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That Discord Server Post Made Me Remember The Stark Difference Between Serverstuck (a Minor Populated

That discord server post made me remember the stark difference between Serverstuck (a minor populated server) and Degrees of Lewdity (strict adult-only server)

Serverstuck has the worst mods and owner I've seen because they're all Antis and abuse the rules by excusing anyone who are close to them & punishing others who are strangers, lying to people on why some got banned, and allowed sensitive political topic go unregulated

Degrees of Lewdity, despite filled with people who has crude & cursed-level sense of humor, has strict mods & owner, write the correct information on why some people are banned or muted (they even allow users to request to be ban from the server for mental health reasons), and immediately shut down any conversation of sensitive political topics that cause infighting between members

I feel safer in a server for an adult game development than a "minor friendly" homestuck rp server

While I do welcome servers that have a mixed age range, I don't think I've ever or will ever join a server moderated or owned by someone who is either/both an anti or a minor.

To run or moderate a server you need to be impartial, objective, socially aware, able to appropriately manage conflict and relatively socially seasoned. I've personally found most minors often lack or are incapable of most if not all of these qualities.

(And that's not me hating on minors or calling them ignorant. Some of those qualities are just things you learn or develop with age and time. Some adults never learn them at all, even, but they are qualities you need if you're going to, essentially, be in charge of other people.)

Sephiroth's Server Safety Tips

Always do a thorough check into who is advertising the server, who owns the server, and other members before joining a server where possible.

Once you've joined the server, immediately use the search function to look for key words related to topics you want to avoid, possible past conflict, bullying, ect.

Immediately check the server rules. Its a red flag in itself if the server doesn't have any. Also, 'just be nice' is not a rule. Servers should have clear, clean cut rules and regulations.

Don't be afraid to message server owners, moderators or users privately and ask questions. They shouldn't get offended and if they can't or won't answer questions about basic rules, server safety protocols, ect, you should reconsider joining.

Don't be afraid to ask around other people to see if the server is known or has a reputation, either. If a server is based on a specific fandom, for example, search through that fandom for any past mentions of the server or ask other fans if they've heard of it.

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1 year ago

By the way if you're creating a space like a private group chat or a Discord server it is absolutely your responsibility to make sure that space is safe.

It is your responsibility to moderate it. To regulate the behavior displayed within it. To take action when people create harm. You cannot just create this space then wash your hands of any responsibility for what happens within it.

I keep seeing so many teens making servers and chats and groups and then whining that they're getting bullied for not doing anything when people use them to cause harm and upset and I cannot stress this enough.

You are responsible for shutting that down. Or for sourcing someone to do it on your behalf. You have control of that space. You are not just an innocent bystander.

"Anything goes here, if you're offended just leave" is absolutely not an excuse for blatantly allowing things like harassment, bullying, racism, homophobia and other targeted hate.

Discord in particular is incredible for available resources for preventing things like this. There are literally hundreds of server bots you can deploy to auto-moderate and manual moderation is as easy as two little clicks.

If you feel you're responsible enough to be in the position of power of creating a space, you are responsible enough to ensure it is not used for harm.

And if you're not?

Well.


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1 year ago

If you tell victims they need to be ashamed of how they cope with or heal from their trauma and that they need to be hidden and silent about it because you disagree with it or it makes you uncomfortable, you do not care about victims. You care about your own comfort and consider it more valuable than theirs.


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1 year ago

Pro-shippers talk about not having to apply morality to works of fiction and that’s true but also you don’t even have to apply morality to your interests. If you’re interested in fucked up shit? Cool, you rock! As long as no one is being harmed at any capacity? Read your horror porn! Ship those brothers to hell and back! You don’t need to be deeply traumatized to enjoy fucked up fiction. I’m pretty sure tumblr and twitter are the only two places this is an insane concept.

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1 year ago

your post about fanfiction making it out to be the only source of free literature is insane. go to a library

Your inability to comprehend what you're reading is insane. So here it is simplified:

Fanfiction is writing. Writing is good. Free writing is even better. Fanfiction is not worth less than "professional" writing. If you'd pay for a book you can pay for fanfiction. Fanfiction = literature. 0 difference between book and fanfiction. If you say fanfiction isn't "real writing" you are stupid.

Also, libraries are sorely underfunded, underappreciated and also misunderstood in terms of the vast range of what they can offer. I love libraries. Support your local library please and thank you.


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1 year ago

Me: hey so actually if real victims of incest, rape, grooming, ect tell you its really dehumanising to be told we're no different to literal 2D characters who do not exist, maybe you should listen

Antis: fucking kill yourself you ugly little pedo defender stop jacking off to little kids and wanting to fuck your dad


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