What Would Make Someone Want To Stay In A Relationship Like That?

“What would make someone want to stay in a relationship like that?”

It’s been two years tonight, as of this very moment. Two years since the first time I hated him for a minute. 

It took the worst thing that ever happened to me to get me to even consider leaving.  And it still took me a year.  

hi! im a survivor of domestic abuse also, and i just wanted to say thank you. one of your posts showed up in my recommended and i clicked on ur blog, and i just. im so happy? ive been in a downward spiral lately and your posts about recovery really gave me hope. (especially the one about pierogi!). so anyways, i just wanted to thank you. ok bye ^w^

Hi there!  

I’m sorry you have gone through this hell.  Downward spirals are, regrettably, all a part of the healing process.  There’s some horrendous moments, and some horrendous weeks.  I know that hearing that doesn’t help you feel better in that moment, but it does get easier to manage.  Hopefully knowing that This Too Shall Pass helps?And you really are so strong.  

Hope, validation and the love of my friends kept me from succumbing to the dark.  I’m glad I could give you a little of that. Lean on your people, if you got ‘em.  If you don’t, keep reaching out.    Wishing you the best.

ready for female bodies to stop being treated as inherently pornographic right about now

The woman I've had some successful dates with currently lives in a town adjacent to his home town. Upon fb investigation, some of her friends went to his highschool.

So I'm in a panic of course.

Im going through and blocking any fringe people who may make connections. I stumbled across his Dad's fb, and curiosity got the best of me.

There is a pic of him, his sisters and his dad at a hockey game. He has a beard now. It sort of suits him.

He looks happy. And I have that age old ache in me.

But then I remember that he's probably sitting there complaining about the cold, the food, and the crappy seats his parents made him pay for.

I look a little closer at his eyes and they look the same. He's the same.

I've just blocked his dad and I feel nothing.

No Answer

Silly old emo song sent me into a flashback.

Once I was certain he’d walked away and was done with his rampage I’d take a moment to breathe before trying to stand up and evaluate the damage . 

More frequently as time went on I would think the same thing:  How did it come to this?

Hunting

My new found self worth tells me I should be making more money.

This could end up being a problem.