With Pride Month Right Around The Corner, My Mind Keeps Reminding Me Of Homophobia Ive Experienced Over

With Pride Month right around the corner, my mind keeps reminding me of homophobia I’ve experienced over the years. Here’s some that I experienced from one Christian guy I used to be friends with:

Got mad every time I called myself gay (his reasoning was only guys exclusively attracted to guys could call themselves gay)

Said bisexuality and pansexuality were the same

Wouldn’t let me call myself pan in his presence

Called me the wrong pronouns even after the MANY times I’ve told him the pronouns made me uncomfortable

Told me I was an idiot for believing intersex people exist and also don’t need “fixing”

Called me a lesbian even though I’m not one

Thought I was greedy for being pan

Told me I’d grow out of being trans

Said they/them pronouns made zero sense

Was 10x more homophobic toward me after learning I wasn’t a girl

Told me I’d never not be a girl and was delusional for thinking otherwise

Thought the fact that I occasionally am repulsed by romance made me immature

Argued with me about the existence of bigender and intersex people

Used the h-slur for intersex individuals

Claimed lgbt didn’t exist before 2000

Thought that me being trans meant I was lying to myself and everyone around me

Told me I claimed to be trans because I didn’t like who I was

Referred to me as an object and it/its pronouns after I told him she/her made me uncomfortable (Note: nothing wrong with people who use it/it’s pronouns, but they’re not my pronouns)

Called me childish for my occasional sex repulsion

Told me that me being lgbt “went against God”

Called me a slut for being pan and for being polyamorous

Here's your reminder that:

Acespec people can call themselves asexual

Arospec people can call themselves aromantic

Aroacespec people can call themselves aroace

The words asexual, aromantic, and aroace, do not belong solely to those on one end of the spectrum. Demi, cupio, grey, lith, quoi, and all other aspecs are just as welcome under these words.

I saw a post that claimed only those without any form of romantic or sexual attraction could call themselves "gay/bi/etc. aroace" and that those on the spectrums somewhere have to use something else. Frankly, it's beyond ridiculous and aphobic to say so. Those on the spectrums are just as allowed to use the words that have always been granted to them within the community.

Do not let anyone tell you that the community you're in doesn't belong to you, or that you're less welcome here.

We need representation

We need representation so kid's eyes aren’t covered by parents who sense danger in two men holding hands

We need representation so women can kiss and not feel ashamed or sexualized

We need representation so bi and pan and omni and anyone with a heart so big it can’t love just one gender isn’t told to choose

We need representation so the people with multiple partners aren’t condemned for cheating

We need representation so kids don’t run up to people asking if they're a boy or a girl when in reality they are neither

We need representation so trans kids don’t grow up feeling dysphoric without the words to express themselves

We need representation so aro and ace kids don’t grow up thinking something in them is broken

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