Big-sis - Your Aggressively Wholesome Older Sister

Therapy is great because it doesn't necessarily cure your depression or anything but it does give you the tools to be able to step outside your head, recognize what's a symptom of mental illness, realize when something is off or unhealthy, etc.

Like just now I felt like pure shit. I walked into the kitchen because I skipped breakfast and thought "I wanna go lie on the bed everything sucks" and I was able to say "Nope. I know being hungry makes everything worse, so we're eating yogurt right now." and sure enough, bam. Just a few bites in and mood increase by 30%.

thinking about how fiona's bit in the first shrek movie about how ogres are so ugly and unlovable, which is overheard by shrek, is the perfect example of how self-deprecation can really harm not only the people around you who love and care for you, but also people who share the same characteristics that you are mocking in yourself

this pride month I am wishing everyone a very stop overanalyzing yourself and just have fun with it. have gay sex. don't have any sex. try on a new gender. stop caring about gender at all. talk to your doctor about hormones. go on a date. break up with the person you dont love. whatever it is you have been putting off doing by dithering about it in your head. just do that and fully experience how it feels without trying to put it into words. if you still need a word for it later there will be one. they aren't going anywhere. but people were here before language and there's only so far language can go in giving you a fulfilling human experience. so if you are hiding behind finding the right words for whatever it is your heart wants i hope this month you get the courage to just do it instead.

No matter how progressive or well-read you are, there are always going to be moments in your life where somebody pushes back against something that's so culturally ingrained you never even considered it before. And you'll say "Huh, it never occurred to me to challenge this but you're right" and that doesn't mean you were "morally toxic" before, it means you're a non-omniscient human capable of growth.