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mspec lesbians, mspec gays, lesboys, turigirls, straightbians, straightcians and other mspec monos, as well as, afab transfems, amab transmasc and other "controversial" labels are valid as fuck!

y'all should understand that genderfluid, multigender, varioriented and intersex people exist and their experiences towards their sexuality/romantic orientation and their gender is unique and should be celebrated not hated.

if you don't understand any of these labels, educate yourself and please be kind to people. in the end of the day we are all human beings and we all deserve to be respected.

bye my dear humans :)

If your account isn’t a safe space for Mspec Lesbians, Lesboys, Mspec Gays, Turigirls, Straight Lesbians, Straight Gays, Cis Trans folks, AFAB TransFems, AMAB TransMascs, Mspec Straights, etc. then don’t call it a “LGBTQIA+ safe space”.

happy pride month to lesboys, turigirls, afab transfems, amab transmascs, bi lesbians, pan lesbians, omni lesbians, bi vincians, pan vincians, and omni vincians.

you’re all valid asf <33

So cringe how there's TERF shit on the AFAB trans woman/AFAB transfem tag/s. So, to cleanse the palette, this post aims to celebrate my fellow AFAB transfems who aren't just TERF-y trans men in denial.

Oh, and AMAB transmascs are cool asf too.

Perisex or intersex, your identity is valid; people have made 'intersex exclusive' terms for the same experience already, so don't let people discourage you from using AFAB transfem/AMAB transmasc labels if you're perisex. -an intersex person who also struggles with feelings of invalidity surrounding this topic

Gender is fucking weird; if there is an AFAB girl and they feel like a girl in a trans way, what the fuck are you gonna say to that person? 'Oh you're just cis lol' ? Fuck that. Of course though, that individual is perfectly allowed to use 'cis' as a descriptor if they so desire, that's the beauty of minding our own business when it comes to the identities of others.

You — and I cannot emphasize this enough — are VALID, and it doesn't even matter if others think you're valid, either. Your identity is not up for debate, identities don't have to be seen as 'valid' in order for someone to identify with them. I hope you can remember that when you have some fucker in your DMs or what have you crying about how your existence 'harms' the community (cuz they're wrong).

If you're against perisex people using labels like AFAB transfem and AMAB transmasc, please kindly shut the fuck up. If you're against perisex people using pronoun sets such as shi/hir please kindly shut the fuck up.

I, myself, am intersex. I do not *care* if Sally sees her womanhood through a trans lens while being perisex AFAB. I am an avid believer that enforcing the notion that such labels are 'exclusive' to intersex people is harmful. 'Oh but shi/hir has been used against us!!!' That is not the fault of Billy, who just vibes with the pronoun set.

The sooner we as a community can realize that these 'progressive' boxes aren't much better than the ones made by our oppressors, the better.

Don't worry the tags are fine. And thank you; I'm steadily pushing past the guilt but that may be a shaky process, especially with AMAB transfems saying such horrible shit about this kind of experience. I understand the vitriol, but that doesn't make it hurt less, ya know?

I've had moments where I relate so heavily to transfems, but have tried snuffing that part of me out because I'm "not allowed" to see myself in transfems as an AFAB transmasc. It brought doubts about my transmasc identity too, when faced with 'haha that's so me' or 'I wish' moments while looking at transfem content. Even now that I know about AFAB transfems, I still have issues with accepting that I am in some way transfem; I feel like I'm appropriating the trans woman and transfem labels, so I rarely talk about my experiences with such things on my blog. However, it's getting harder every day to lie to myself; I've picked up a habit of seeing my chest as the beginning results of estrogen whenever I feel dysphoric about having a not perfectly flat chest post top surgery (yes, I know that chests aren't supposed to be perfectly flat, and since I'm a bigger being it looks more realistic to have some fat there), and it... helps. As batshit insane as it sounds coming from somebody who would rather not go on E (again), it helps. Gender is weird and all that.

gender is weird and if tou like to see yourself like that then you should keep doing that, i know the feeling of guilt over something like this, its hard to get over but its possible :D

i’m posting this to address the discourse i’ve been seeing about the terms “afab transfem” and “amab transmasc”. none of this is intended as an attack, it is merely explaining how i view these terms and why i am uncomfortable with them.

from my usage and the usage i’ve usually seen, transfem and transmasc are basically terms to replace agab. they’re more broad and inclusive than trans woman and trans man, as they are used to include trans and nonbinary people who don’t describe themselves with the concept of woman or man. i personally define myself as a woman, but not all transfems do. the terms are obviously not perfect, as they sorta imply a fem or masc presentation, however broad those categories may be. but that’s not how they’re used. the terms have been well established for a while now.

i call myself both a trans woman and a transfem. i do not connect with the label amab at all. for me and most other transfems i know, being amab is something that happened to me at a singular point in time. i am not assigned male at birth, i WAS assigned male at birth. “amab” does not describe me or my experiences. the only thing i have in common with any cis man is the gender marker i received at birth, in the past tense. obviously, my experiences are not identical to cis women, but they are certainly not comparable to cis men at all. referring to me as amab obfuscates my experiences and flattens them to that of a man, which i am not. it frames me through the lens of having been identical to cis men prior to transitioning, which is objectively false and incredibly insulting.

transfem is therefore ideal for me, as it necessarily implys that i WAS amab by objective fact, but not boxing me in such a way as to relate me to cis men. transfem and transmasc are a way of acknowledging agab without centering it.

i don’t want to shame people for describing themselves through their agab, but it’s just counterproductive to me. again, every person is assigned a gender at birth, but it shouldn’t define a person. transfem essentially means an “amab” trans person. i understand that gender assignments at birth are complicated for those who are intersex, but plenty of perisex self-proclaimed afab transfems exist.

considering how often discussions of transmisogyny are derailed by arguments of who is or isn’t affected by it, i can’t see afab transfem or amab transmasc as anything other than further muddying the waters and decenter actual transfems.

i know this was long and rambly, i just wanted to get my thoughts out there.