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This used to be me, but the grace of God no longer. They're definitely trying to ruin fatherhood.
This used to be me, but the grace of God no longer. They're definitely trying to ruin fatherhood.
Leonardo Headcanon
Mine: One of Leo’s greatest wishes is to be a father.
I had a hard time picking 2003 or 2012 Leo for this headcanon, but a friend helped me decide.
So, what made me pick 2012 Leo over the 2003 version was just the vibes or hints the show gave that Leo had this fatherly nature. Plus, did you see him holding baby Karai and having tea time with that little girl? That is true dad power.
2003 Leo was also an option since I read a lot of fics that added the wish to be a father to his character. It actually works well with him.
What do you guys think? 😊❤️TMNT
Yo I recently realized that I've never seen or heard of Dustin's father, so if he doesn't have one...
Does this mean that's why he looks up so much to Steve and Eddie? Are they like the dads he never had?! *cries*
sorry if this was a well-known thing already it just came into my mind and it saddened me lol
Jon the future Father
An early hint that it's Jon and not Robb who is destined to carry on the line of House Stark is how GRRM chooses to portray them with children, especially their younger siblings.
It's Jon who advises Bran, gently guides Rickon, comforts and encourages Arya, who is shown jubilant when Bran wakes, who worries about his sisters. It's Jon who gave Bran a fish to take home, Jon who tells Tyrion to comfort Rickon with the promise of "all my things".
GRRM could have given Robb similar scenes to interlink with the way his younger siblings idealize him in his absence. But we get no such thing. He is overwhelmed with Rickon's distress, receives comfort from Bran rather than giving it, leaves Bran behind in the woods, is given zero interaction with his sisters and only mentions them to complain about Sansa's lettter, compassionlessly unable to comprehend her obvious situation. He'll go on to refuse to trade for them, remains focused on his role as Ned's avenging son, rather than as protector of his living family.
While Robb needs an "heir", it is Jon who is described to have dreamed of "children". It's not Robb who mirrors Jon in what he would name his sons, that was only ever Jeyne, the only one whose grief is shown over the lost opportunity. "He liked that, I think." She isn't even sure.
Robb is a warrior king, but GRRM utterly avoids showing him in a position that could be interpreted as fatherly. And he never gets to live long enough to become a father to the next generation of Starks. GRRM makes sure to emphasize that his enemies prevented it from ever happening. He remains the Young Wolf forever.
Jon, meanwhile, is shown in a paternal caring light in his very first appearance.
Jon likes children. He is good with children. He wants children. This matters because of the massive role parenting styles play in the books. Tywin's children are monsters because he made them that way. Ned's children are resilient because he and Catelyn raised them responsibly, lovingly, in spite of some failings.
Jon being emphasized to have the skillset to raise children well is a very important signal that he is fit to have a hand in the next generation of House Stark, that his presence and influence will be not just possible but vital. It's not his "blood and seed" that is required, it is his whole person.
Women Are Physiologically Primed for Parenthood (And So Are Men)
In 2017 The New York Times published a short piece called "The Birth of a Mother." It explored something anthropologists have termed matrescence, or the process of becoming a female parent. The writer noted: "[T]his transition is also significant for fathers . . . , but women who go through the hormonal changes of pregnancy may have a specific neurobiological experience." The nod to fathers is cursory. The "but" that follows makes the sentence's point: that women are the sex hormonally primed for parenthood. This notion is so generally accepted that it escaped the fact-checker's scrutiny. Like most of the conventional wisdom about the hard-core nature of maternal versus paternal parenting, it's also misleading. Men undergo their own neurobiological experience as their babies-to-be gestate. Throughout the prenatal period, men in close contact with pregnant partners are physiologically primed to care for infants. Expectant fathers experience a rise in the levels of the pregnancy-related hormones prolactin, cortisol, and estrogen in proportion to that of their baby's mother. Additionally, testosterone, associated with competition for mates, declines. Second-time fathers produce even more prolactin and less testosterone in the company of a pregnant partner than do first-timers. [...] Throughout their children's lives, involved fathers continue to experience hormonal changes. In North America, men in long-term relationships like marriage and fatherhood almost uniformly have lower testosterone levels than their single and childless counterparts. [...] As anthropologist Sarah Hrdy observes in Mothers and Others: "Men are physiologically altered just from spending time in intimate association with pregnant mothers and new babies. To me, this implies that care by males has been an integral part of human adaptation for a long time. Male nurturing potentials are there, encoded in the DNA of our species. [...] [In the late '70s], psychologist Ross Parke and colleagues studied fathers of newborns in maternity wards. For most of the behaviors his team measured, fathers and mothers hardly differed. Men spoke to babies in high-pitched voices and responded with sensitivity to infant cues during feeding. They also exhibited patterns similar to their wives when holding their children. The major difference Parke observed was that fathers, unlike mothers, took a step back from their child's care in the presence of their spouse. [...] In a study that measured response times and hormone levels in parents listening to infant cries, mothers and fathers were equally reactive to wails of distress (recordings of baby boys being circumcised). When the cries were fussy rather than pained, mothers' physiological responses and then also their reaction times were a little quicker than fathers', though fathers' responses were quicker than those of childless adults.
- Darcy Lockman (All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, pages 82-83, 83, 84, 85, 86)
-Page 1 Anchor Headline (The Indian Express, Sep 21, 2022)
Kestrel-dad not sure how to dad but he’s trying his best.
by @smallthingsgrow
"I wanted to pair this piece with a caption about how Palestinian men deserve our attention and compassion as much as Palestinian women and children but writing this was all I had in me today. The thing about being a mother is that writing about the suffering of anyone's child, whether they're 4 or 40, leaves me cracked open. I appreciate when you all feel into those spaces with me. We are nothing if not a we."
Celebrating Father's Day: Honouring Dads, Father Figures, and More Shaina Tranquilino June 18, 2024
As Father's Day is here, it's a time not just to celebrate dads but to recognize all those who play a paternal role in our lives. Whether you're a biological dad, a stepfather, an adoptive father, a father figure, or even a mom who's taken on both roles, this day is for you.
Honouring Dads:
To all the dads out there, Happy Father's Day! Your presence in our lives means more than words can express. From teaching us how to ride a bike to imparting life's most important lessons, your guidance shapes us into who we are today. Your sacrifices and unwavering support are truly priceless. Today, we celebrate you and all that you do.
Father Figures:
To the mentors, uncles, grandfathers, and older brothers who step up when needed, you are invaluable. Your influence extends far beyond biological ties, showing us that fatherhood is defined by love, care, and guidance. Your role in shaping our character and values is immeasurable. Thank you for being there, always.
Those Who Want to Be Dads:
To those who aspire to be dads or are on the journey to fatherhood, your anticipation and excitement are palpable. Your commitment to nurturing and loving future generations make you fathers in heart and spirit. Your day is a celebration of hope and anticipation for the joys of fatherhood that lie ahead.
Mothers Playing Both Roles:
To the incredible moms who take on the role of both parents, your strength and resilience are awe-inspiring. You juggle the responsibilities of provider, protector, and mentor with grace and determination. Your unconditional love and selflessness exemplify the very essence of parenthood. Today, we acknowledge and honour your tireless efforts.
A Day of Reflection and Gratitude:
Father's Day is not just about gifts and cards; it's about reflecting on the profound impact fatherhood has on individuals and society as a whole. It's a reminder to express our gratitude to those who have shaped us, supported us, and loved us unconditionally. Whether through biological connection or chosen family, fatherhood transcends biology to touch the core of our humanity.
As we celebrate Father's Day, let's take a moment to thank all the dads, father figures, and those aspiring to be fathers. Your love, strength, and guidance enrich our lives in ways that words cannot fully capture. Today, and every day, we honour you for the invaluable role you play in shaping the future and nurturing the present. Happy Father's Day!