Infuriated By The Language In The "welcome" Letter We Got From The Local FND Service In Devon (fnd =

infuriated by the language in the "welcome" letter we got from the local FND Service in Devon (fnd = functional neurological disorder) which perpetuates a myth about FND

emotional/psychological stress is a risk factor for developing FND - which means you're at a higher risk of developing FND if you're experiencing or have experienced those states (for example if you're a childhood trauma survivor) - it is not a cause

FND is a condition with physical symptoms and a currently not understood cause, in which the brain and body can't talk to each other properly (leading to loss of function or sensation, and brain fog and memory issues, for example, and a type of non-epileptic seizure too)

it's diagnosed both by ruling out other stuff (like MS, which it can resemble) and also rule-in tests these days - depending on which country you're in and how much funding it gets to be explored

for some of the latest info on FND and brain differences etc please read this pdf from Nature Reviews

and once again this is not a psychogenic condition - it's a physical condition whose causes are not yet understood

First off, I didn’t call autistic people the problem. They aren’t. Just like people with NPD aren’t the problem.

Second of all, I know I have narcissistic tendencies. I have NPD. I’ve also been in therapy for four years so thank you for the astute observation that I need it. I’m also surrounded by non-narcissistic people that I talk to about things like this. My therapist being one of them.

Your statement about how you can have narcissistic traits and not narcissism is completely true. You can also have autistic traits and not be autistic.

Most mentally ill people have some degree of self centred tendencies. It’s critical to their survival. People with depression can get focused on their own misery and hurt people, people with bipolar disorder can act selfishly due to intense mood swings, people with autism can be unknowingly insensitive. It’s not an exclusive NPD experience.

I do view my narcissistic tendencies as impairing. Thank you so much for pointing out how a disorder is an obstacle to me. It very much is. It comes from years of trauma and abuse and it affects every aspect of my life negatively including my relationships, my sense of self and how I interact with the world.

I don’t think that someone’s parent having narcissistic traits is demonising me. Contrary to popular opinion, years of therapy and a deep interest in psychology can make even a narcissist self aware.

What is demonising is someone saying “my mother has narcissistic traits and therefore all people with any narcissistic traits and/or NPD are inherently awful people that I should purposefully trigger”. And I’m not making that comparison out of thin air. Anti-NPD is a tag and many websites specifically give you instructions on how to hurt narcissists and give mentally ill people crashes.

I try my best to take accountability. I fuck up. I hurt people. My narcissistic tendencies can cause harm to people when I don’t deal with them in a healthy way. Everyone fucks up. I just happen to do so more than others because of my “obstacles”.

So thank you for the lecture. And thank you for giving me the opportunity to clarify that saying “people have narcissistic traits” and saying “people with narcissistic traits are irredeemable monsters” are two very different things.

Love, your dear narcissist

“Oh but not all narcissists have NPD so I’m not really demonising you by calling every narcissist an irredeemable monster”

Fuck off. Just fuck off. That’s like saying not all autistic people have autism. It makes no sense and is completely redundant.

Physically disabled folks, tell me about your favorite disability aid(s)! Mobility aids, medication, strategies, apps, other disability aids, whatever helps you most/is your favorite.

Where's my morning crew whose disability/ies kept them up all night?

I love you!

I’m dissociating. My brain is mushy soup. My thoughts are staticky. My words keep getting lost. My fingers are moving like they would if they were numb from the cold. I’m not being rude. I’m dissociating.

A polyamorous thruple are taking a hike through the forest when they find a weird rock and lift it. From under the rock a pixie comes out.

"Thank you for freeing me. I am a pixie of love, and as thanks I'll give a gift of gold to each of you. But the gift will only go to the one you love most."

The first member of the thruple says "but I love both my partners equally."

"Then I cannot give you the gift." the pixie replies.

"I'm okay with that. My love is more important."

The second member also says "I also love both my partners equally"

"Then I cannot give you the gift either."

"I'm okay with that. My love is more important."

Finally the third member says "I love this one the most." much to shock of both partners.

"Then they shall receive my gift." the pixie says, grants the gift of gold and then vanishes.

After the pixie left, the first member says "I can't believe you don't love us equally!" and the second member concurs.

Then the third member sighs and then says "I love you both equally and very much so, but fucking hell are you stupid."