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If anyone’s curious this comment from a vid called HOW I GOT RID OF (Obsessive Anxious Thinking & Painful Rumination)
The channel is called bignoknow - Noah Thomas
Yesternight I touched on how most if not all of the morning routine content out there is complete bs simply because it is just not, sustainable.
Most advice out there is really good, yes, for a rough month before you tire of it. It is difficult to keep up with a ten step skin care routine and hundred step morning routine especially as a woman simply because you will not feel the same every day. The hard part will be having to fight your moods and while it will build character, everyday is not it. You are a woman. You are ever changing. Physically. Mentally. Spiritually. That's why most things don't last, you just outgrow them easily. Why? They lack sustainability.Â
You want longevity.
You do not want to start working out and give up in a month, no,you want to do that for life. You do not want to only study during school nights . You do not want to do things for the short term. How do we do this? We build realistic, sustainable, unbeatable systems into the life we are already living. Into the life we are already living is the key word here. I talked once on how it is easier to drop bad habits than implement new ones based on the energy it takes to make yourself do something versus holding yourself back . This is very similar. Take it this way. Say your goals are
-Lose weight
-Get fitÂ
-Learn Dutch
-Dress elegantly
You could implement new routines and systems to hit the goal. You could start working out at 5 am and take an online dutch course and pick your outfits night before. All good advice, yes. All lacking since maintaining longevity especially at the beginning is hard. BUT if you choose to do the grocery shopping you already do in person and walk around the grocery store and take the long way home carrying your bags, you will probably get fit and lose some weight doing what you already do. If you take the stairs you'll be a little bit flexible, just the tiniest bit more fit. If you commit to commuting by foot absorbing sunlight everyday, you might just reach that goal- and it is sustainable. Very, sustainable. Taking an online course is absolutely helpful but you already watch movies and if you watched movies in Dutch with native subtitles I promise you will learn some dutch. If you listen to dutch music you might just get it. Doing something you already do everyday anyway. Yes pre picking an outfit the night before works BUT only having great outfits will save you so much time and is very sustainable. If your closet has the right basics and right layers you need three minutes to put something together, no???
SUSTAINABILITY is the name of the game.Â
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Just in case this needs to be said:
It’s the first draft. Use the word “suddenly.” Put as many dialogue tags and adverbs as you want. Say “he saw” “she remembered” “she felt” “they wondered” as many times as you need to. Put the em dash there, put in too many commas, use semi-colons with reckless abandon. Type in [whatever] instead of thinking up a title for something. Just write it. If you worry too much about the particulars, about all the advice posts you’ve seen saying whatever you’re doing is wrong or not good enough, you won’t get anything done. It will slow you down as you go back and try to reword what you just wrote to make it better, proper. The first draft doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be done. And when you get to the end, you’ll find that all those “mistakes” are just clues for your future self to put together to make it all better.
Putting in adverbs and certain dialogue tags are a note for you as to who is saying something and how they’re saying it. When you’re editing, you can make sure it shows through the story instead. The word “suddenly” is a reminder to make things more abrupt. The first draft is just you mapping out where you want to go and how you want to get there. Don’t waste time trying to get it 100% right now, because then it will never get done. Don’t think too much– just write. Save the thinking for editing later.
For most people, life doesn’t truly begin until they’re 26-30. The way we romanticize and obsess over youth is super harmful. Your life is not over at 21, I promise you. It’s just beginning
If you're lamenting the fact that you used to be able to shoot through a 500-page novel in like a day when you were in middle school and now you can't, it's worth bearing in mind that a big part of that is because when you were in middle school, your reading comprehension sucked. Yes, mental health and the stresses of adult life can definitely be factors, but it's also the case that reading is typically more effortful as an adult because you've learned to Ponder The Implications. The material isn't just skimming over the surface of your brain anymore, and some of the spoons you used to spend on maximising your daily page count are now spent on actually thinking about what you're reading!
reminder that's okay to not have theriotype's animalistic behaviours and just identifying as certain animal because it feels right and feels like real you. It's okay because, how are you supposed to behave like your species, little creature, when nobody taught you to? Animals in the wild are learning from their parents and surroundings, not just from being one. We were raised by humans, taught human behaviour even if we aren't one.
little creature, maybe your instincts are deep inside of you because of your own safety? little creature, your identity is valid because it's you
You are entirely made of love. You are entirely made with love. Every single cell of your body is filled with a desire to keep on living and to keep on loving you. Your soul is made from the pure breath that makes the world go round, the wind that makes the waves break. Everything in you is made with love and care. There is nothing you can do about it, you are Loved by Love Itself. There is no way you could look that would make you be loved more or less, there is no way you could sound to make you be loved even more or less. I love you. I love you.
Barnes: Honestly, you're doing a lot better than I expected.
Lockwood: It feels like all I managed to do is... not die...
Barnes: Believe me, that is a remarkably rare skill.
posted this on tiktok now everyone is crying
