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Honestly wished I had this when I had my first relationship

Would've helped a lot

I mean now I can give it to my current partners though

Not culture, but

This is the system from the Dec 18 ask thanking you! We wanted to know if you or anyone with bpd who sees this may have any, like- tips for being a better fp? We try hard to word things properly (and i'm already almost 24/7 like fucking needing his attention even tho that's not always possible </3) but we wanted to know if there was anything we could do to try to help them and stuff, like with splits and things!

You're welcome!

Hmm based on our experiences, some general things that help even outside of splits are stuff like

Just sayin hi to them every day or every other day, i know sometimes we get so scared of other people we unintentionally isolate and don't reach out, so it's helpful when someone reaches out first

Communication is so important. I know sometimes when we're conversating with our FP, and they suddenly go offline without any explanation, we freak out. You obviously aren't obligated to explain as soon as you go offline, but when your back online as a reassurance yk?

Also good to encourage ur pwBPD to look into why they're feeling the way they do in the moment; is it because of fear? An insecurity? Something that happened? Something they perceived as happening? Usually splits dont happen for no reason and have a trigger

During splits, I think it's best to try and not antagonize them (even unintentionally). Reassurances can be grounding, as the split will pass but it feels like it'll be forever.

Also sometimes it helps when someone straight up tells us we're splitting, it's like having a bowl of cold water thrown at our face :*

Idk, those are just some things we wish others would do for us when we are splitting ^^!!

- 🌸+🪶

Not BPD culture but could you please share resources who can tell accurate traits of BPD and how it really feels like? I am currently doubting if I have autism or BPD, and it's very confusing. And if it is not too envasive, could you please tell me if you have a inferiority mindset and feel emotions of others when you are not supposed to? I'm very lost

If you mean an inferiority complex, i think we do experience that, I'd like to say it's a BPD thing? It is hard to navigate the differences.

I think that the difference between BPD and autism is that autism is usually affected by and affecting everything, while BPD is usually specific to interpersonal relationships (relationships with other people).

We've also seen this image a lot and I think it's pretty accurate?

We have both and they get so muddled together that its hard to seperare things.

Also, the feeling of others' emotions things sounds kinda like hyper empathy. Our empathy fluctuates a lot.

We aren't sure what resources to tag, I'm sorry if this wasn't helpful, our brain is total mush rn.

-🌸🌫

Whats fp mean😭

FP means favorite person

A favorite person, or FP, is someone that (typically those with Cluster B PDs) have a very strong and/or unhealthy attachment to.

A FP can heavily affect many aspects of yourself and your life, some examples being

Your emotional state mostly or entirely depending on them

Your emotional state mostly or entirely depending on whether they talk to you or not

Them and/or their interests becoming ingrained into most/every aspect of your life

Your identity being mostly/entirely dependent or based off of their's

Becoming extremely fixated on them or nearly completely ignoring everyone else (for us it feels like tunnel vision of sorts or an extreme hyperfixation on them)

An FP can be anybody. You can have multiple FPs!

FPs DO NOT HAVE TO BE A CRUSH, PARTNER, OR ANY OTHER ROMANTICALLY INVOLVED PERSON. HAVING AN FP IS NOT AN INHERENTLY ROMANTIC THING!!!

BPD culture is going through so many mood swings in a day to the point you can't remember if someone is your fp or ex-fp

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It's easy to apply the hurt that has been done to you to everyone who is similar to the aggressor.

When I was hurt by someone with red hair, I became distrustful of those with red hair. Did that make any sense? No. But my trauma made it logical, necessary for survival.

I see it happen often in syscourse that people apply the hurt that has been done to them to every single person shows any similarity to that original hurt. Anti-endos are all evil, pro-endos are all evil, all endogenic systems are horrible because XYZ happened to me, because I was abused by someone who used that label, etc etc etc etc...

It's very easy to use that logic, because your brain is trying to keep you safe. The issue with this being, your brain does not always understand what is safe and what is not, particularly if you've been traumatized. It is overly cautious and will often rely on harmful coping skills that, while they may work, will also hurt you in the long run.

I want to challenge everyone today to look at their biases and understand that people are more than just their labels. People are actions and thoughts and desires.

Move past these things and move on. You've got this!

Honestly

Couldn't have said it better

(Tw vent)

I HATE HAVING BPD. I FUCKING HATE IT.

I hate always being in Emotional Pain. It's like a fucking fly always buzzing in my head. ALWAYS. FUCKING. THERE.

I hate that it makes me question my 10+ year relationship with my husband. God I know i love him. But in moments like this when the pain is SO LOUD. I just wanna throw my ring at him and leave.

Leave everything and everyone.

I'm sui but I don't actually want to die I just want the pain to stop. I want an out. I need an out. From this unrelenting rollarcoaster of pain.

-💊🐱

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I wanna add that the last part there could go for ANY disability/disorder and not just systems

(kinda feel the need to say that given some of the people following us)

People who claim that making fun of introjects from a specific source isn't ableism are stupid as fuck. Ignoring that we can't control our source and that we don't get to choose any of this; are we just supposed to make ourselves comfortable with the fact that you so loudly hate us? Like. It's one thing to go "I don't like this source but I recognize that it doesn't define you" and a totally different thing to base your perception on a person around their source. You're taking the circumstances of their birth, things undecided by them, and defining them by it. We have dsmp, aot, Hetalia, and other less than great sources. We know this. We know their flaws. The only reason we don't have a "dni Hetalia/AoT anti" is because Levi and Feli names you can't really 110% say came from those sources unless we tell you. Wilbur and Tommy are iffy. But tubbo? Dream? Sapnap? Techno? Those are all so super clear where they came from. There's no quietly hiding that from antis. And out of all the fansom antis we've ever met, dsmp antis are some of The Worst. So yeah, we don't really want you interacting with us cause you're fucking gross. And it would be like that for any introject anywhere. AoT, Danganronpa(I have no idea if I spelled that right), Homestuck, Hetalia. If we don't want to hide who we are all the time to make you comfortable because you can't dislike things like a normal person, then yeah, we don't want to interact with you. Levi chooses to hide his source and Feli has been up here a total of 10 hours so we don't even know For Sure if he cares about hiding it.

If you're making fun of someone for a thing they can't control, defining them by it, and making your feelings about it their problem, surprise! You're being ableist!!

THIS POST IS ENDO SAFE

@theforestfairies

Making you witness this too

This video made me cry so I wanted to put it here

I KEEP FORGETTING TO DO THIS SOBS

we made a source chart for fictives/factives/introjects for fun!!! we might as well share it here too since maybe this could be helpful to other systems/collectives/plurals!!! :D!!!

and here's our version, yes yes!!! feel free to ask questions if you're curious about any of the placements or just want to ask questions!!! we'll tell you if said headmate doesnt want to answer!!! fun fun >:)!!!

-Gengar

^^^^

persecutor-protector culture is having to beg people to listen to you because you’re just trying to protect the collective but you don’t know how else to do it other than what turns out to be persecutory methods

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HOMOSEXUALS YOUR HONOR

Flowey and his partner @theforestfairies

RADQUEERS PLEASE

DNI 😭😭😭

You're not welcome round here /lyr

ONG DID NOT KNOW SOMEONE ELSE COINED THIS

I was trying to look for when we coined it but oh well

We'll still be using the flag by @/systuffs cause it's simpler and the colors are pretty :3

Airy says he likes the one above (mainly just the colors and the theatre symbol on it and also the fact he's bipolar)

figured I'd do a little messing around

Roleplaygenic/RPgenic

A term for a headmate who formed from roleplaying too much!!

If there's already a version of this term, consider this an alternative! I don't mean to steal at all ^_^

Low contrast version below cut

ID; two variations of a 7-striped flag. There is bright red, salmon pink, a small white stripe, a small orange-gold stripe, a small white stripe, a Cyan stripe and a royal blue stripe. The symbol is of two theatre masks. The one on the left has a happy expression, and is gold with a blue ribbon; the one on the right is blue with a gold ribbon. End ID.

ID; the same flag as before, but with lower-contrast colours and no symbol. End ID.

Thank you!!

The flag is so pretty!!

RPgenic

an origin term for those who's system was formed or influenced by roleplaying!

F2U, credit appreciated but not required! Coined & Requested by @mysticpridesys!

It's Faye

I KNOW MY BOYFRIEND

It's definitely Faye

Killian does not talk like that 😭

He also still has us blocked idiot (the idiot thing is a /j don't come after me 😰😰)

Faye pookie when you see this umm

Hi :3

Howdy, all. I wanna ask anonymously to see what yall think lol

Anyways, hi, have fun guessing who I am =P

HUH

WHO?????

The list of people this could be is ummmm 😰😰😰

IS THIS FAYE????

Faye is this you

You silly goober

@theforestfairies

IS THIS YOU????

I genuinely have no idea anymore

What the shit the body is having anxiety tremors and it usually happens when ummm

Ex friend moment 😰😰😰😰😰

If this isn't Faye istg I'm turning off anon asks

Guys

The Airy hfjone hyperfix

Keeps growing

HE'S SO SILLY

JZMXKAOAHSNAAJAAK

JUST NOW REMEMBERING TO DO THIS UMM HOLD ON

We might do exclusively non-OCtives bc we have a LOT of OC fictives

Might do one separately for OCtices

we made a source chart for fictives/factives/introjects for fun!!! we might as well share it here too since maybe this could be helpful to other systems/collectives/plurals!!! :D!!!

and here's our version, yes yes!!! feel free to ask questions if you're curious about any of the placements or just want to ask questions!!! we'll tell you if said headmate doesnt want to answer!!! fun fun >:)!!!

-Gengar

PLEASE

I NEED MORE WDY FRIENDS

DMS OPEN IDC

I need someone to ramble to

My brother thinks wdy is stupid and doesn't understand why I like it sm 😔😔😔😔

To all of the users who are either fixated on WDY, a fan, or both.

You're allowed to reblog this post. Just not the toxic fans. I am a person who's fixated on the fandom. So you can go ahead and reblog you want. Or you can scroll past it. I won't pressure you.

NEED TO DO THIS IF WE CAN REMEMBER

SOMEBODY SPAM OUR DMS REMINDING US

we made a source chart for fictives/factives/introjects for fun!!! we might as well share it here too since maybe this could be helpful to other systems/collectives/plurals!!! :D!!!

and here's our version, yes yes!!! feel free to ask questions if you're curious about any of the placements or just want to ask questions!!! we'll tell you if said headmate doesnt want to answer!!! fun fun >:)!!!

-Gengar

Will definitely be using these casually in a sentence when talking to our friends irl

"The trauma responses are fighting again 😔😔"

"The brain worms are being too loud and won't shut the fuck up" (/silly)

Things to call your headmates that arent BASIC

Trenchcoat rats

Trauma responses (dont mind me just talking to my trauma responses)

Brain worms

Chat

The entrapped souls of my enemies

Plural pookies

System sillies

Puzzle pieces

ADD MORE PLS!!!

YAYAYAYAYAY

My pookie

Ilyyyyy❤️❤️❤️❤️

And So It Begins

Hello every human, animal, or other creature. I am Faye, nice to hopefully meet you all. I am part of a system, we are called, The Lost and Found Collective, or the Static Energy System. I am 18, and I use, He/They/It pronouns. I am taken < 3 I love to read, write, do art stuffs, partake in archery, cosplay, etc..I am excited heh

WE COMPLETELY FORGOT JULY 20 WAS PLURAL PRIDE

UM UM UM WE'RE ONLY A COUPLE DAYS LATE

HAPPY PRIDE TO PLURALS‼️‼️

Happy plural pride day everybody!!!! We hope you are all having the most amazing of days!

I FORGOT

@treehouse-void

MOTHER

IT'S FRANK FRANKLY DAY‼️‼️

IMPORTANT

FRANK HOLIDAY ‼️‼️‼️‼️

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