Hi, Thanks For Wanting To Learn! Honestly, As A Man Adjacent Person Who Lives As A Man, My Interest In

Hi, thanks for wanting to learn! Honestly, as a man adjacent person who lives as a man, my interest in women has never stopped feeling queer despite my relationship with manhood, and my connection with the lesbian label has not ever really gone away even as I started figuring out the specifics of my sexuality such as my place on the aroace and multi spectrums. I experience the split attraction model too, so I consider myself an aroace m-spec lesboy as well as aroace m-spec gay. Have you ever heard of 'everyone who is into me is gay'? It's like that but more 'it feels gay no matter who I'm talking about'.

I really want some m-spec gays & lesbians and turigirls and lesboys to talk to me about why they use those labels. (if you're comfortable)

I'm freshly out of a friendgroup that was anti "contradictory" labels and am trying to break that thought process.

Also because I may or may not be having a sexuality crisis but that's besides the point

one of the most pathetic things you can do is make a cringe compilation. you're really seeing happy individuals existing and celebrating themselves, and your first instinct is that it's 'cringe'? that's truly one of the saddest things I've ever heard. I hope those hollow laughs are worth it.

"everyone of any identity can be trans and gender diverse and gnc and genderfluid and genderqueer and bigender and multigender and wo/men and boygirls and girlboys and enbies. except gays and lesbians. gays and lesbians can't be any of these things. men only. women only." do you HEAR yourselves.

why must gays and lesbians specifically be corralled into the tightest, most restrictive boxes logically possible? to keep them "pure"? i wonder where that logic comes from !

always such a power move to use a flag you 'shouldn't' use, whether that be because the creator thinks your experiences are 'invalid', a group of bigots appropriated it, or people think it's cool to mock users of it. I adore the sunset lesbian flag, I adore the labrys flag, and I adore the 'toothpaste' mlm flag. These flags are symbolic of the beautiful experiences of queer people, and how we deserve to be heard, seen, and accepted. NOBODY gets to take that away from us.

'haha I just have a hormone deficiency' shut UP. If someone asks you why your voice is so high or whatever the fuck you tell them it's none of their fucking business. you are beyond disconnected from reality if you think pretending to be intersex makes you safer, and this bullshit is so fucking intersexist to do to begin with. you just see us as something to protect yourself, not individuals, not people, just an argument against transphobes when called for and a disguise for YOURSELF. Jesus Christ I can't believe I didn't see this shit sooner. It's because, again, it's so normalized to turn intersex individuals into concepts and statistics that I didn't realize how people did it.

hey can intersex people call out problematic shit perisex people say without someone opposing us like we just advocated for the murder of someone's grandma? A transmasc TikTok compilation on YouTube had a TikTok that advocated for perisex transmascs claiming to have a 'hormone deficiency' in order to pass, and I pointed out that pretending to be intersex to 'avoid' stigma is a super fucking shitty thing to do, and the creator was all like 'not only intersex people have hormone deficiencies uwu' like pal not only is that iffy in terms of factual correctness it's also just further erasure. I pointed out that entitled perisex transmascs shouldn't fucking go around telling people they have hypogonadism and this person's FIRST INSTINCT is to go 'well not just intersex people-' shut up please.

"cis men dni" are you ready to come out of your "no boys allowed" treehouse yet. its time for lunch.