Look, I Know Im A Small Fish In A Very Large Pond, But Im Gonna Piggyback Off Of My Betters Here And

Look, I know I’m a small fish in a very large pond, but I’m gonna piggyback off of my betters here and just agree with all that stuff up above. Stop shaming people for their ships. Ship and let ship. It’s not hard. Don’t go into other ships’ tags and be assholes to people. That makes you a troll and a bully. It’s fine to have squicks or even hard nos when it comes to shipping. It’s not okay to attack other people for liking something you don’t. Stop it. There are real people behind these screens. You’re hurting real people when you call them disgusting for reading fiction. 

It’s not up to you to decide whether or not it’s okay for someone else to find something enjoyable if they’re not hurting anyone else. You don’t know the whys behind someone shipping a particular thing or enjoying reading a certain trope or kink. Maybe it’s their way of processing and/or coping with trauma. Maybe they find the dynamics interesting. Perhaps they just like it. No particular reason why. It doesn’t matter. They don’t have to justify their ships, same way you don’t have to justify yours. The difference is they’re not going into your tags, your posts, your fics, or your art and leaving hateful remarks. 

Isn’t there enough hate out in the real world? Why are we bringing it into fandom, too? Hell, the HP fandom in particular already has enough battles to fight with a transphobic creator and quite a few problematic issues in canon, including but not limited to: racism, homophobia, misogyny, and glorified slavery. So please, think before you type. Don’t like? Don’t read. Realize the difference between fiction and reality, and understand that shipping something does not equate to automatically endorsing it in the real world.

And in closing, if you disagree feel free to unfollow me, block me, whatever. I won’t miss antis, and I’m not interested in arguing with haters. One would think we in fandom would know better than this. That having to often justify our love of fandom to begin with, we might be just a bit more compassionate to each other. It’s always disappointing to see ship hate or shaming going on, and it makes me tired. We need to do better, folks. Be kind to each other. It matters, and it can make all the difference in the world.

Look. I don’t usually take part into complicated fandom conversations. I don’t like the drama, I don’t like the hate and asks that come after one does and I don’t feel comfortable with people taking my words and twisting them into meaning I didn’t mean (it has happened before). BUT.

I cannot stay silent anymore. I just can’t. I just saw someone in the fandom that I appreciated and admired for their talent shaming people for what they ship and…. lately it’s happening so fucking often.

I’ll take this opportunity to make a general statement: if you shame people for what they ship, unfollow me. I’m a Harry/Teddy shipper, Draco/Teddy shipper, hell I also ship Harry/Teddy/Draco as a threesome, I’ve read and loved The Evil Devil Child and the Perfect Gift by who_la_hoop which has double incest, both Draco/Scorpius and Harry/Albus Severus and enjoyed it a big deal.

I get it’s not for everyone. That’s valid and everyone has the right to ship and like whoever they want to. But just as you have the right not to like these ships, me and everyone else has the right to like them. WE DO KNOW that they’re not real people, shipping them doesn’t mean we would be incestuous in real life OR that we’re evil.

That’s what had pained me when I got that anon hate about me liking Harry/Teddy: that they said I’m disgusting. How can you throw a personal insult, a personal judgement on me based on what, a fandom ship I like reading and writing about?!

I’m finally taking a position, and writing a post about it, because I’m DEAD SICK of the vibes going around lately in fandom. About how we’re ready to judge and shame people for the ships they like or the kinks they have or like reading about.

God knows how much I suffered because I like Daddy kink as well. People are so ready to judge.

Can we understand, for once, that this is a fictional place? That we’re here to evade reality for a moment, to give a chance to our imagination to run free, to feel free for once?

STOP IT. STOP SHAMING PEOPLE IN FANDOM.

STOP.

IT.

And for the love of God, if you’re antis or have a problem with what I’m saying, UNFOLLOW me.

The 2021 Gender Census is now open!

[ Link to survey ]

The eighth annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 10th March 2021.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, retweet this tweet, boost this Mastodon post, check out this post on Reddit, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks like Facebook. Every share is extremely helpful - it’s what helped us get 24,000 responses last year.

Survey URL: https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/gendercensus2021/

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

Very Drarry Summer Vibes (2020) : Masterlist of complete DRARRY fics

@gwbexchange || official masterpost || AO3 || ∑ = 15 works The Mod(s) : @triggerlil + Banner © : @dr-aco

1. The Coffee House by @corinalannister [G, 1k]

Draco is a struggling Barista and Harry is struggling with his fame. They start to trust each other over time when Harry visits the coffee shop Draco works in.

2. Everything Old is New Again by @rinnwrites [E, 10k]

A year after the war, Draco leaves England with a simple plan: Find a place where no one knows him, get his potions mastery, start a new life. He didn’t count on an obviously exhausted and shockingly studious Harry Potter showing up in his very first class.

3. Forget-Me-Nots and Narcissus by @triggerlil [M, 14k]

in which Draco is overcome by grief, and Harry is there to keep him afloat.

4. Head Full of You by @maesmora [E, 10k]

Harry Potter has a secret, and, just like his first year at Hogwarts, naturally everybody knows. Well, everybody except Draco Malfoy. Enter a bunch of meddling friends, a beach vacation to celebrate graduating their eighth year at school, and being forced to room with the love of his life. […]

5. The morning left us (both defeated) by @jovialobservationanchor [M, 9k]

They’d had dreams, Harry and he. Harry was going to reform the DMLE from the inside. Draco was going to repay a spiritual debt. Now Harry woke up only to get through the day, Draco realized his debt would never be repaid, Harry never smiled anymore, and Draco found himself in the strange position of holding their partnership together.

6. Only Fools Fall (For You) by @welpslytherin [E, 6k]

It’s the summer of ‘98 and a certain blond Slytherin has amends to make and feelings to get over. Featuring skinny dipping, a bold Harry Potter, and a blushing Draco Malfoy.

7. Our Dreams, Our Pride by @ahhhnorealnamesallowed [M, 10k]

For six years, Harry has promised Draco a ‘big thing’ for their anniversary. This year is the year Harry is going to make it happen, even if he does so in a very Harry Potter way. Including last-minute vacation planning, some very sassy old people, a coach bus, and less anniversary sex than expected.

8. Out of the Ashes by Zedrobber [E, 5k]

Draco is self conscious about his Dark Mark and won’t believe that Harry doesn’t hate it - so Harry makes a suggestion that might help, with one condition.

9. Parades, Pansy, and fuck I’m too gay for this by @false-heteros16​ [G, 2k]

After the war, Draco, who had been staying at home like a fucking hermit till Pansy came along, finally finds out about the LGBTQ+ Community, he dives head first into research and is amazed at what he finds. […]

10. Teddy’s Favourite by @iravenish [T, 2k]

It didn’t come as a surprise when Teddy demanded to finally go to the beach. […]

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✔ other fests in 2020 ✔ fests in other years

Happy Trans Visibility Day, y'all! I'm an out and proud trans/nonbinary person, and today I see all my trans family! You are celebrated wherever you are in your journey, friends. 💛

You’re beautiful. True.

You’re soaking wet. Also true.

Little thingy I made for the palette request game for @manixzen 💖 Hope this beach scene makes you happy my love!

first line game

My thanks to @lastontheboat for tagging me! It might’ve taken me ages to get to it, but I do enjoy tag games immensely. This one was rather neat!

Rules:  List the first lines of your last 20 stories (if you have less than 20, just list them all!). See if there are any patterns. Choose your favorite opening line. Then tag 10 of your favorite authors!

1. That Sort of Man - Severus Snape did not enjoy social gatherings, and he loathed being the center of attention.

2. Devious Darling Delights - Draco stepped into his office and shut the door against the mid-morning hustle and bustle that was the bullpen of the DMLE at the Ministry of Magic.

3. Exothermic - Your laugh wraps around me like a blanket, warm from the heat of our bodies in sleep.

4. Brought Low - I remember the day you left.

5. His to Adorn, to Cherish, & to Keep - Draco Malfoy was everything that his husband, Harry Potter, was not.

6. Head Full of You - Harry paused as he caught sight of himself in the mirror.

7. Our Love Language - When I dream of fire,/ I wake to the memory/ of your hand reaching for mine.

8. These Scars We Bare - Harry swirled the solution in one of the trays at the work table in his dark room, waving his wand in a pattern he could’ve done in his sleep at this point in order to completely saturate the photograph currently soaking in it.

9. Only Everything - “What do you want?”

10. Explosions of Varying Magnitudes - “Does that hurt?!”

11. With Loving Care - Harry smiled warmly at the sight of Severus at the hob, fussing with the kettle.

12. Things Worth Doing - Harry glanced furtively over his shoulder towards their currently silent cottage, all the windows dark with Severus having gone to bed hours ago.

13. You Fill My Empty Spaces - Harry tossed back the shot, the liquid burning a path down his throat as he swallowed and slammed the glass onto the bar counter next to several of its empty fellows.

14. Contents Under Pressure - Harry knew that he and Malfoy weren’t exactly enemies anymore, but this was a bit much if you asked him.

15. My Hands in Your Hair - A stream of muttered cursing caught Harry’s ear as he was passing the door to their bedroom, so he paused and poked his head in to see what had Draco in such a snit.

16. Meant to Be - “It’s you,” Draco breathed, his eyes wide in a face drained of color.

17. Minor Adjustments, As Needed - Harry stared at Severus, blinking slowly, his mouth working but no sound emerging.

18. Gifts for Stylish Gits and Reckless Heroes - Draco was going to murder Hermione Granger-Weasley.

19. Desideratum -  Effervescent.

20. Succumb -  Shaking hands.

Some of these are poems or microfics, so any weirdness or especially short ones can be explained away by that, probably. I notice that I tend to write a lot of Harry POVs, or at least start a story with him even if I write multiple POVs within a story. It really doesn’t surprise me that much, though. I relate to Harry the most out of all the characters I tend to write, so his perspective usually feels more natural. I also tend to start off with a character action rather than dialogue, so that’s kinda neat. It’s hard to pick a favorite opening line, but I think I’m going to have to go with the one from My Hands In Your Hair because it amuses me to no end. I’m honestly more intrigued by other people’s favorites. I always wonder which one of my works affect people and how.

There’s no way I’m tagging ten people for this, but if @triggerlil, @eletriptan, @manixzen, @blue-rose-smalls, or any of the rest of y’all want to play along I’d be super interested to see what your trends tend to be, if you have any!