Reblog Stuff If You Want To Not Because Some Asshole On The Internet Is Threatening You To

Reblog stuff if you want to not because some asshole on the internet is threatening you to

First off, I didn’t call autistic people the problem. They aren’t. Just like people with NPD aren’t the problem.

Second of all, I know I have narcissistic tendencies. I have NPD. I’ve also been in therapy for four years so thank you for the astute observation that I need it. I’m also surrounded by non-narcissistic people that I talk to about things like this. My therapist being one of them.

Your statement about how you can have narcissistic traits and not narcissism is completely true. You can also have autistic traits and not be autistic.

Most mentally ill people have some degree of self centred tendencies. It’s critical to their survival. People with depression can get focused on their own misery and hurt people, people with bipolar disorder can act selfishly due to intense mood swings, people with autism can be unknowingly insensitive. It’s not an exclusive NPD experience.

I do view my narcissistic tendencies as impairing. Thank you so much for pointing out how a disorder is an obstacle to me. It very much is. It comes from years of trauma and abuse and it affects every aspect of my life negatively including my relationships, my sense of self and how I interact with the world.

I don’t think that someone’s parent having narcissistic traits is demonising me. Contrary to popular opinion, years of therapy and a deep interest in psychology can make even a narcissist self aware.

What is demonising is someone saying “my mother has narcissistic traits and therefore all people with any narcissistic traits and/or NPD are inherently awful people that I should purposefully trigger”. And I’m not making that comparison out of thin air. Anti-NPD is a tag and many websites specifically give you instructions on how to hurt narcissists and give mentally ill people crashes.

I try my best to take accountability. I fuck up. I hurt people. My narcissistic tendencies can cause harm to people when I don’t deal with them in a healthy way. Everyone fucks up. I just happen to do so more than others because of my “obstacles”.

So thank you for the lecture. And thank you for giving me the opportunity to clarify that saying “people have narcissistic traits” and saying “people with narcissistic traits are irredeemable monsters” are two very different things.

Love, your dear narcissist

“Oh but not all narcissists have NPD so I’m not really demonising you by calling every narcissist an irredeemable monster”

Fuck off. Just fuck off. That’s like saying not all autistic people have autism. It makes no sense and is completely redundant.

oh god what did i do

IT SUMMONS MAIL EVERYONE TRY IT

infuriated by the language in the "welcome" letter we got from the local FND Service in Devon (fnd = functional neurological disorder) which perpetuates a myth about FND

emotional/psychological stress is a risk factor for developing FND - which means you're at a higher risk of developing FND if you're experiencing or have experienced those states (for example if you're a childhood trauma survivor) - it is not a cause

FND is a condition with physical symptoms and a currently not understood cause, in which the brain and body can't talk to each other properly (leading to loss of function or sensation, and brain fog and memory issues, for example, and a type of non-epileptic seizure too)

it's diagnosed both by ruling out other stuff (like MS, which it can resemble) and also rule-in tests these days - depending on which country you're in and how much funding it gets to be explored

for some of the latest info on FND and brain differences etc please read this pdf from Nature Reviews

and once again this is not a psychogenic condition - it's a physical condition whose causes are not yet understood

How to handle a narcissist

A guide to dealing with these wild creatures in a safe and responsible manner

Feed them cupcakes and admiration to build trust. All creatures do better around those who provide them with sustenance. Do this from a distance at first as to not spook them.

Only carry a narcissist with permission, and do so bridal style. Do not scruff or attempt to pick a narcissist up by the limbs. This will injure your narcissist and cause them to feel threatened.

Wrap your narcissist in validation and a nice warm blanket so they feel safe from predators. This makes the narcissist docile. They are less likely to feel attacked this way.

Make your narcissist hot chocolate and let them tell you stories about themselves. This is the narcissist’s main source of enrichment, and they love it when others engage supportively in their play time.

Narcissists are creatures with low self-esteem. They are prone to anxiety and depression as a result. In order to build your narcissist’s self-esteem, make sure you compliment them daily. Each narcissist will have a unique set of insecurities and things they are proud of. Be sure to get to know your narcissist and what forms of comfort they prefer.

As I said before, narcissists are anxiety prone creatures. They have a tendency to overthink and be perfectionistic in nature. To combat this, give them a little forehead kiss and start discussing all the great things you love about them in detail. This will trigger an instinctual response that will cause them to gain more confidence in themselves.

Do not attempt to train a narcissist unless you are an experienced professional. Doing so could result in a worse behavioral and emotional outcome. Instead, be patient and gracious with your narcissist as they receive training from a qualified field member.

Where's my morning crew whose disability/ies kept them up all night?

I love you!