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Here’s an idea:
(Sorry friends, this is an angry one)
Maybe you should fuck off trying to tell survivors how they should feel about their abusers. Here’s a few reasons why:
1. You don’t know shit about us or our stories.
2. Your experience does not in any way dictate or predict the experiences of others.
3. Many survivors have been taught not to trust themselves. You are contributing to this problem with condescending advice that contradicts our instincts and mental health needs.
4. The way we feel can change throughout the grieving/healing/recovery process. It’s confusing enough on its own; we don’t need your uninformed opinion further muddying the waters. We need to work this out.
5. Some of us can only move forward through forgiveness and reconciliation. Some of us can only forge ahead fueled by our rage and hate. Some of us fall somewhere in the middle. These are all acceptable and reasonable.
6. Only we can decide what is best for us. You do not know what is best for us.
Another annoyed one:
Sorry.
Let me preface this by acknowledging the posts I’m angry at stem from a lack of support for survivors of abuse other than physical. This is a problem. However that does not give anyone license to throw someone else under the bus.
Don’t try to claim that any one type of abuse is worse than any other.
The only people who do so have absolutely no idea what they’re talking about. Take it from someone who’s experienced many of the exciting flavours of abuse this world has to offer - IT ALL FUCKING SUCKS EQUALLY. It sucks differently, but EQUALLY.
There’s no hierarchy of survivorship. And this scale you’re trying to create trivializes all of us.
So please hush. You are doing a world of harm.
Hush.
I can't stand listening to people try to have dialogue about abusive relationships and why people stay.
The pseudo psychological jargon and the fake-sympathy-but-actually-condesending-as-fuck-tone they use is maddening.
(yes someone has said that "writing is easy" or "writing isn't that hard" to me before -_-)
(yes someone has said that "writing is easy" or "writing isn't that hard" to me before -_-)