We Actually Are In The Era Where We're So Offended By Everything We're Getting Offended On Other Peoples'

We actually are in the era where we're so offended by everything we're getting offended on other peoples' behalf and telling them that they're wrong if they're not personally offended by something.

Here's a tea you deserve it 🍵

very very appreciated

if you want to do drama sometimes why don't you want to do drama ALL the time <- some people apparently

My favorite thing is when people think this blog makes up the entirety of my existence when I don't think throughout an entire day I actually even spend a full hour on it.

I might pop on 2-3 times to check if I'm getting a lot of messages or there's a lot of action going on with a post, but consecutively I think the longest I've spent online is 30 minutes and that's because I was researching while typing up a post.

I'm only online right now because I'm sat on the floor watching my bread bake and need a distraction so I don't open the oven every two minutes.

hi! just asking your opinion on RPF, i’m very very new to the proship/fanfic community and really don’t know how to feel abt it. i haven’t heard anyone’s takes on it so far so i’d love to hear your thoughts!

RPF is just another form of fiction. Its no different to any kind of other fictional literature, fandom space, creative action, ect. The people are, essentially, just characters. You're using them to tell a story.

A lot of people's issue with RPF comes into play because of individuals who ignore the proper etiquette behind RPF and ruin it for everyone. The general concern is that unlike fictional characters, real people are capable of seeing what you create and getting upset, offended or angry over it.

This is where its important to remember the following rules regarding RPF:

Never send RPF to the people whom it concerns, people close to them or people in reasonable contact with them. Personally, even if an actor has said they don't mind RPF about themselves, I wouldn't push it on them. Accepting something's existence isn't always the same as wanting to be invested or involved in it.

Similar to above, make sure you're not tagging them or using searches the person is known to frequent. (E.g; if you're posting ship art, don't tag the people involved.)

Where possible, keep RPF to closed-off websites like AO3 and Tumblr where the people involved would actually have to go looking for it in order to be exposed to it. (Sites like X are next to impossible to actually curate and monitor and are awful for this kind of thing.)

Ensure you are properly tagging and marking your content so in the instance it can't fully be prevented from reaching the person/people, they are explicitly aware of what it is. (Another reason why sites like Tumblr and AO3 are simply the best option.)

Anyone who is famous will be aware that there are people who view them and use their image sexually. Every single famous person knows this. In industries like kpop, even, bromances are actively marketed because they know its lucrative and sought after.

Famous people are also more than aware of how to avoid content they don't want to see. They're aware of sites like AO3 and know once they go there its a lawless (albeit well tagged) wasteland of hardcore smut and the unimaginable. They know if they don't want to see certain things they simply have to stay away from certain platforms, tags, key words, ect.

Famous people aren't helpless little ducklings accidentally stumbling upon twisted non-con fanfic of them and their colleagues on an hourly basis like some people assume.

Although RPF is just another form of fiction is does require a bit more respect, conduct and consideration. That's all.

I just saw that reblog from through-thick-and-quinn and I have to wonder, gee, if it's that bad to wake up every day stressed to the pits, wouldn't they NOT want people everywhere else to feel like that? Awareness =/= getting treated like you can't escape stressful things, which to understate, is technically the same unfortunate situation some groups are in right now. No, nowhere near the same magnitude, only the former really involves the chance of imminent death and such, but still stressful. Sentence still applies.

Honestly you could scroll through any of the reblogs and replies and tags on that post and wonder how the fuck some of those people haven't dropped dead from stress and fear yet.

Frankly if I forced myself to live the way some of those people are, I'd have been institutionalized a long time ago. And that's not a commented intended disrespectfully at anyone's genuine attempts to be a good person or make a change; its an honest to god observation.

I cannot imagine a life where I wake up every single day and force myself to spend almost every waking moment entrenched in war and dead bodies and human trafficking and starving animals and pollution and every other world and social issue that is festering at any given moment.

I really, really can't.

I was in a Black Butler themed proship Discord server. I've been trying to write dark romance novels with very dark taboo themes (proship aligned), and wanted to share my content for it on the server, but I was told not to do it.

This made me think about creating a space for proship novel writers and authors but I haven't done it yet because I don't know if anyone is interested...

Do you think it'd be a good idea? And if so, would you promote it?

Its not uncommon for servers that are based in fandom to disallow original content, so I wouldn't take that too personally. I'm in a few servers where you can talk about the ship or the fandom all you like, but other fandoms and original works are barred.

For my opinion on the proposal; I think it would be a good idea, yes. Unfortunately, you'll need to be quite vigilant about monitoring it and keeping an eye on the people within. "Dark romance" is yet another subject rotten to the core by TikTok. Manipulation and gaslighting and abuse are sexy, apparently, but incest is where a lot of them draw the line. Its likely that even in a "proship aligned" space, you'll get a lot of people who are victim to the mindset of only certain things being acceptable.

My advice would be to not rush into it. Spend a good while setting the server up, deciding on the rules, what scope you want it to have, what size is manageable for you (e.g; do you want a large public server? A smaller, invite-only server? What can you realistically handle moderating?) and so forth.

As for promoting it, give me a tour once its all set up and if I think its at the point where its sustainable and well equipped to survive, I'll definitely help to promote it and give it some reach.