By The Way, You're Certainly Not Obligated To Do Things For People Or Return Effort, But If You Frequently

By the way, you're certainly not obligated to do things for people or return effort, but if you frequently refuse to do so you cannot blame other people for your social relationships crumbling away or for the opinion they form about you.

I see so many posts about how; "you're not owed my time!! If I want to ignore you for weeks I can!! You just have to accept it and be ready to accept me whenever I give enough fucks to speak to you again!!"

And while its absolutely true that, yeah, technically, not even your friends are owed your time. And plenty of people need respite from social engagement, if you're someone who frequently ignores your friends, cancels on them, blows them off or just generally doesn't reciprocate the effort they're putting in....

Sooner or later they're not going stop that effort. They're going to think of you as a selfish or ignorant person who isn't suitable for friendship.

My friends are understanding of the fact that sometimes I'll go a few days or a week without replying. Everyone has a life, everyone gets busy, everyone gets overwhelmed. But I always make a point of reaching back out to them the moment I have the time or energy to.

I thank them for being patient. I ask how they are. If I've really got enough time and energy I make plans to meet up or call them. I put effort into actually maintaining the friendship, valuing them as my friend, and making sure the relationship is even.

The amount of vitriol I see aimed at friends or family who have genuinely and in good faith expressed that people aren't putting in effort or maintaining an equal relationship is fucking astounding.

"I don't have many friends. Everyone is so fucking selfish these days, always expecting people to be available at the drop of a hat or answer every single text."

Are they though, Karen? Or are you just acting like a child with its toys, expecting people's lives to be put on pause until you're ready for them?

"AO3 is a broken site" is one hell of a way to admit you're too dumb to figure out how the filtering system works

Skill issue confirmed.

https://www.tumblr.com/myfandomrealitea/753178319105687552/pick-your-autistic-hollywood-stereotype-explosive?source=share

I am all of these depending on the day

I am the autistic person where the cast breaks out in a sweat and stammers that everyone has their quirks and the character is open to interpretation whenever its brought up.

Gun to their heads their last words would be;

"I'd never tell anyone who sees themselves in my character that they're wrong...."

Can I steal that victim card picture that is so funny

By all means, its just a free-use image off the internet. There are plenty of them and plenty of memes available on the same basis.

Truly ironic that people tried to defend the Wattpad purges because; "They're only getting rid of the illegal stuff!" right up until Wattpad did the exact same fucking thing and got rid of all their standard softcore queer porn too.

(Bonus points for the fact that they're all now flocking to AO3 and trying to force a space for themselves there under the demand that AO3 changes it very purpose and policies.)