Im Using A Concept With My Therapist Called "emotional Vomit" Just Things You Say And Do When You Are

im using a concept with my therapist called "emotional vomit" just things you say and do when you are in a state that you don't want to have to deal with after you are finished - I have a password protected side blog for that shit so afterwards I don't have to do any clean up when I feel better cause if you emotionally vomit on other people you would get the same disgusted reaction as if you actually vomited on another person when there is a TOILET RIGHT THERE

Emotional vomit paired with reflection exercises and discussions is actually a very common technique used in therapy to help promote self-reflection, understanding and the ability to manage your emotions and actions better in the future.

Its also something you can do at home, or you can ask your therapist to do of your own accord. You don't even necessarily have to only write things down or record yourself when you're in a high-emotion state. You can do it as and when.

I know a lot of excuses reasons for people wanting things like vent channels in servers is because they may not necessarily have that easily accessible outlet in their daily life, or because they feel they need outside input and sympathy for their suffering, but recruiting online strangers to be your unpaid therapists and emotional dumpsters is just overall iffy at best.

"If you're a proshipper you should kill yourself!"

Sure, but I have social anxiety and I can't do it alone so I'll have to kill you at the same time.

Is true that people might take less serious some irl problems because of the desensitization that they gained from fiction

(I hope that this question makes sense)

No. Desensitisation happens through prolonged exposure regardless of the source. However, desensitisation is not inherently the problem. It doesn't necessarily matter if something is no longer shocking because we are so used to seeing it. It matters that despite it no longer being shocking, we still acknowledge that it is wrong and is something we need to take action against.

For example, while photos of bombings and dead bodies may no longer give you the same shock value, you can still resonate with the fact that it is an awful thing, right? Its not shocking anymore, because you know it happens and you know what it looks like, but it doesn't disincentivise you from taking action.

We live in a world that is constantly barraging us with gore, violence, bigotry and death. Its only natural that after a certain point we may not have the same visceral reactions to it as we once did. However, it should not impact the choices you make regarding what you do about those things.

I'd never see someone gunned down in the street and shrug it off because I'm so used to action movies and Call of Duty. That's just not how it works.

Antis try to argue that fiction affects reality saying that representation matters, but they're contradicting themselves. Most fanfiction has some kind of representation (mostly queer) but they don't count them as actual representation, because they know it doesn't have the same reach as, say, a movie or TV series, and yet they argue that fanfic portraying something bad will have a huge impact??? I swear, they don't even think before talking

My favorite thing is when people try to argue that fiction absolutely does reflect reality but every single example they give is when reality is affecting fiction. Reality dictating what is depicted in fiction, and not the other way around.

That or when their only go-to example of fiction actually affecting reality is Jaws.

In fact, people need to remember that characters in gacha games are commodities no matter what gender. They are pixels. They don't care. Sexualisation of a male character is always encouraged among fandom. It's normal. Female sexualisation is a puritanical thing.

What a way to say you just didn't read the original post at all, my god.

"Sexualisation of male characters is always encouraged among fandom!"

My brother in christ they removed a pant zipper because women were sexualising a male character. Women in fandom spaces are still constantly and routinely shamed for the male characters they lust after or enjoy. Women in fandom spaces are still constantly told they're "only in fandom to thirst after the male characters." Men fantasising about female characters is normal but women fantasising about male characters is cringy and desperate and pathetic.

I know video game characters are pixels. That's not the point. The discussion is about real people and how sexism toward the real people (women) playing these games is still present.

I want to ask about stoping the anti cycle.. I’m a people pleaser and had other proship accounts abandoned cause I let antis get into my head.. how do I know for sure this time I won’t fail again with this account and stay strong?

By simply recognising that you will never actually please those people. They do not care about you, and they never will, even if you "reform" and become "one of them."

You will also be the icky ex-proshipper in their eyes. You will always have to atone for the sins of your past. You will always be the wooden stakes upon which they light the sacrificial fire.

Nobody in the anti community can ever actually agree on what is and is not acceptable and where to draw the line. Its why the 'antiship AO3' crashed and burnt before it even took off. None of them could actually form a solid agreement on what was permissible and why.

Questions To Ask Yourself

If they're genuinely just trying to protect people, why are they using abusive tactics, harassment, confrontation and aggression?

What exactly are they hoping to accomplish by hounding you or harassing you or bullying you?

If the outcome of you deleting your blog because of them worth it? What is gained versus what is lost by allowing them to chase you away?

What are you teaching them by allowing them to bully you away?