but I'm talking in general.

Hate comment on your fic? That's cool, baby. Just delete it.

Someone's trying to bait you into arguing about your stance on something? Whatever. Its all groovy. Block 'em.

You got a clear visual that someone's just gonna keep coming back at you? Have a report button. Its free. I'll give you as many as you need.

You don't need to facilitate that. You don't need to see it. You don't need to spend your time trying to challenge someone who's obviously either in a bad mentality or is just a shitty person as a whole. You simply Do Not. You don't need to allow that person to have a space and a voice within yours. You don't need to allow them to be able to spew their bullshit for you and everyone else to see outside of their own little bubble.

Next time you get a hate comment on AO3? Wham, bam, its gone, ma'am. No thank you. Anon hate mail? Not in this household.

You have no obligation to facilitate any of it, and anyone who tries to force you into thinking otherwise is simply incorrect. Their action does not inherently demand your reaction. Plus, its objectively more hilarious to know that the sole outcome of their spitefulness and negativity is them getting even angrier because you're refusing to engage and refusing to feed their need for a response.

"Taboo enjoyers DNI"

DNIs go both ways. If you don't want me to interact with you, do not interact with me. Hypocrisy is unbecoming.

"Why don't you tell people what kind of fictional porn you like?"

Why don't you tell them you spend your free time telling real people to kill themselves and arguing about the rights of people who literally do not exist.

I'll tell my mom that I read about Tony Stark pounding Peter Parker until his ass is as open as a 24/7 McDonald's if you tell yours that you wholeheartedly tell people you hope their families burn alive and they get raped because they ship a human and a celestial being together.

While we're at it, sure, I'll tell my boss I like monsterfucking as long as you tell yours that your break-time hobby is scouring the internet stalking people and harassing them over their kinks.

I might be the freak with a tentacle dildo and a bookmarks page full of nasty, kinky incest, but you're the freak who could literally kill someone.

I know which one I'd rather be.

"Someone had a good point so I'm gonna make a snarky not-response and ignore it."

I feel like people forget incest victims exist in real life and you may not want to make your incest fan content extremely public with zero filter. A lot of people treat incest as a joke but it's actually so fucked up because family is who you're told to trust so the level of betrayal and disgust is unimaginable. I hope I made someone feel guilty with this post 👍

You'd think it would be a strawman argument, but according to some people simply witnessing a fictional instance of something is enough to blindly convince or convert you to perceiving it as a positive. Often without consequence or regardless of consequence.

If you think the counter-argument sounds ridiculous, that's because the original argument is.

"But this piece of fiction romanticizes [insert bad thing here]!"

Okay. And?

If you aren't self-aware and educated enough to know something is bad regardless of how a tv show or movie or song portrays it, that's a you issue. I've never once watched Hannibal and thought that's a reasonable real life relationship. I've never once watched Game of Thrones and thought hey, maybe fucking your sister isn't such a bad thing.

Romanticizing is simply part of the narrative. If you can't separate the portrayal of something in fiction and how it should be approached in real life, you shouldn't be watching it.

This post is about hypocrisy, ethics and censorship and is not nor will ever be anti-RPF.

We're entering this strange era of fannish existence where we are simultaneously trying to censor everything into oblivion and also be as invasive as we possibly can to celebrities and people of interest.

Like god forbid someone writes smut fic about Henry Cavill on their silly little Tumblr account, but its considered normal that "insider sources" are selling telling you all about his private relationships and paparazzi are photographing him buying groceries.

I can't say 'sex' on TikTok but Daily Mail can take photographs of female celebrities half-naked in their own backyards and talk about their weight and their breasts and how appealing they are or aren't.

We are obsessed with consuming real life, often invasive content about real people, but god forbid we start creating our own so we don't rely on exploiting them and their privacy.

First and second are the most popular when it comes to reader insert fanfiction, and first and third, although third dominates, are the most popular when it comes to character fanfiction.

I've found that first person is a lot more common in RPF fanfiction, but I still get the odd few crop up when I'm scouring character fanfiction. Most notably in DC or Marvel.

E.g; works can be marked by the style of perspective written in and also searched by or filtered by the perspective written in.

I ask because I am someone who absolutely never reads first person literature, and often I come across fanfiction where the summary is in third person but once you click on the fanfiction the entire story is in first person POV. Its only a mild annoyance, but as far as features go its one that I, myself, would find very beneficial.

Hi. Victim of childhood sexual abuse here.

We were talking about pedophilia. Because that was the incoming accusation. Never once did I state all child rape is a crime of attraction, either.

I lost all respect for antis the day that one said outright said that I, a disabled, fully mature adult was 'basically a child' and any person who was attracted to me was basically a pedo. Because telling disabled people that others being attracted to them is inherently evil is a totally normal, non infantalizing thing to do, right? There's nothing ableist about saying disabled people are 'basically children' right??????

Antis and the media have watered down the meaning of pedophilia to basically nothing. Its a defunct term at this point. It just means anything and everything that anyone wants it to and it makes me so, so angry for the actual victims of true pedophilia and the actual people who are being victimised by the trend of using it as a battering ram.

Neurodivergency and disabilities being weaponised, too, is part of the problem, not a contribution toward a solution. The more you tell people that disabled and neurodivergent people are vulnerable and open to risk the more risk you actually expose them to.

And, frankly, the more you piss them off.

Please do not amend posts with false information.

You can absolutely search for and use words like rape and incest on AO3 without "ways around it" or anything else. You simply type it into the tag box under Includes.

WATTPAD REFUGEES - READ UP

STOP ADDING FANCY ILLEGIBLE TEXT TO ALL YOUR SUMMARIES, TAGS AND MAIN BODIES. WE CAN'T SEE SHIT.

STOP CENSORING WORDS - THIS IS NOT TIKTOK OR WATTPAD. YOUR WORK WILL NOT GET YOTE FOR SAYING WORDS. SUICIDE, RAPE, SHIT, FUCK, ECT. WRITE. THE. FUCKING. WORD. NOT SU*CIDE. R4P3. P3DO.

"COLLECTIONS" OF STOLEN FANART AND RE-UPLOADED FANFICTION ARE NOT WELCOME HERE. THEY'RE ACTUALLY NOT WELCOME ON WATTPAD EITHER BUT ESPECIALLY NOT AO3.

SIMILARLY, CREATING "BOOK COVERS" USING STOLEN FANART IS ALSO NOT WELCOME.

(EVER.)

PLEASE USE THE ACTUAL TAGS FEATURE NOT A SCATTERING OF RANDOM HASHTAGS IN THE SUMMARY OR START OF THE FIC. WE CAN'T ACTUALLY DO SHIT WITH THOSE.

I never said that therapists don't hurt people at all. In particular, religious therapists imposing their beliefs and religious values upon patients is a very prominent issue that the professional field is battling against on a constant basis.

(Experienced also in pretty much every professional field right now.)

((Re; the 'since when' response, the point of that was to reinforce that the people who do, when appropriately acted against, are not in the field for long. Because again, that is not the purpose of nor correct approach to therapy.))

My point was that, overall, therapists should not get into therapy for the purpose of nor use as a technique impressing their own individual beliefs upon a patient. While antis were the focal point of my post, the sentiment is universal. Regardless of why, and regardless of the fact that it does happen.

The main basis of their argument was dismissing mine by insisting that both "nobody actually does that" and then "but people actually do that!"

It was a totally moot argument fuelled by emotion and lack of literacy.

That's what I was responding to.

Antis who proudly proclaim they're going to become a therapist so they can shut down and manipulate and unethically target all the 'nasty proshippers' make me laugh because they're going to get two months into any sort of qualifying course and be slapped in the face by the reality that therapists are obligated to remain objective and impartial and will lose their license if they're found to be using their position to be unfairly bias or negatively target clients based on their own personal beliefs and values.

"Objectivity helps counsellors avoid personal biases and allows them to focus on the client's needs without imposing their own beliefs or values." - American Counselling Association

"Therapy should feel like an inclusive and safe place for clients. Clients need to feel safe and supported in their work. And while all therapists have inherent biases and personal preferences, it is never appropriate for them to engage in discrimination, racism, sexism, or other forms of prejudice with clients." - Medcircle

You do not get into therapy to correct people. You get into therapy to help them. Therapy is not about the therapist.

Which is already stated in my previous HP-related posts.

With my recent Harry Potter posts gaining traction, I just want to make an important note:

You are not a bad person for having enjoyed Harry Potter. You are not a bad person for finding it hard to let go of something so ingrained into your life. You are not a bad person for enjoying the overall story of Harry Potter despite the bigotry JK Rowling managed to smatter into it.

Nobody should be telling you that you are. Your past relationship with Harry Potter is not the issue.

The issue is what you and we all do moving forward with the new information and facts that we know.

And the facts are that JK Rowling is a rampant and proud bigot who is hellbent on using the fortune Harry Potter made her to actively pursue the entire trans community with hostile intent.

And she does not care. She is happy that she is doing it. She is happy that people oppose her because it gives her an excuse to play victim and paint trans people who oppose her as violent, aggressive and evil.

This is not about how you engaged with Harry Potter in the past. Or even how you engage with it privately. This is about whether or not you choose to contribute toward her mission and towards the persecution of trans people right now.

Because when you buy that licensed merch in the store, she gets part of the profit. When you go to Harry Potter World, she gets part of the profit. When you buy the Harry Potter game, she gets part of the profit.

And all of those things result in three consequences:

It shows the marketing departments that Harry Potter is still a cashcow.

It shows JK Rowling that she can say and do whatever the hell she wants and nothing is going to stop that money rolling in.

She is given a steady cashflow which she uses to bankroll anti-trans movements and spokespeople and government petitions.

That is the reality of your choice from here on out. That is why people are asking you to set aside what you once had with Harry Potter and to stand with the people she has made it her life's mission to destroy.

You don't even have to let go of it completely. Just let go of the interactions that directly fund JK Rowling. Just cut off the cashflow she's using to ruin the lives of people she's never even met.

Buy fanmade merchandise or learn how to make your own. If you're cosplaying? Buy unofficial cosplays or buy second-hand off resale websites. Same with other merchandise.

If you want to watch Harry Potter, there are hundreds of non-licensed steaming websites showing it which do not contribute royalty income to JK Rowling.

If you're writing Harry Potter fanfiction, use a site like AO3 which will defend you tooth and claw if she gets desperate and starts coming after fan creators.

Harry Potter might be the comforting memories of your childhood, but JK Rowling is an active threat to the literal livelihood of trans people. People who could lose legal rights and protections simply because of one vicious woman with a bigoted agenda and deep pockets.

All we're asking is that you compare your reasons for enjoying Harry Potter with the facts of why you should make a few simple, easy choices to avoid bankrolling her and determine which is more important.

Or rather, which one should be more important.

And make the right choice.

No they aren't.

Genuinely. Not every single micro-space within a fandom needs to allow you to address or think about negative or unsettling or stressing points. At all. I am part of some servers for fandoms where even critical discussion of the source material is banned because the sole point of the server is to be an exclusively positive space.

Even discussions of politics that apply to that fandom.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

Because I said 'there needs to be spaces' and the first thing you said in response was that 'actually X is a different matter and needs to be given spaces.'

My point isn't that every single fandom space should be free from these things. My point is that there should be at least some that are, regardless of what relevance an issue has to the fandom.

By saying 'X is a different matter. There needs to be space for it' you either made the completely irrelevant point that it should be present in the spaces that I'm not talking about, or you're making the contradictory point that they should be in the spaces I am.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

Will it actually genuinely ruin everything for you if one space out of ten does not permit critical discussion? Would it genuinely be that bad? One space out of ten? Really?

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

Actually after making this post I'm begging people to learn critical thinking skills and media literacy. In what world do you see me say "actually not every space is obligated to provide a sounding board for you to be negative" and conclude that what I'm actually saying is racists and bigots should be allowed to run rampantly without consequence?

People like you are why other people get activism and compassion burnout.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

According to the various tag and reblog responses on the post, incredibly. It is like asking them to push the stone up the mountain.

at the end of the day, when you are in a server you follow its rules, if it doesn't allow drama, find somewhere that does

This logic means people actually have to think for themselves and let go of their entitlement and I can safely say for a select group of people that is simply not going to happen.

There's already been ample responses of people going; "well yes but racism."

It was not what I was talking about. I advise looking through the reblogs and the reblog tags in order to see the responses which correlate to the purpose and core point of this post.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

Virtue signalling becomes "bad" when it becomes weaponised or used in place of actual activism. There's absolutely nothing wrong with signalling your stances, virtues and morals to other people or expressing support for something or someone.

Unfortunately, a lot of people use virtue signalling as a means of pressure, targeting, and other unpleasant behaviors.

For example; "if you don't use this Facebook profile frame you're clearly a horrible person who doesn't give a fuck about veterans and can't be bothered to do one tiny thing to show support!"

Or; "if you're too lazy to tell everyone all the time that you're not a pedophile I'm going to automatically assume you're a pedophile."

When people use virtue signalling to harass others, apply pressure to them to conform to expectations or to be awarded basic decency is when virtue signalling becomes something that is harmful rather than something that is beneficial.

Virtue signalling in terms of things like profile frames and window stickers is a fun, sweet way of showing support and raising awareness, but it isn't a moral obligation nor is it paramount activism. Especially when it becomes a consistent expectation that you absolutely must participate in every single public signalling trend or be condemned.

Am I the only person who doesn’t think ‘virtue signaling’ is inherently bad/useless? That post talking about FB frames is so bizarre to me because to me that’s like. Walking past a business with a rainbow flag flying. That was genuinely incredibly important to me as a terrified closeted teen! And someone having a Facebook frame for the same reasons is like - hey that’s one person who doesn’t want me to change or die! I don’t think that’s ’doing nothing’.

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