It's Really Telling To Me When A Perisex Trans Person Grips Onto 'TME/TMA' For Dear Life. Just Say You

It's really telling to me when a perisex trans person grips onto 'TME/TMA' for dear life. Just say you don't care about intersex people in the least, and downright hate us at the most. Your thinly veiled attempts at being most oppressed in the oppression olympics aren't cute and harm those of us who are erased and/or harmed by this god awful millionth binary you fuckers created.

"everyone of any identity can be trans and gender diverse and gnc and genderfluid and genderqueer and bigender and multigender and wo/men and boygirls and girlboys and enbies. except gays and lesbians. gays and lesbians can't be any of these things. men only. women only." do you HEAR yourselves.

why must gays and lesbians specifically be corralled into the tightest, most restrictive boxes logically possible? to keep them "pure"? i wonder where that logic comes from !

me when the queer community invents another binary (it's progressive and inclusive this time guys I swear) instead of just fuckin, I don't know, ditching these wack ass binaries that do nothing but segregate us into groups of 'most oppressed' and 'less oppressed so you should shut up'

Really hate that the queer community's response to the creation of a gender trinary (girl, boy, and nonbinary, which is still not all-encompassing) was to... reinvent the binary. We just started grouping all genders into "masc/male-aligned" and "fem/female-aligned" and it's so fucking stupid. Even with the occasional allowance of "neutral/unaligned" it still maintains the binary as the standard. And then they don't let you use certain labels if you don't have the "right" gender alignment. The fuck.

always such a power move to use a flag you 'shouldn't' use, whether that be because the creator thinks your experiences are 'invalid', a group of bigots appropriated it, or people think it's cool to mock users of it. I adore the sunset lesbian flag, I adore the labrys flag, and I adore the 'toothpaste' mlm flag. These flags are symbolic of the beautiful experiences of queer people, and how we deserve to be heard, seen, and accepted. NOBODY gets to take that away from us.

Hi, thanks for wanting to learn! Honestly, as a man adjacent person who lives as a man, my interest in women has never stopped feeling queer despite my relationship with manhood, and my connection with the lesbian label has not ever really gone away even as I started figuring out the specifics of my sexuality such as my place on the aroace and multi spectrums. I experience the split attraction model too, so I consider myself an aroace m-spec lesboy as well as aroace m-spec gay. Have you ever heard of 'everyone who is into me is gay'? It's like that but more 'it feels gay no matter who I'm talking about'.

I really want some m-spec gays & lesbians and turigirls and lesboys to talk to me about why they use those labels. (if you're comfortable)

I'm freshly out of a friendgroup that was anti "contradictory" labels and am trying to break that thought process.

Also because I may or may not be having a sexuality crisis but that's besides the point

stop calling people's triggers stupid. I don't care if someone is triggered by a fucking cloud with a smiley face, you do not get to determine whether or not to respect someone's triggers just because YOU find it silly. fuck off.