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i love that post thats like “never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm” that shit changed my life. every time i feel bad i look at the clock and i’m like Aha It’s 10:26 PM You Cannot Fucking Fool Me

There’s a reason lots of good parents say to babies stuff like

“You’re excited to go to the park!”

“Oh, it makes you mad that we can’t go outside.”

And then when the babies get a little bit older the parents can say

“You seem upset. Are you sad?”

“Are you excited that gramma is coming over today?”

Which lets the kid (who is learning to utilize speech) respond with yes or no, which may prompt more questions, like

“So you aren’t sad, are you angry?”

“Yes, does it make you happy when gramma is here?”

And then, finally, when the child is learning to use language in a more complex way, the parents can say,

“How does it make you feel?”

“Why are you feeling like that?”

And it’s all about teaching emotional awareness. I really reccomend using the process on yourself. Learn to ask, “am I happy?” “Am I sad?” “Am I anxious?”

Then practice identifying, out loud or on paper if you can, “I’m happy.” “I’m upset.” “I’m sad.” “I’m anxious.”

Final step: “Why am I feeling anxious? I’m still thinking about that awkward conversation earlier.” “Why am I happy? It’s such a beautiful day outside.” “Why am I sad? None of my friends are responding to my messages.”

It really helps you notice patterns (“I’m more likely to be happy when I’m around this person.” “When I haven’t eaten, I often feel angry.” “If I don’t plan ahead, I get anxious.”) which is the first step in avoiding things and people that are bad for you and encouraging things and people that are good.

Self-love and mental health  boost because I need it and maybe you need it too 

Sleeping Tips (Nightmares Edition)

How to prevent Nightmares

Consisting a planned sleeping rountine may help. This means going to bed around the same resting period and time frame every night.

If you have nightmares which impact you negatively and not only disturb your sleep, you should reach out to talk about it with a family, friend or trusted individual.

Write or draw your nightmare.

It is suggested to use a night light. Not only will it give a calmer setting but it also is reassuring to wake up and not be met with darkness. It is proven that they bring comfort, lighting up a room to show there is nothing there. 

You may feel more secure with a comfort object, especially if you have an emotional attachment or liking for it, such as a specific blanket, pillow, plushie or etc.

Using lavendar essential oil is most commonly used for relaxation and sleep. Begin diffusing the lavendar oils an hour or so before turning in for the night.

Lofi music, instrumental music, calming tones, ASMR or relaxing noises in general are benificial

Don’t eat right before bed or have caffine

Colder enviornments are more likely to trigger a nightmare

Make sure not to view any scary or distrubing content, especially before bed if you have issues with nightmares

This final stradigey is optional because it has a different affect for everyone. You can leave your door open. It’ll remind you, you aren’t alone if you live with someone. However, some do have fears of leaving doors and closets open and in those cases, it is helpful to close them. 

Nightmare’s Disorder

If the conflict is far too extreme, reach out to a mental health professional. There is even a certain thing called “Nightmare’s disorder.” Nightmares are usually not looked into all too much due to the fact dreams aren’t real and it isn’t viewed as a actual conflict. However, your mental health and well-being is important and expiriencing as such should be recognized. 

Nightmare’s disorder can be triggered by many factors including stress, anxiety, a recent tramatic/disturbing event, problems at school/work, major changes in life, death or poor health (mentally or physically) of a loved one or commonly witnessing horrific content. 

Just some final words of advice

I hope this is helpful! The website I used to study from is below in MLA formating! Remember, “it is okay to not be okay.” A very good, kind, and amazing friend told me that once and I totally agree. 

You are loved and you are worth it. Keep pushing on!! There are so many out there who care about you deeply, even if it may not seem like it at the time. 

I don’t know where this specific quote came from and I do not take credit for it but “At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.”

It’s gonna be okay and you got this. I wish you luck with your nightmares if you have them and good luck on daily life in general. You are important. Have a great day/night.

MLA formated Citation:

        Olson, Eric J, and Daniel K. “Nightmare Disorder.” Mayo Clinic, Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, 6 July 2017, www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/nightmare-disorder/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20353520. 

Feel free to reblog with more tips or ideas and overall share! My next post will be about Insomnia.

Are you really anxious? pro tip:

how dehydrated are you ? if the answer is yes drink water! your pee should look pale yellow. If it is darker than that, then you need more water!!!!!! Dehydration increases blood pressure and can trigger panic attacks! stay hydrated!

mental health tips i wish i’d been given before starting university

trying is much more important than succeeding

10 minutes of studying > not studying at all

being a college student is more than academics. it’s also learning how to enjoy your own company, learning and occasionally screwing up meals, wandering outside campus like a tourist, questioning your ideals and presuppositions, discovering new talents and skills for the hell of it, and SO much more. if you feel burnt out in one dimension of college life, that’s a sign to spend some time relishing in another dimension.

if you need more time, take a deep breath and shoot that email to your professor/TA asking for an extension. at worst, they say no. and don’t stress over properly explaining yourself/your situation. hell, just email them: “Hi, Professor. I need your help. Sincerely, y/n.” all it takes is that one initial reach out and the rest will follow.

failure does not reflect character. read that again. remind yourself as often as you see fit because at one point or another, you will feel like you’ve failed. it’s growing pains. once you’ve accepted that, learn to view any setbacks as a hint that you need to try a new method/approach. didn’t do well on that math quiz? don’t beat yourself up over it–instead, regroup with yourself and see which metaphorical gear got stuck in your personal learning process machine. for instance, maybe you used flash cards and that wasn’t really your style. act like a detective, not a bully.

THERE IS NO NORMAL TIMELINE FOR YOUR COLLEGE CAREER(!!!!!!). a lot of people need more than 4 years, a lot of people need 4 years, and a lot of people need less than 4 years. and every single one of those timelines are valid. the worst thing you could do is squeeze the living hell out of yourself into some rigid schedule that is incompatible with who you are and how you learn. trust me when i say u will find yourself doing the best work when u do it at YOUR pace.

how to preserve your mental health at school

School is probably one of the most mentally taxing things a teen can go through. It certainly is mine. With the pressure to be the best, to get ahead, and to generally succeed, it's hard to not be affected. The mental strain is unavoidable, and I struggled with it for most of my school years, but over time that has led me to find tips that could help anyone going through this cope.

There are a few signs that can tell you whether or not you are being severely affected. You might be unmotivated and apathetic throughout the school day, and just because of school itself. You might feel like crying in school during the whole day and every day. Reasons can range from academic pressure to bullying and social ostracization to feeling inferior to your over achieving classmates.(If it's bullying, please tell someone who can help you) But here's some tips that might help based on what I learned from experience:

Find a piece of comfort (that you can come back to whenever you feel bad) .It can be a show, anime, song , movie, fanfic, manga , book, food, piece of clothing, or really just about anything (my recs are saiki k, ghibli songs and movies) . It’s best to have multiple just in case you get too used to 1 of them.

Get a support system: the way you can get this may differ based on your specific problem but here’s some ideas : make new friends offline or online (best app is slowly) and strengthen your existing relationships with friends and family.

Find a 3rd place which is not electronic: A third place is any public area away from homes and school/work ,where people meet and interact in an open environment. But the real challenge is not making your 3rd place your device .It's hard but here are some ideas for a 3rd place : libraries, arcades, gym, yoga place, sport club, skateparks, playgrounds, parks, coffee shops and cafes, bodegas. Make sure to choose a place where you feel comfortable. 

Get enough sleep: being tired will just make you feel so much worse. Never underestimate the power of a good night's sleep. Just to make it extra too, listen to some calming music, light candles and wear your fanciest sleepwear.

Put your mind on other things and focus on finding things that'll make you proud of yourself: You could get new hobbies, especially creative ones since those allow you to express yourself easily. Some examples are crocheting, embroidery, drawing, painting, sculpting, pottery, dancing, writing music, performance art and writing (stories, poetry, essays)

Take a leap of faith: create or design something based on your interests and skills and share it with the world. This can develop into being your own personal extracurricular activity. It might be scary but that's what makes it so rewarding in the end.

1) Video editing : post videos on your favorite subject and post on tiktok or youtube 2) Fashion and Photography : take pictures of yourself wearing cute clothes (or just your fav ones) and post them on your social media 3) Painting and Sustainability : paint an exhibit and display it in public 4) Volunteering and Social Media: make and run the official Instagram account of a local business 5) Gaming : make a game on roblox 6) Reading: start a book review blog These are just a few pretty ambitious ideas. You don’t have to follow these. Create your own project, it all depends on who you are. Take the best out of all of you (pieces of your soul) and create a masterpiece. If you don't have any interests (post on tips coming soon) just make something out of your skills . Make sure to only take on a project if you have time and resources.

Lastly, this is a tip I got from Quora. It’s to make a slow nights document. You can write this down on paper or open a doc and write down your comforts, favorite movie, favorite art pieces, places you’d like to go in the future, what you think your life will be in 10 years and so on. Just write things that will make you you.

School can make you feel drained, insecure and hurt for so many reasons. It may end up in you being numb and apathetic. In most cases, the problems you have can’t be solved by just forcing yourself to look at the bright side or forcing yourself to avoid or ignore them. They are real issues. And when asking for tips on the internet isn’t enough, I hope this post will help you. It probably didn’t solve all your problems, but I hope it showed you a way to go. Thank you for reading and Good Luck