Actually I'm Gonna Unleash My Frustrations Here A Little Bit And Say That If You're Doing A Roleplay

Actually I'm gonna unleash my frustrations here a little bit and say that if you're doing a roleplay or co-authoring a fic and you find yourself embodying one or more of the following statements:

Only I can make all the decision and choices and anything you try to input I veto or aggressively challenge until you back down.

My character is the ultimate Mary Sue and yours has to pander to mine constantly.

My character is super super intelligent and talented and pretty and everyone loves them and they're superior in every single way.

If I'm not interested in what you just sent I'm going to send the most half-assed replies and passive aggressively hope you strive to meet my unspoken demands and expectations.

Super hyper stereotypes where my character is the super precious submissive uwu bean slut and yours is the mega possessive alpha muscle man dominant.

Sit back and consider if you should really be involving other people or acting that way.

(The last one may seem like personal preference but I usually find its inherently tied with points two and three.)

Re: pet evacuation

I don't know how you'd do it with other creatures since I've never had any, but I've always trained my dogs to come find me immediately when they hear the fire alarm. Not too hard with food motivated creatures; give them a tasty treat whenever they hear a fire alarm and they'll learn to search you out real damn fast when they hear it. You start out more often so they learn what to do and what everything means, but now I just reinforce it every once in a while.

Sending this ask bc so many people are so daunted by how to approach this type of training that they just never do it; maybe it'll help take away some of the "holy shit how the fuck do I even do that" panic

Pretty much any animal can be trained via food. Animals are extremely motived by food due to the instinctual drive to eat to survive and eat what they can, when they can.

Training an animal just takes time, effort and consistency. In the future I'll probably compile a list of resources for people who are interested in training their animals with emergency protocols and desensitization.

Training your dog to come to you or go to the front door in emergencies is a good place to start

my disabilities chilled the fuck out when i got out of my toxic household I recommend a space of calm for everyone

People are genuinely acting like if there is one single space in the entire world where you are simply allowed to be at peace with other people then society as we know it will collapse and everyone who isn't a multi-millionaire will perish.

"If you're a proshipper you should kill yourself!"

Sure, but I have social anxiety and I can't do it alone so I'll have to kill you at the same time.

im using a concept with my therapist called "emotional vomit" just things you say and do when you are in a state that you don't want to have to deal with after you are finished - I have a password protected side blog for that shit so afterwards I don't have to do any clean up when I feel better cause if you emotionally vomit on other people you would get the same disgusted reaction as if you actually vomited on another person when there is a TOILET RIGHT THERE

Emotional vomit paired with reflection exercises and discussions is actually a very common technique used in therapy to help promote self-reflection, understanding and the ability to manage your emotions and actions better in the future.

Its also something you can do at home, or you can ask your therapist to do of your own accord. You don't even necessarily have to only write things down or record yourself when you're in a high-emotion state. You can do it as and when.

I know a lot of excuses reasons for people wanting things like vent channels in servers is because they may not necessarily have that easily accessible outlet in their daily life, or because they feel they need outside input and sympathy for their suffering, but recruiting online strangers to be your unpaid therapists and emotional dumpsters is just overall iffy at best.

I wonder if some of the controversy over the idea of vent channels is less about being able to discuss topics and more about throwing the topics out as bait. People want to vet other users by gauging their reactions to the topics, to make sure they have "the right opinions."

Because there's no other reason I can think of for why people in half-a-dozen servers need a vent channel in every single one. It's not that they want to discuss the topic. (That compulsion would be met with one server.) It's that they want to discuss the topic with different groups of people. Because they require an echo chamber where they know everyone is on the same page as them. (Or they self-destructively want to debate if they find out someone does not agree.)

Which is ridiculous because if you're in a space for a fandom, all that should matter is that a person likes that fandom and you like their opinions as relevant to it. I think it's a chronically online take that a person should have the same outlook on every single topic as you. I can be friends with coworkers while never bringing up controversial topics (mostly because it's actually against company policy). Sometimes, all you need is a vibe check.

Yes, there are big issues that could make or break a fandom friendship you have with someone. But since it is not relevant to the fandom, maybe just assume they agree with you on every level and judge them based on other, immediate behavior. Or assume they hold every single "wrong" opinion and determine if you could live with that. However, as relevant to strictly fandom discussion, it really doesn't matter. At all.

I honestly have nothing to add to this. You're right.