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My Favorite Version Of Character
I have noticed a ✨theme✨in a lot of my characters so I will give you a step-by-step explanation of my thought process so you can steal it and i'll know I have helped a generation of tumblr users
Step 1: Grab A Mystical Creature
Bonus: They Are Associated With Purity
Think angels. Maybe even aliens? Just something on the supernatural side of things.
Step 2: Make Them Horny :)
Grab that angel character you just made and make them interested in sex or "sexy things". Grab that alien you just made and have be an alien who studies human reproduction with a focus on the actual "sexy" aspect because it's something unfamiliar to aliens.
Either way, they have a focus. A Drive
Final Step: Don't Judge Them For This, They Have Other Issues
One of my angel characters, Gabriel, is basically Nagito-levels of submissive. Complete sexual undercurrent throughout so many of their actions.
And this is never seen as bad. Heck, Gabriel is literally named Gabriel as a reward for being God's Favorite Angel due to his religious devotion and belief in God's message. Since that's all God cares about!
Gabriel has flaws that make life a little awkward but this isn't one of them.
Lesson: Sex Isn't Evil
A character being sex-positive shouldn't be shown as a bad thing. No one should be judged for their sex habits if they are using protection and regularly checking their STD status.
Sex doesn't corrupt. An active sex life isn't incapitable with morality.
If your character genuinely adores sex and this isn't a trauma response or a bad coping mechanism then they should be able to do that. #sex positive
My attraction to the opposite gender, to the feminine energy is ingrained in my manhood, why on earth would i consider it a taboo, let alone be ashamed of it or even conceal it!
Random Xpressions
Attraction types, explained by me
As an oriented aroace, I feel that many attraction types are often overlooked. Nonsexual attraction types aren't well understood, and nonrose attraction types are understood even less. So, here's my take on each attraction type that I know of off the top of my head!
I hope that my explanations will help others to understand attraction better, and potentially understand their own attraction (or lack thereof) better as well.
Keep in mind that all attraction types have varying definitions. Different people may perceive and describe them in different ways, and that's okay!
Everything is listed in alphabetical (A-Z) order.
Aesthetic attraction
The appreciation of the aesthetic qualities of specific persons, such as their appearance or voice. This appreciation is not necessarily tied to any desires, but can sometimes be described as the desire to observe someone.
An "aesthetic crush" is called a swish.
Alterous attraction
The active desire to have an emotional connection with specific persons, without necessarily being platonic and/or romantic. It is to "platonic and romantic" as nonbinary is to "man and woman." It may involve a blend of platonic and romantic attraction, a form of attraction that exists completely outside platonic/romantic, attraction which is vaguely adjacent to romantic/platonic, etc.
An "alterous crush" is called a mesh.
Note: Alterous attraction is one of the most notable forms of attraction I experience. Personally, I describe my alterous attraction as a general desire for emotional closeness with someone, regardless of the form that it takes. I would be happy being their friend, romantic partner, zucchini, waffle, appromour, etc, with no preference between the type of relationship. I'm just happy to have them in my life! This, of course, is not the only way to experience alterous attraction. This is just how it applies to me personally, so I'm using it as an example.
Amarous attraction
A general feeling of attraction. It is unspecified and does not differentiate between attraction types. This may be due to the person not perceiving any differences between attraction types, not favoring any particular form of relationship, or not feeling that any form of attraction is more important than others.
An "amarous crush" is called a tresh. An amarous relationship may be called an amariship. Amarous attraction is also known as amarity.
Amical attraction
The active desire to be best friends with specific persons, or have a "siblinghood" relationship. This attraction overlaps with platonic attraction, and may also overlap with queerplatonic attraction.
An "amical crush" is called a shush or thresh.
Domestic attraction
The active desire to perform domestic activities with specific persons. This may include living together, cooking, cleaning, raising children, or other domestic activities.
There is no term for a "domestic crush." Feel free to suggest one in the notes! I'm thinking "mosh," based on "domestic."
Exteramo attraction
The active desire for emotional closeness with specific persons, which is neither platonic nor romantic, and does not exist anywhere in between. It is not derived from platonic or romantic attraction, and instead exists completely separately.
An "exteramo crush" is called an orush.
Fluitic attraction
The active desire to form a wavership with specific persons. A wavership is a trelationship with a fluid nature. For example, the relationship may be romantic at one point, platonic at another, and queerplatonic at another.
Fluitic attraction can also describe attraction which is frequently shifting and fluid, potentially resulting in the person not being sure which type of attraction they're currently experiencing.
There is no term for a "fluitic crush." Feel free to suggest one in the notes! I'm thinking "flish," based on "fluitic" and "fish" (because they live in water).
A fluitic partner is called a wavermate or waffle. Other terms may also be used (especially to indicate the current nature of the relationship), such as friend, boyfriend/girlfriend/joyfriend/etc, datemate, partner, significant other, zucchini, etc.
Fluitic attraction is also known as waverian attraction.
Intellectual attraction
The active desire to intellectually bond with specific persons. This may involve exchanging knowledge and wisdom, sharing interests, or otherwise bonding intellectually.
An "intellectual crush" is called a mish. Intellectual attraction is also known as mental attraction or psychological attraction.
Nebulous attraction
Experienced by those who can't/don't differentiate between nonsexual or nonphysical attraction types. Sexual attraction is easily identified, and other forms of physical attraction may be easily identified as well. Nonsexual/nonphysical attraction, on the other hand, is all a part of "the blob": a nebulous category in which different forms of attraction are considered to be variations of the same broad experience, with no clear differences between them.
The blob may include romantic attraction, platonic attraction, queerplatonic attraction, alterous attraction, exteramo attraction, amical attraction, and any other nonsexual/nonphysical form of attraction.
A "nebulous crush" is called a blush or nebulush.
Platonic attraction
The active desire to have a platonic relationship or friendship with specific persons.
A "platonic crush" is called a squish.
Queerplatonic attraction
The active desire to have a queerplatonic relationship (QPR) with specific persons. A queerplatonic relationship is a relationship which blurs the lines between friendship and romance.
It is often described as a nonromantic relationship which is more intimate and committed than what is often expected in friendship. It is also sometimes described as platonic relationship with romantic elements or activities involved. Definitions vary.
A queerplatonic crush is called a squash or plush. A person in a queerplatonic relationship may be called a queerplatonic partner (QPP), zucchini, marshmallow, or mallowfriend. Traditionally platonic or romantic terms (such as friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, or partner) may also be used. Queerplatonic is also known as quirkyplatonic or quasiplatonic.
Romantic attraction
The active desire to have a romantic relationship with specific persons.
A romantic crush is simply called a crush. A person in a romantic relationship may be called a romantic partner, boyfriend/girlfriend/joyfriend/etc, datemate, significant other, partner, etc.
Sensual attraction
The active desire to touch specific persons in a nonsexual way. This may involve a desire to hug, kiss, cuddle, caress, hold hands with, or otherwise touch them in a way which does not involve sex.
A "sensual crush" is called a lush.
Sexual attraction
The active desire to have sex with specific persons.
A "sexual crush" is called a smush or lust. A person in a sexual relationship may be called a sexual partner, foveo, friend with benefits/FWB (if the sexual relationship is also platonic), or paramour (if the sexual relationship is also platonic).
Social attraction
The active desire to look up to specific persons, or to treat them as a role model or mentor. It may involve the desire to become more similar to them, a desire to learn from them, or a desire to be associated with them. This attraction often stems from the target of attraction's perceived talent, wisdom, or social status.
A "social crush" is called a rush. Social attraction is also known as interpersonal attraction.
Spiritual attraction
The active desire to spiritually bond with specific persons. This may involve performing spiritual practices together, engaging in spiritual discussions, growing together spiritually, understanding each other on a spiritual level, or otherwise bonding spiritually.
This may also involve forming relationships with someone on the basis of their spiritual practices, the idea that they are destined to be together, or the idea that they knew each other in a past life.
Spiritual attraction may entail deeply valuing a person's opinions, resilience, and personhood. One may also want to engage in exclusive activities with the person they are attracted to. Spiritual attraction may also overlap with social attraction.
A "spiritual crush" is called a spirit or soul (though, personally, I think "splish" would work better). A spiritual partner may be called a spirit guide, soulmate, or soul partner, among other terms.
Additional terms:
Amorous: A term which describes aromantic people who wish to form significant partnerships with others. Also known as partnering; not to be confused with amarous.
Apl: Short for "aplatonic,"similarly to how "aro/ace" is short for "aromantic/asexual". Pronounced "apple."
Appromour: A nonromantic partner or relationship.
Aromate: A platonic soulmate.
Loveless: A term for aromantic people who do not identify with the concept of love, feel disconnected from love, and/or do not experience love. The term "loveless" is also often used to degrade and dehumanize aromantic people. Loveless aros reclaim the concept of being loveless, taking pride in the term and affirming that love is not required to have worth.
Nonamorous: A term which describes people who do not wish to form significant partnerships with others. Also known as nonpartnering.
Peach fuzz: A term for when queerplatonic partners pretend to be romantic partners, especially due to social expectations.
Polyaffectionate: Polyamory which is nonsexual and/or nonromantic.
Soft romo: A somewhat romantic relationship. May be described as "between queerplatonic and romantic."
Venusplatonic: A term for aromantic people who do not want romance, but heavily value platonic love.
Date someone who is always busy working. I promise that if they’re making time for you, you’re somebody they want in their future.
Busy people are good people. Busy people aren’t wasting time. They’re building for a future. That’s the kind of foundation should attract you.
hmm. no wonder I kept forgetting (aroace)
how do I just forget that I'm attracted to all the genders so often like brain we talked about this, stop ignoring that you do, in fact, experience attraction
"ok that's kinda hot" that is a DRAWING of a SHIRT you just like the two-dimensional portrayal of wrinkles in fabric. you JUST LIKE ART OF CLOTHES
had a realization about myself
Today was the day I realized that the hot girl from target isn't around much anymore. I'm not sure if I care? I'm still looking but I'm not very good at this lol. I think I want someone completely but I suck at trying to talk to other ladies. Say it ain't so.
Love at first sight doesn’t exist, that’s just attraction that allos lie about to make it seem more ✨special✨
Aro culture is not believing in love at first sight and then being hit with reality that some people actually do fall in love at first sight
I am truly out of this world
More Attraction Affirmations
I am irresistible
I am gorgeous
I am highly valuable
I am always attracting attention
I am tempting to be around
I am oozing with sex appeal
Siren Affirmations to become magnetic & attractive
Be sensual and attractive with confidence.
Allow yourself to be sexy and shine.
Siren Goddess Affirmations
I am the dream girl in every room I walk in
I love myself so much, others love me too
I am worthy of the best
I embrace my high standards
I attract others who also agree that I deserve the best
More Siren Goddess Affirmations 𓂇
I am attracted to people that look good in green. I am verdisexual.
I am attracted to people that look good in green. I am verdisexual.
(via runningwithboltcutters) Bringing this back
If your energy is attractive — your presence becomes unnecessary
okay tmi or whatever but is it weird that i lack sexual attraction to men but am romantically attracted to them? i’m sexually and romantically attracted to women but i just can’t see my self having sex with a man…. penetrative sex just doesn’t appeal to me tbh
“when you are attracted to people, it's because of the details. their kindness. their eyes. the fact that they can get you to laugh when you need it most” - Jodi Picoult
I'm DYING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Although I feel women do actually come off more open minded in general
I’ve seen Horny Internet Fangirls fall physically in lust with everything from standard hunks to weird cartoons to robots to monsters and every body type from potbelly bear to skeletal beanpole and it never fails to amaze me, when by comparison, straight guys seem to have trouble with any woman who isn’t hourglass shaped