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uh hi so!
i wrote this webpage that walks u thru looking after yourself when you know a thought is making you spiral. deployed it publicly bc i wanted it on mobile and i thought other people might like it too
check it oot
In terms of like, Please For The Love Of God Get Hobbies That Aren’t Scrolling Through An App For Six Hours A Day, I understand and experience completely the argument of like. with the stressors of modern work, you don’t have the energy at the end of the day to do anything but mindlessly watch Netflix and scroll through your phone. but like I would like to gently encourage you to simply force yourself for a time to do something instead of pick up your phone, bc the phone is literally designed to light up your brain with no effort from you whatsoever and it does in fact rot your brain. It makes literally anything but scrolling on your phone seem difficult and joyless. But if you stop scrolling on your phone all the time, and start like, reading or embroidering or gardening or going for walks, you will eventually find the joy in them once more
I understand and it is true that it is hard to have a life outside work and scrolling but there is not a near future where that won’t be the case and you should still live a life. And you won’t create a future where that isn’t the case if you don’t have the confidence and experience and drive to fight for it
Witchy mental self care
If you're even just a bit familiar with modern Witchcraft, you probably know about the self care culture in the practice.
From magical baths to anti anxiety spells, we have all kinds of tips and tricks disguised as magick to help us through the day.
Here's some small witchy tips I know/came up with:
》 on the days you can muster up some energy, try getting out of the house for a little magickal adventure: collect leaves, pinecones, berries and mushrooms; do a little sunbathing; take pictures of nature; do some cloud divination. Just think of everything you do as magick: you're not just walking, you're connecting with nature!
》 if you have trouble sleeping, boil some bananas, pour the water into a cup, add cinnamon or vanilla and drink it. It should help a little.
》 if you have a stress migraine, lay down and place a crystal on your forehead. The slight pressure can help with the pain.
》 before going to sleep, take some time to light and incense and walk around the room to make sure the smoke gets in every corner. Choose an incense scent just for this: after a while, your brain will make the connection between the scent and sleeping, helping you fall asleep. This also goes for essential oils or scented candles. Make sure to put out the candles before going to bed.
》 spreading incense smoke is also a way to get a little more relaxed before bed
》 talk to yourself. OUT LOUD. It may seem silly but this helped me a lot personally. You can do this in various ways:
> simply think out loud. Problems that seemed huge feel a little easier to deal with then.
> if you have a very multifaceted personality like me, you can reply to yourself. It's kinda funny to go from "emo thoughts" to "mom friend", which uplifts my mood a little.
> create a character to talk to. Make sure they're the caring and kind type though.
> talk to your deities if you believe in any.
》 keep a little journal on a cheap notebook. Scribble down how you feel, or doodle it. The less perfect it is, the more emotion it shows, so don't worry about it. Visualize all your frustration, your sadness, your anxiety going into that page. Now seal it: write a sigil on top of it, smear it with black ink, drip candle wax on it. Whichever works best for you.
》 make a little self care box and keep it next to your bed. You can put a journal in it, nice smelling things, anti stress objects, photos, letters of appreciation written by your friends, a plushie... anything
》 open a window and let the air clean itself. Look outside and let the wind blow on your face. Then, wash it. Light a candle and feel the warmth on your cheeks. Apply some earthy oils on your skin. You've just cleansed your face with the four elements!
》 meditate with a mantra. "I will be okay", "I'm not my mental illness", "It's just my disorder talking", "Being alive is enough", "I can learn to love myself" are some suggestions. Repeat it our loud or in your head while you take deep breaths. Doing 5 minutes of it is okay.
》 Crystals, dice, leaves, anything solid and smooth can become an anti stress ball.
》 read my post about ring magick ;)
》 keep yourself occupied. Read up on magickal stuff, or just an interest of yours. Givee that series you are interested in a try, even if it feels exhausting.
》 split your tasks into small steps and only think about those. Do as many as you can: you've done great. The rest can wait. You can write them down, fold the sheet of paper and put it in a jar along with some herbs, crystals and trinkets that make you feel happy. A jar of little accomplishments you can read when you feel really bad.
》 if you feel the urge to self harm, put some ice on your arm or wrap a rubberband around it, pull it and snap it against your arm. It will hurt, but at least it won't leave nasty scars. You can enchant the ice or band with the intent "help me overcome this". You can also write on yourself, with the least toxic pen you have, why you want to hurt yourself. Let the emotions out like that.
(If you couldn't stop the urge to self harm, remember to take care of the cuts. Disinfect them, wash them and put gauze around them. If you don't have the necessary items, you can place a tissue on the wounds and keep it in place with your hand or something else. As long as it doesn't cut off the circulation or hurt your skin.)
This is all I could think of. Thank you for reading and stay safe :).
If you need anything, reach out to me whenever.
push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.
push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.
get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.
stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.
buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.
strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.
organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.
have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.
message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.
think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.
become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.
drink tea you’ve never tried, reread your favorite book, get up to watch the sunrise, write a letter, listen to the birds, knit a bad sweater, bake an ugly cake, sing at the top of your lungs, jump crazily to some music. feel, really feel life without any restrictions, no matter the size.
How is everyone doing? Lately, I find myself getting lost in the demands of meeting career and life obligations, while also trying to pretend that everything is “business as usual” in the middle of a pandemic. We may not notice right away, but if we are not careful to respond to our body’s signals, everyday stress can easily turn into chronic stress. Little problems become big problems. Worry turns into anxiety. With so much chaos around us, it is even more important that we all take time to recognize when we need to take a step back and breath. To use a familiar flight analogy, we have to put on our own oxygen mask before assisting others. Helping yourself first is not selfish. It’s making sure that you are well and taken care of so that you can continue to do what you do. This week, I would like to encourage anyone reading this to take a break. Take some time for you. Check in with yourself. What do you need at this time to feel fully supported and safe?
This hits me hard becuase I was once so close to wanting the end. And it hurts knowing that someone else lost there battle here. Stay strong everyone. It may feel like the world has ended but I promise it's only just beginning. There is so much for you to see and do, so many people who many love you that will miss you. And I will be here rutting for you thought out everything. I will be here if you need just a stranger's smile. I'll be here if you need someone to watch you thought the pain and try and help you regain yourself. I know not everyone has someone they can go to so let me be that person for the many who were mine.
I'm here for you if you need someone to be. Please each look after your selfs and stay safe.
Share. Please. In honor or this nameless hero whom because of this letter he or she sent me, could save a life tonight.
again, my box is always open.
Hey guys this is ever heavy note not involving any games but family.
My brother suffers from serve depression and suicide thought and I know many others do too and I think this might help anyone who would like to know.
He used to do alot of self harm back a year of 2 ago and I've been trying to help him thought it. It started off really bad to the point I had to move half way across the country so we didn't keep conflicting due I also suffer from serve Anxiety and depression.
When I finally did come back home my little brother and I made a deal of a sort. When ever he thought he was going to hurt himself he would bring me all of his knives and weapons.
And I am to hide them away until I believe he is good to have them back.
And he does the same for me when I feel my lowest low I go and get pericings as my way to cope. He comes with me to make sure I'm alright. So I'm very thankful for him and I'm glad he trust me enough to had over something which he used as an escape from the world
You never know who might do this, I've been in the spot before and my mental health has always been a rollercoaster, I care more for others then I do myself as a way to try and help those thought there bad times it's my way of giving myself purpose so if you ever need someone to talk to. Someone to just be there I will.
If rather be the hand on your shoulder, then the one bearing Flowers
About a week ago I posted this.
I’ve been getting horrible messages like this in my ask for months, including:
and my personal favorite
After getting the message saying “Just go kill yourself” I was completely done dealing with this person’s horrible messages and replied with just an “Okay.” and logged off tumblr.
About a week later I logged back on with 17 messages in my ask, most of them from the anon. I scrolled down and at first when I logged off, the anon messaged me things like
I scrolled up more and all of a sudden they started sending me more and more messages like
This was extremely surprising to me. I thought “After all those horrible messages you sent to me for MONTHS about hating me and wanting me dead, you say ‘sorry’ and that you ‘cant be responsible for someone’s suicide’?”
But I guess the lesson goes like this:
DONT TELL ANYONE TO KILL THEMSELVES UNLESS YOU ARE PREPARED FOR WHAT MIGHT ACTUALLY HAPPEN
i’m just saying all my problems could be solved if i was financially stable
✨ it gets better, friends. ask for help. find the right mental health professional for you.✨
I wish I could express how sad and depressing it is to overthink about everything I want to eat.. I keep thinking I’m going to die if I eat chocolate or butter popcorn.. I keep asking my mom what I should eat and sometimes she has to eat something so I can have the courage to do the same.
It’s stressing.
Idk how to use tumblr so I’m sorry about any formatting issues lol. I’m looking for an anonymous sender from kokobot. I was responding to a sender looking for advice but took too long because I was basically writing an essay, but I feel really bad about not getting to send it to that person. So I’m going to post it here in the off-chance they somehow see it.
The original message:
"I’m having a lot of intrusive thoughts and fears about being a bad person. I have POCD and it’s super not fun. Kinda doubt a bit will help but it’s worth a shot I guess.
What if I’m wrong about my beliefs and am really a bad person who deserves to feel bad?"
My response:
Let me start off by saying that I’m sorry that your dealing with that, mental illness is no easy challenge to cope with. I once read somewhere that if you’re worried about being a bad person then you definitely aren’t one because villains don’t care about being good. In my personal experience, I’ve found that to be true. As long as you continue to question your choices and behaviors to determine whether or not they fit your moral standard, that simple practice of accountability will make you improve as a person.
I know it may not do much for you, because ultimately only you can convince yourself of this, but you are deserving of good things. You deserve to be loved, supported, happy, and healthy. If you cannot find those things in the people you surround yourself with then, at the very least, you have to be able to give that to yourself- it’s what you deserve. Dealing with intrusive thoughts from POCD probably makes it difficult for you to feel that way about yourself, but there is something I need you to understand: YOU are NOT your illness & YOU are NOT those thoughts.
It is always easier said than done, as are most things when it comes to mental illness, but you HAVE TO separate your illness from your self-identity. Those intrusive thoughts you experience are not your own conscious thoughts, urges, and impulses, they are a result of your disorder. I know you are aware of that but there is a difference between acknowledging something and accepting it. You have to accept that these symptoms are something you have to learn to cope with, without disregarding the fact that you are not responsible for producing them. I say this because if you can do that, then you will no longer anxiously question whether or not you are deserving of experiencing such things. It has nothing to do with being deserving, and everything to do with the simple fact that you have a disorder with unfortunate symptoms.
The only thing you are responsible for is what you do with those thoughts and how you treat yourself when they arise. That’s the part you CAN control, so that is where you have to focus. This is where my anecdote from earlier comes in. You’re already on the right path, love. As long as you hold your actions up to your OWN standard of morality to determine what is okay and what is not, you are practicing accountability and taking the appropriate steps to improve and grow as a person- in spite of your POCD.
As much as it sucks and is unfair to say, your disorder is something that will likely always be there. Because of this, you have to learn to work with it NOT against it. You have to show yourself kindness and be gentle with yourself when you start experiencing symptoms instead of growing angry or feeling resentment. You have to trust yourself enough to know that you would not act on those urges and put practices in place to deconstruct them when they do arise. You have to become a safe space for yourself because you are the only one who will be with you at all times of the day everywhere you go.
You deserve peace and contentment, but that starts with you. If you want to know whether you trust yourself (or anyone, for that matter) or not, ask yourself these three questions: Can I handle myself as a person? Do I feel I am a person of good character? Am I a safe place for me to fail? If you answer no to any of the three, then you do not trust yourself. That’s a place for you to start because your doubt in your beliefs seems like it comes from the fact that YOU chose them, and that hinges entirely on your trust in decision making and overall.
I also want you to try to be nicer to yourself. And I don’t mean standing in front of a mirror everyday and calling yourself beautiful or whatever other positive affirmation you might have read on Pinterest, I mean telling yourself to stop (or even to shut up) when you begin consciously berating/scolding yourself for something you did, thought, etc. Even if it is something that you consider to be wrong, you don’t deserve to be talked to in that way. You don’t, and you need to make sure you are aware of that. You don’t run before you walk so you don’t have to jump full force into praising yourself like a god, but at least make an effort to be less mean to yourself for starters. You deserve kindness, and you will get there.
Please be gentle and patient with yourself. I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Don’t lose hope in yourself. I know you will come to know your worth and all that you deserve- which is the entire universe at your feet💗
Idk how to use tumblr so I’m sorry about any formatting issues lol. I’m looking for an anonymous sender from kokobot. I was responding to a sender looking for advice but took too long because I was basically writing an essay, but I feel really bad about not getting to send it to that person. So I’m going to post it here in the off-chance they somehow see it.
The original message:
"I’m having a lot of intrusive thoughts and fears about being a bad person. I have POCD and it’s super not fun. Kinda doubt a bit will help but it’s worth a shot I guess.
What if I’m wrong about my beliefs and am really a bad person who deserves to feel bad?"
My response:
Let me start off by saying that I’m sorry that your dealing with that, mental illness is no easy challenge to cope with. I once read somewhere that if you’re worried about being a bad person then you definitely aren’t one because villains don’t care about being good. In my personal experience, I’ve found that to be true. As long as you continue to question your choices and behaviors to determine whether or not they fit your moral standard, that simple practice of accountability will make you improve as a person.
I know it may not do much for you, because ultimately only you can convince yourself of this, but you are deserving of good things. You deserve to be loved, supported, happy, and healthy. If you cannot find those things in the people you surround yourself with then, at the very least, you have to be able to give that to yourself- it’s what you deserve. Dealing with intrusive thoughts from POCD probably makes it difficult for you to feel that way about yourself, but there is something I need you to understand: YOU are NOT your illness & YOU are NOT those thoughts.
It is always easier said than done, as are most things when it comes to mental illness, but you HAVE TO separate your illness from your self-identity. Those intrusive thoughts you experience are not your own conscious thoughts, urges, and impulses, they are a result of your disorder. I know you are aware of that but there is a difference between acknowledging something and accepting it. You have to accept that these symptoms are something you have to learn to cope with, without disregarding the fact that you are not responsible for producing them. I say this because if you can do that, then you will no longer anxiously question whether or not you are deserving of experiencing such things. It has nothing to do with being deserving, and everything to do with the simple fact that you have a disorder with unfortunate symptoms.
The only thing you are responsible for is what you do with those thoughts and how you treat yourself when they arise. That’s the part you CAN control, so that is where you have to focus. This is where my anecdote from earlier comes in. You’re already on the right path, love. As long as you hold your actions up to your OWN standard of morality to determine what is okay and what is not, you are practicing accountability and taking the appropriate steps to improve and grow as a person- in spite of your POCD.
As much as it sucks and is unfair to say, your disorder is something that will likely always be there. Because of this, you have to learn to work with it NOT against it. You have to show yourself kindness and be gentle with yourself when you start experiencing symptoms instead of growing angry or feeling resentment. You have to trust yourself enough to know that you would not act on those urges and put practices in place to deconstruct them when they do arise. You have to become a safe space for yourself because you are the only one who will be with you at all times of the day everywhere you go.
You deserve peace and contentment, but that starts with you. If you want to know whether you trust yourself (or anyone, for that matter) or not, ask yourself these three questions: Can I handle myself as a person? Do I feel I am a person of good character? Am I a safe place for me to fail? If you answer no to any of the three, then you do not trust yourself. That’s a place for you to start because your doubt in your beliefs seems like it comes from the fact that YOU chose them, and that hinges entirely on your trust in decision making and overall.
I also want you to try to be nicer to yourself. And I don’t mean standing in front of a mirror everyday and calling yourself beautiful or whatever other positive affirmation you might have read on Pinterest, I mean telling yourself to stop (or even to shut up) when you begin consciously berating/scolding yourself for something you did, thought, etc. Even if it is something that you consider to be wrong, you don’t deserve to be talked to in that way. You don’t, and you need to make sure you are aware of that. You don’t run before you walk so you don’t have to jump full force into praising yourself like a god, but at least make an effort to be less mean to yourself for starters. You deserve kindness, and you will get there.
Please be gentle and patient with yourself. I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Don’t lose hope in yourself. I know you will come to know your worth and all that you deserve- which is the entire universe at your feet💗
Some every day inspiration from our Karl Heisenberg fictive.
Random post: You conquered every bad day behind you.
Host: No, I slept through those days.
Karl: But you still conquered it.
Host: Sleep isn't a conquering.
Karl: But you lived. You kept going. That day is dead. Ended. Ceased to exist. You lived. You are still here. Therefore you conquered that day.
Maybe this'll help somebody else. Even sleeping can be a win as long as you're still there to fight.
Hey y'all, I don't know what's going on in my life anymore but if like to make this blog into a public account of my life and struggle against mental health. I plan on posting my feelings and and vent into the void and hope it says something back. I plan on placing the necessary trigger warnings at the top of all of my posts. I will occasionally post pictures of myself and what little art that I have been up to.
The purpose of this is to hopefully raise awareness of mental health and to effectively post a public diary and track my personal progress through this crazy, wild ride.
why do i always feel the need to explain/justify myself to myself?
like when i’m talking to myself and i say something that’s controversial, fsr i feel the need to explain it to the non-existent person in front of me so they don’t misunderstand my words…
is this normal, or am i just crazy?
never feel like you're not enough. people can like and appreciate other people too. that's fine.
i know it can be hard to see your own light in a world where all 7 billion of us shine, some seemingly brighter than others. but I trust you, and I trust myself too. you are not lesser. you do not deserve less. you are brilliant. kind. smart. beautiful. absolutely incredible. you have it allll in you, you really do. so don't be afraid! its okay to let it go, to let yourself shine in a sea of bright lights. you won't be outshone-- you'll be glowing in the aura of the others around you.
i believe in you with all my heart. go for it
