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Remadora being all lovey-dovey 🥰❤️💖

More Remadora cuteness for u🥰

"You are a good dancer, Remus. A really good one~"

"Are you flirting with me, Miss Nymphadora?"

"For Merlin's sake, we're a bloody married couple!"

"Oh, yes, it was certainly a flirt!"

I ship Wolfstar

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Remadora

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i did not deserve to be called out like that

Okay, but am I the only one who thinks that JKRowling literally had zero motivation for making Remus and Nymphadora MARRY each other and have a CHILD togheter?

It could have been simpler. Introducing a new female character to be Remus's love interest (maybe someone his fucking AGE.)

It just makes Remus look like a fucking p£d0. Like he probably saw Dora when she was a child (since Sirius and Andromeda were friends so maybe they stayed in contact.)

ok can you explain why Nymphadora and Remus belong together? It feels like they came out of nowhere in the books

Honestly? No.

I read all the books, every single one, practically as soon as they came out, I've read all of them at least twice, and still that particular pairing took me so much by surprise I actually wondered if I missed something, skipped sections on the story and didn't notice it.

Really, I think the earliest reference I consciously remember seeing (in the books) is in relation to Tonks' patronus, and even then, it's written in such a way that you can think it's related to Sirius being dead. Especially because at that point in the narrative, they were going into that, into Harry's grief over his death.

I think they're the sort of pairing that's supposed to have formed in the background, kind of like Fleur and Bill.

Now, I'm not saying they couldn't have been good together. And I'm saying could and not are/were, because we see so little of them... Tonks clearly cared for Remus deeply, she didn't care at all that he was a wolf, was willing to form a family with him despite how difficult it might be, and that's noble.

He... he wasn't a bad person, though he clearly had his issues, considering that he tried to leave her at least once (or twice, depending on how you see the second time). All the years spent on the edges, not really being part of society clearly affected him, and the way he was raised to believe he was less because of his condition didn't help either. Also, the war going on, the constant danger, didn't do them any favors so...

In my worst days I might even think that they were just there to add to the drama. I mean, I totally understand that it's war, people die, of course. People lose their loved ones, parents lose their children, children their parents, etc. But considering that we didn't see pretty much any of the development of their story straight out. And then the way it ended. It feels like they were just put together to create more drama when they were killed-off in the battle.

The fact that there's even a scene in the movie (which isn't in the books) that seems to show the moment right before they die, and the way they show their bodies afterwards just seems to confirm this theory to me.

So, that's what I think, I could be wrong. And I've no doubt that the big fans of the pairing will love to fight me on my ideas, but that's fine as well. This is, after all, just my opinion. In the end, I'm just a reader, my having an interpretation of what I read doesn't mean it's the only one there can be.

Yall

I'm so new here I have no idea how the hell this thing works

I'm not panicking

*sweats nervously*

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I can imagine Tonks just hugging Remus's wolf form to sleep 🤧 and that makes me cry

this is remadora to me

This low key reminds me of teddy Lupin and I Love that. He is like the best next gen character and yes I'm willing to fight anyone who has a problem with that.I'm not even that much of a next gen fan but this is my child like his parents maybe dead but I'm not.

I love my sweet disaster bi Remus Lupin and I would die for him okay that’s all

No bc now all I wanna do is rant about the misogyny in this fandom. Which like my last post was about golden trio fans but like,, marauders fans aren’t exempt from that?? If anything they’re just more sly about it. Like yeah ok there’s sapphic ships, by why is it that when I go through their tags on ao3 they’re always just the supporting relationship for the mlm couple?? And yeah ok you won’t straight up hate a female character for getting in the way of your gay ship, instead you’ll kill her off, make her the surrogate, maybe you’ll keep the straight ship together but only after the other half to the mlm ship died so he’s left depressed and never getting over him and she’s left to be a rebound for the rest of her life making everyone miserable!! or you’ll throw her in a relationship with the closest woman so you can’t be called out for fetishising gay men.

Basically what I think I’m trying to say is there’s people in this fandom who I feel like use sapphic ships to try and compensate for their weird obsession with gay men and it doesn’t sit right with me.

Before I finish this rant though I feel like I need to say that I’m aware this looks very targeted at jegulus fans, but this applies just as much to wolfstar as it does jegulus. I’m also not saying that everyone who ships them are fetishising gay men or are misogynistic. Ship who you want, it’s not who you ship that I’m judging it’s how you treat the female characters that might get in the way of said ship.

an old sketch of my beloved puppies

I've been thinking about how much I adore Tonks and Remus' dynamic but physically cannot ship them because my brain is being weird about their fucking age gap. this is so frustrating. they would have been so lovely for me if Tonks was like at least 27 in 5th book. Ronks (yeah I'm not calling it Remadora, Tonks hates her birth name ffs) would have been my ride-or-die alongside Jily and Wolfstar for sure.

because literally nothing else that Ronks antis consider deal breakers for them matters to me - not the fumbled way they get together in canon, not them getting married so quickly, not Tonks getting pregnant, not the assumed queer-coding of both characters (which I personally see, don't get me wrong. but it's assumed and who the fuck says they can't be queer4queer anyway?). sure, the nuclear family narrative being pushed so quickly and thoroughly onto them is peculiar but who says they didn't want to make the most of their time during a war? I love wartime drama and they would have been my shit if it weren't for... well. Tonks being 22 and Remus 35 when they meet.

I just can't ship big age gaps unless the youngest character is closer to 30 than 20. which is infuriating, because Ronks is objectively more fascinating because of their gap. my fucking loss, don't you think?

anyway, after thinking of ways I can make Tonks older without hurting the story, I began wondering whether her age is narratively important, and yes, turns out it very much is - for Harry.

Tonks being 22 in order of phoenix makes her the closest of Order members to Harry's age (Weasley twins don't count because they're Ron's brothers first, order members second for Harry) and the one Order member Harry can relate to the most in his youth and desire to fight. She almost perfectly parallels marauders and Lily in first war and represents the fun of the fight, the fire of youth, the confidence of a new recruit, the safety of relatability for Harry. She's one of the biggest inspirations for his newfound dream of becoming an auror. Harry needs Tonks among those older, battle-worn, cautious, secretive adults who don't take him seriously and never look him in the eye, because he wants to be what she is even before realising it and only reflects on it after spending time with her.

all in all, Tonks being 22 matters quite a lot for Harry's story.

now, we have no way of knowing whether Joanne came up with Ronks storyline prior to Tonks' introduction, but it shouldn't matter for their relationship, not in Joanne's opinion - Tonks' youth already fulfilled its narrative role in order of phoenix and stopped being an important asset of her character in half-blood prince.

oh, but unfortunately it still matters in the grand scheme of things, Joanne. you don't just introduce a young adult character (I'm 21 myself and gods, 22/23 is barely more mature), chuck their established age out the window and pair them up with a character in their mid-to-late thirties. and of fucking course it makes sense for a 23 year old to be down bad for some scruffy 36 year old man, it's incredibly realistic! this 36 year old man acting upon such crush is a little questionable, but still realistic (and we know Remus is very flawed, so I'm not surprised). but you know what isn't realistic at all?

Molly - a 46 year old woman, married to her high school sweetheart, mother to 7 children, 3 of which are close to Tonks' age - being extremely supportive of actually engaging in that sort of relationship, going as far as reprimanding Remus for not committing to it. I'm sorry, what? Molly might have some flaws as a mother, but she is nothing if not protective of her kids and those in their age range. She genuinely becomes somewhat of a mother figure for Tonks during their time in the Order, and I just cannot for the life of me understand how Molly could encourage her to pursue Remus and vice-versa, instead of consoling Tonks in her tragic crush and making sure Remus doesn't even look at her like that.

Minerva - an even older woman who taught both Remus and Tonks at Hogwarts, witnessed Remus becoming an adult from his graduation in 1978 up until 1981, then saw an 11 year old Tonks start Hogwarts 3 years later in 1984 - chiding Remus for not being "brave" enough to commit to such relationship. first of all, why the fuck is she involved in that narrative at all? it's none of her business??? she's not in any pseudo parenting role for either of them, unlike Molly, so I never understood why she even has a place to voice her opinion about their romance. second of all, even if it was her business, Minerva - a professor who witnessed both Remus and Tonks grow up so many years apart - would realistically feel pretty weird about such relationship.

those aren't problems with the ship itself, but rather the way Joanne implemented their romance in the story. I think it would be more realistic if Ronks was some kind of fucked up forbidden romance from other characters' perspectives. the way everybody is so instantly supportive of them is quite jarring to me.

interestingly, when I read hp for the first time at 11 I was quite adamant in my belief that Tonks was in love with Molly up until that scene in half-blood prince. a very weird belief for a kid, I know. I just only liked girls at the time and was relating to Tonks quite a bit since her introduction, so I guess I unconsciously decided she was a lesbian even without knowing that term yet. I also had a crush on my teacher in 4th grade and she was quite similar to Molly... yeah, this girl was projecting too much. I didn't pick up on Remus' queer-coding until I fell down the rabbit hole of lgbt discourse at 14, but was pretty shocked to read about Tonks falling for a man at 11. she was so like me until she wasn't :) it's pretty funny to think about now.

in conclusion, I'm hella jealous of those of you who don't have weird brains and can enjoy Ronks to their fullest potential. their canon writing has its issues but they're more interesting for it, truly. I'll stay in my no fun corner, headcanoning them as lavender married, queer-platonic, bisexual besties co-parenting Teddy Alastor Tonks.