If You're Against Perisex People Using Labels Like AFAB Transfem And AMAB Transmasc, Please Kindly Shut

If you're against perisex people using labels like AFAB transfem and AMAB transmasc, please kindly shut the fuck up. If you're against perisex people using pronoun sets such as shi/hir please kindly shut the fuck up.

I, myself, am intersex. I do not *care* if Sally sees her womanhood through a trans lens while being perisex AFAB. I am an avid believer that enforcing the notion that such labels are 'exclusive' to intersex people is harmful. 'Oh but shi/hir has been used against us!!!' That is not the fault of Billy, who just vibes with the pronoun set.

The sooner we as a community can realize that these 'progressive' boxes aren't much better than the ones made by our oppressors, the better.

Imagine a massive dog approaches you and just fucking goes 'miaw :3'

Hey can semi verbal beings — especially ones who can get more 'talkative' — help me out with something? I've been struggling with verbal labels, as I don't know where I lay. The best way I can describe my ability to speak is being 'set off' which can either be positive or negative, and I'll speak a lot (or at least it feels like a lot for me. It feels like a warm up where I'll notice my vocal cords burning after a bit like an overheated engine). Otherwise I'm mostly a listener and will answer in short sentences. I also experience verbal shutdowns, where I can push through if I really have to (I've gotten better at this over the years). I've always been like this the more I think about it; I've had someone say that I 'never felt the need to fill the silence' and I was always predisposed to just... not speaking in class but I don't know if that's because I was pushed away by my peers often and just gave up lol.

I've considered demiverbal and even verbal flux, but that doesn't quite feel right either. I'm like a blend of demi and semi verbal and I've been calling myself semiverbal for a bit, but I keep feeling like I don't struggle enough to fit that label. So yeah, that's my situation lol, I would like some help with this and even consolation.

I'm well aware of the original usage of the word 'woke', seeing as I'm black myself. However, I'm also well aware of how language evolves and how that word has been used towards progressives in general. This has led to my interpretation of the word being changed to "Oh, it means progressive for minorities in general."

Also my original post wasn't really using the word as an insult, rather it was used — again — as another word for progressive. Hope this helped! I'll change the word because it's just a simple edit on my part, so my post doesn't get derailed again.

If you're against perisex people using labels like AFAB transfem and AMAB transmasc, please kindly shut the fuck up. If you're against perisex people using pronoun sets such as shi/hir please kindly shut the fuck up.

I, myself, am intersex. I do not *care* if Sally sees her womanhood through a trans lens while being perisex AFAB. I am an avid believer that enforcing the notion that such labels are 'exclusive' to intersex people is harmful. 'Oh but shi/hir has been used against us!!!' That is not the fault of Billy, who just vibes with the pronoun set.

The sooner we as a community can realize that these 'woke' boxes aren't much better than the ones made by our oppressors, the better.

Maybe I'm the only one who needs to hear this, but if you're semi verbal and use your voice as your main source of communication by 'default', that doesn't mean you're not semi verbal. I've gotten so used to using mouth words that I can, for the most part, force sentences out in bursts (which ends up fucking me over regardless of if it doesn't hit immediately). I speak in full sentences at the expense of my energy (and mood, and sensory threshold), because I feel self conscious otherwise. My thing is, if I can't speak in full sentences in a situation I just don't speak at all (which contributes to me avoiding social situations because it can get strenuous to hold a conversation, and fast).

I've been forcing speech less, though, because I'm working on undoing harmful habits from my masking; if I don't feel up to cranking words out, I will write my words down on paper or a whiteboard, or pull out my phone and contribute through texting. Sure it's frustrating to feel like I take more time to contribute when I technically could physically say my sentence (which, honestly, takes time too because I go around in circles and freeze and jumble words unless the sentence is a simple 'thank you' or a yes/no, or three words), but it has helped immensely to surround myself with people who are willing to take that time with me.

Yo, we do that! On discord we have our own plural kit profiles, as well as a "multiple people said this" profile and a "no clue who said this" profile. We used to try to figure out who said what all the time, but it's so much easier and less stressful to not do so.

we've made a discovery about ourselves recently and I just wanted to make a public post about it in case a fellow p-did system could find it useful. or even other systems!

tl;dr is in bold, but context of the whole post is also necessary

The thing with being a Partial DID system, is that there is, most likely, only one frontier and others are only able to take control of the body while the host is still fully conscious. at least that's the case for us. And training ourselves to be like other systems with distinct switching is a Long and Frustrating effort

we think a lot about the "influence on host" part of it all, and I think we came up with an alternative that works for us. 100% we're not the first and won't be the last to come up with this, but of anyone finds this Helpful it's worth talking about it

the long and short of it is: if you as a system struggle with letting others front, but find yourselves doing/saying some things in unison with no clear distinction of who takes "credit" for the action, this might be a good alternative to being fully in front.

we call this blending, speaking in unison, or speaking in legion! what happens to us is that, me and someone who fronts mix together on a conscious level (while still being two distinct alters, we're not blurring or fusing exactly). and just allow ourselves to do something at the exact same time without figuring out Who exactly thought of this first

it's kind of a very uneven mix. we can tell when someone's speaking separately too, so this Somehow doesn't make us doubt ourselves (so far). additionally it puts the weight off others shoulders when it comes to joining external conversations all on their own.

we think this might be a Very Good way of allowing others to take control and have a say in our collective life, and it might help other systems too