Can I Tell You Why I Don't Like The Anti Community Anymore? It's Okay If You Don't But I Just Need To

Can I tell you why I don't like the anti community anymore? It's okay if you don't but I just need to get it off my chest given I saw someone acting like a victim when their blog was deleted for targeted bullying lol.

But it shouldn't have taken me as long as it did to realize, but I've watched anti's for a while - especially a handful in the ficitonal other / self shipping community, who just absolutely vague and bully those who don't agree with them off this website and out of the comm. It's a community that's supposed to be safe and comfortable with the idea of shipping with fiction characters but 'oh no if you ship with that one you're problematic, you will be vagued about it and we will do everything possible to put you don't til you leave or we start targeted harassment til you're forced to leave'.

It's so wild to me that this space, any space, that preaches being as inclusive as possible and non-judgemental has a long, long list of rules of what can and can not be and if you over step that line, you will no longer be allowed within that space. Their anti space is super bad this kind of stuff. They sit on the idea of being 'morally better' while also being absolutely nasty, not communicating properly when something makes them uncomfortable ( ie making the choice to vague post instead ) and bullying everyone who disagrees with them.

I don't know. It just bothers me so much. You hate to see it but if I had to say 'this is what changed my perspective', that would be it. How can on think themselves the 'moral better' while making others feel like the lowest dirt and isolating them from the community they enjoyed?

Welcome, oh ye enlightened one.

(But on a more serious note, yeah. Most anti spaces are just a cesspit of people tearing apart the weakest link and scrambling to be the Pure One.)

If you are so anti drama why do you run a fandom discourse blog that, is going to have a lot of discourse, maybe you secretly love it, in the same way those “activists” probably love dead kids because they love talking about them in every context

I actually lost IQ points reading this. You are a scientific marvel. A creature of true untold stupidity. I must contact David Attenborough at once.

Hey. Just wanted to give you some anon love and support. Sorry people insist on taking everything in bad faith. Your post about vent channels and needing space away from the horrors of reality was spot on. The 'don't you dare look away' mentality has done immeasurable damage to my mental health over the years, and it pisses me off that it's still so prevalent. Thanks for speaking out in support of people taking care of their mental health. It's greatly appreciated. <3

People will always take something in bad faith, for better or worse the world isn't a hivemind. I always look at them as opportunities to educate—and that even if my words don't reach that individual, hopefully they may yet reach someone else.

As I've taken to saying; if you stand too close to the flames you'll choke on the smoke.

Everyone needs respite. Everyone needs spaces which are disallowing of trauma. Everyone loves to talk about how important mental health is until you point out that an individual's mental health takes precedence over their "obligation" to be an activist on behalf of the whole world.

We all need respite. We can't put out fires if we're burning alive ourselves. Its basic humanity.

By the way, as much as things being "widely accepted as fanon lore" is fun, if you deliberately shit on someone and their headcanons or the things they enjoy because it doesn't follow that popular opinion, you are a loathsome piece of trash ruining a beautiful natural landscape.

Fanon being popular does not make it true.

Fanon being popular does not make it the only option.

Fanon being popular does not over-ride canon or fan creativity.

Helloooooo!! Everytime I come across your blog my brain goes "it's Tea!!" And then I open it and see the pinned post and am like "Sephiroth. It's Sephiroth🤦🏽" lol

Hope you have a lovely day, I really enjoy your blog and the information you provide. You're so smart and cool

Ahh shit I'm repeating what Ive said before

You're so thoughtful and your blog brings me lots of joy

K byyye

I am more than willing to be addressed as Tea. ☕

(Honestly, call me as you wish. I'm kind of like a dog that way, say it enough and I'll just associate it with myself!)

I hope you have a lovely lifetime, sweet anon. Call it narcissistic or self-indulgent but I do always love the little messages like this. Especially when I recognise the sender!

Thank you for this, it was a welcome little happy moment.

Me: Hey, so, actually, for the sake of me not killing myself I would actually love spaces where I can play Animal Crossing or share baking recipes or talk about Captain America showing hole for Iron Man without people sending videos of dead children and police brutality and trauma-dumping their personal issues on me. I also think its important over-all for these spaces to exist and be accessible and protected. Random Idiots Online: So you're a white-privileged racist? You know everything is political, right? You want us to just co-exist with bigots? What about my uncle's daughter's best friend's queer goldish?? What about people being blatantly transphobic in the chat? You're just going to say you hate all black people like that? White pig.